98. For You: Saying No.
Babies…why is it so hard to say no? Jess and Caroline are going to break it down. First up, saying no to an old friend who you don’t vibe with anymore. Second, how to say no to your mom when she’s pushing religion on you. Third, how to say no to…yourself. They talk dynamics, they talk showing up calmly, they talk boundaries. And they push back when necessary.Plus, are they really scientists? They discuss a few lighter topics like stretching, pigeons (!?), and Jess gives her own example of saying no recently—and how that was turned on its head. We’re all not for everyone; “no” is a central part of the phrase.__This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyAnd don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
14 Marras 20241h 23min
97. Not for the Silent Treatment + The Ups and Downs of Being Podcast Partners
Who’s ready to get meta?! Jess and Caroline reflect on their podcast partnership—on their growth, their dynamic, and their challenges. They answer one of their most-asked questions: what was the process of picking each other as podcast partners? And liken the experience to a marriage. They discuss how they work out dilemmas in their personal relationships, the contrast between problem solving and listening, and how pausing during an argument can help people articulate better. Plus, a complaint about DNA and a *real* group therapy update. Thanks for coming along on the ride! This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
7 Marras 20241h 4min
96. Not for Pumpkins + Letting People Who Hurt You Back Into Your Life
Visit https://cozyearth.com/notforeveryone and use our exclusive 40% off code NOTFOREVERYONE. __ Happy Halloween! Let’s complain about it. Jess opens the episode with a specific fall issue that needs to be aired, Caroline talks the dynamics of crafting, and then the two commiserate over their clumsiness, which has resulted in the breaking of sentimental items. Plus, neighborly decorum, coffee shop decorum, and airport decorum are discussed in the face of a few annoying experiences. Things get deep when Jess brings up a friend who ghosted her years ago, who’s suddenly reappeared in Jess’s life. When can we relent on boundaries? And when is the excuse “I’ve had a lot going on” actually justified? Plus, we’ve got a group therapy “update,” thoughts on a nice review, and some sports thoughts! You got that right—we’re now a traveling basketball/lacrosse tour. Go team! https://open.spotify.com/show/1s4vovGkxJZI1JVtXiR0Ot This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
31 Loka 20241h 20min
95. Not for Difficult Personalities + Applying Our Own Advice on Boundaries
Get 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/freenotforeveryone. __Who has two thumbs, hosts a podcast, and is ready to put their own advice to use? Jess and Caroline! C takes us through two boundaries she set this past week and how she felt doing it, and J discusses the ups and downs of moving in with her partner. Hypotheses are nothing without experiments!Plus, the pair ruminate on decorating with a partner and the language of design, before diving into thoughts on an upcoming group therapy session for C. And don’t miss their brief discussion on haunted forests and Medieval Times…lots of big kahunas in this episode.P.S. Listen to Amanda Montell’s Magical Overthinkers podcast, wherever you get yours!__This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __Share with a friend!Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app!Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePodPlus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more:@not4everyonepod@thegoodsitter@jzdebakeyAnd don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/__Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA__DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
24 Loka 20241h 22min
94. Love Letter: Getting Honest With Yourself, Compromising on Kids, and Ranking Potatoes
Visit skims.com and let them know we sent you! Select Not For Everyone after checkout. __ This week the lover is alone in a hotel room with the sniffles, and she just needs a little bit of self care time. Away from the stressors of home ownership and work dinners, it's just her and your topic submissions tonight. First, a WHATADO on setting boundaries with parents - which Jess decides to treat as an opportunity to challenge the listener in question. Sure sure, boundaries shmoundaries, but are you being honest with yourself? The projection continues as Jess reflects on recent conflicts in which "I" statements were not in use, then dives into the nuances of deciding whether or not to be a parent. But a solo episode from the lover wouldn't be complete without a number of lukewarm takes and complaints, mostly on the topic of food. Please be good to yourselves - it be hard out here lately 💜 __ This episode was produced by your lover, Jess DeBakey. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
17 Loka 202452min
93. Not for Fireworks + What to Say to Your Friend in a Toxic Relationship
This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today. __ This is an episode of complaints, and it starts out with a new long-titled segment about places where people are not allowed to take videos, lest they suffer Caroline’s wrath. Jess chimes in with Instagram stories that are not allowed, and then the pair wonder together why more women don’t name children after themselves. Then, a listener WHATADO about how to work with a friend who can’t stop talking about their toxic relationship. What’s the best route for a friend who cares? Plus, we’ve got a Botox story, and thoughts on “spicy” self care and bad medical experiences. We’ll do anything to get this scientific information to you! This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. Montage music: Titan by Alex-Productions | https://onsound.eu/ Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons / Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
10 Loka 20241h 10min
92. Not for Goodbyes + How to Start Owning Your Unique Strengths
Ever heard of micro acts of feminism? No? Well consider that problem solved because Jess and Caroline have all the details. Listen in on to find out what that even means, how they define their relationships to feminism, how they own their strengths, and how we can learn from the women around us. Things get a little spicy later on as Caroline takes us through an intimacy delight adventure tip, which leads into a conversation about the saga of orgasming, and a listener’s thoughts on sex with men vs. sex with women. Plus, ever heard of an Irish Goodbye? There won’t be any prolonged hugs here, no plans made, no quick catch-ups even though you’re heading to the door—we’ll just see you next week, kooks. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
3 Loka 20241h 5min
91. WHATADO: Workplace Woes + Corporate Chaos
Anyone else feeling lost when it comes to their career? Well, lucky for you, Jess and Caroline know just WHATADO. The duo cover how much to sacrifice when trying to change careers, coworkers who don’t work and complain anyway, how to deal with a loss of passion, interview strategies, and how to know when it’s time to move on. Plus, Jess confesses to a mistake made on Slack, and Caroline has a hot take about eating in the shower. Best of all, this recording was done in person, and there sure was an animal attack right in the middle of it. You’ll know it when you hear it. Sigh, is it lunchtime yet? This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Follow, rate, and review on your favorite podcasting app! Subscribe on YOUTUBE for full episode video: https://www.youtube.com/@Not4EveryonePod Plus follow us on INSTAGRAM for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey And don't forget about our MERCH store: https://not4everyonepod.myshopify.com/ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
26 Syys 202457min
