Ep 10 - Pleasure and Purpose: Catherine Drysdale's Journey Through Sex and Relationship Coaching

What if the parts of you you’ve been told to suppress are actually your most authentic self? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Dove from @littlespaces.co to explore what it really means to be a little—from discovering the dynamic through romance novels to navigating shame, connection, and kink identity. Whether you’re new to the world of caregiver/little dynamics or curious about exploring it on your own, Dove’s story offers a rare blend of vulnerability and wisdom.We get into the difference between little space and age play, what it’s like to access little space solo, and how emotional safety, consent, and presence play a huge role in kink-informed relationships. Dove shares the beauty of the caregiver/little dynamic, how she reconnected with her now-daddy dom partner, and what it means to explore vulnerability as a source of joy, not shame. We also talk about representation, personal growth, and how labels like “little” and “middle” are just tools—not boxes—to help us connect more deeply with ourselves and others.If you’ve ever felt the pull to explore this part of yourself, or you’re just curious about the emotional side of kink, this episode is your permission slip to lean in. Tune in for a powerful, tender, and deeply validating conversation about kink, identity, and reclaiming your inner softness.Episode Highlights: 01:19 Dove's Journey into Littlespace04:49 Understanding Littlespace and Age Play12:19 Exploring Littlespace Alone and with a Partner21:29 Finding Community and Support28:08 Navigating Consent and Misconceptions30:29 Vetting Potential Partners34:01 Advice for New Littles38:52 Exploring Middle SpaceCheckout The Little Spaceshttps://littlespaces.co/https://www.instagram.com/littlespaces.co/https://payhip.com/littlespacesConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1

16 Huhti 41min

In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m joined by the brilliant Emma Xin Velicky, founder of Saturday Box—a company designing immersive kink and roleplay experience kits for couples. Emma opens up about her personal evolution from a conservative, sex-negative upbringing to writing romance and co-creating a business that makes intimacy playful, safe, and accessible.We talk about how Saturday Box blends kink with storytelling, bringing fantasies to life through curated scenes that range from beginner-friendly kink kits to more advanced roleplay adventures. From game mechanics to emotional safety, Emma shares how she and her husband—a game designer—crafted each box to spark connection, deepen communication, and make exploration fun (and hot). I also share my own spicy experience with the Interrogation Scene Box, and spoiler: it did not disappoint.If you’re curious about how to spice up your relationship, ease into kink with confidence, or just love the idea of turning your bedroom into a choose-your-own-adventure game, this conversation is for you. Tune in for real talk on emotional intelligence, fantasy, and finding freedom through play.Episode Highlights: 02:22 Creating Playful and Replayable Experiences03:04 Exploring Different Role Play Options04:23 Balancing Experience Levels in Kink06:07 Dominance and Misconceptions19:26 Safety and Customization in Role Play27:45 The Importance of Emotional Intelligence in Kink29:33 The Problem with Kink Being Underground35:27 The Joy of Role Play43:09 Kink in Media and SocietyCheckout Saturday Box: https://saturdaybox.com/https://www.instagram.com/saturday_box/https://www.tiktok.com/@saturday_boxUSE THE CODE: TKC upon checkout to get 10% off!Connect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

11 Huhti 53min

Porn is reshaping how we view intimacy, and Make Love Not Porn is leading the charge. In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Saniyyah Lateef, a curator for MLNP, to discuss how the platform is redefining adult content by showcasing real-world sex—authentic, unscripted, and deeply connected. We dive into how MLNP challenges mainstream porn stereotypes, promotes sex-positive representation, and ensures every submission prioritizes consent and authenticity. Saniyyah shares what it means to be an MLNP Star, how curators maintain ethical standards, and why realistic depictions of intimacy matter in a world oversaturated with performative pleasure. We also unpack the impact of ethical adult content on relationships, self-image, and sexual empowerment.If you’re searching for porn alternatives, curious about other types of adult content, or want to explore how real people are reclaiming their pleasure, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in for a candid, sex-positive conversation that just might change the way you think about intimacy.Episode Highlights: 00:27 What is Make Love Not Porn?04:16 Curator's Role and Responsibilities16:57 The Importance of Sex Education20:59 Consent and Safe Practices21:59 Teaching Boundaries to Children23:08 The Importance of Comprehensive Sex Education23:52 Make Love Not Porn: User Engagement and Trends24:40 Astrology and Sexual Activity Insights28:21 Community and Privacy in Make Love Not PornCheckout Make Love Not Porn: https://makelovenotporn.tv/https://www.instagram.com/makelovenotpornhttps://www.facebook.com/mlnp.tv/https://twitter.com/makelovenotpornhttps://www.youtube.com/user/makelovenotporntv/featuredSend Your Videos Here: saniyyah@mlnp.tvConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

2 Huhti 40min

What do thirst traps, TikTok bans, and Daddy Dom dynamics have in common? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Dilly from @TheLifeofDillyy to talk about his journey from pec-popping TikToker to full-time content creator with a kinky twist. We get into the sensual (and hilarious) evolution of his online presence—and how stepping into his dominant energy opened the door to deeper connection, both on and offline.We explore what it means to be a “pleasure dom,” the unexpected emotional impact of kink-informed relationships, and why communication—yes, even post-nut communication—is everything. Dilly shares how his past relationship introduced him to the daddy dom/little dynamic, how kink showed up in his love languages, and why even “entry-level” kink still requires serious consent and clarity. We also get into content creation, algorithm struggles, and the fine line between sexy and silly when you’re trying to grow an audience on platforms that love to censor.If you’re curious about what a soft-launch into kink can look like—or how to blend sensuality, humor, and dom energy into your personal brand—this episode is full of playful insight and real talk. Tune in for an open convo about dominance, desire, and learning what turns you (and your audience) on.Episode Highlights: 01:36 From TikTok Fame to OnlyFans06:18 Creating Viral Content13:58 Exploring Kink and Relationships15:12 Becoming a Daddy Dom22:27 Exploring Kinks and Roleplay22:56 Keeping the Spark Alive25:06 Communication in Kink33:52 Love Languages and ConnectionConnect with Dillyhttps://www.instagram.com/thelifeofdillyy/https://onlyfans.com/lifeofdillyhttps://x.com/thelifeofdillyConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

26 Maalis 41min

What happens when one partner is kinky and the other is strictly vanilla? Is it possible to find common ground, or are you setting yourself up for long-term frustration?In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I break down exactly how to navigate this mismatch—starting with how to open up the conversation, get clear on your needs, and avoid making your partner feel like they’re not enough. We’ll talk about the biggest mistakes people make when introducing kink, how to approach the conversation without overwhelming your partner, and what to do if they shut it down completely. Plus, I share my personal experiences (and hard-earned lessons) from past relationships where kink compatibility—or lack thereof—became the dealbreaker.If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship can survive a kinky/vanilla divide, this episode gives you the real talk you need. Whether you're trying to ease a partner into kink or figuring out if compromise is even possible, this episode is packed with practical advice. Tune in to learn how to navigate this tricky dynamic, communicate your desires effectively, and decide what’s truly right for you.Episode Highlights: 01:43 Navigating Differences: Communication Tips02:33 Personal Experience and Professional Advice08:51 Handling Rejection and Moving Forward10:02 Tips for Effective Communication13:42 Building Confidence in Kink15:45 Can Kinky and Vanilla Relationships Work?18:47 Conclusion: Finding Balance and HappinessConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

20 Maalis 21min

Most people think a Dom/sub relationship is all about power and control—but the reality is, it lives and dies by communication. A strong D/s dynamic isn’t about one person calling all the shots while the other blindly obeys. It’s about negotiation, trust, and making sure both partners’ needs are met. So how do you create a dynamic that actually works? And more importantly, how do you avoid the common pitfalls that can turn power exchange into something unhealthy?In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m breaking down what makes a D/s relationship thrive, from defining roles and boundaries to spotting red flags before they become a problem. Whether you’re a Dom, sub, or switch, I’ll walk you through how to tailor your dynamic, build trust, and communicate like a pro. We’ll also talk about why no one is a “perfect” Dom or sub right out of the gate, how to test out dynamics safely, and why writing out your expectations can save you a lot of frustration down the line.If you’re ready to build a D/s relationship that actually works for you, this episode is a must-listen. Whether you’re brand new or fine-tuning an existing dynamic, hit play and let’s talk about how to make power exchange empowering for everyone involved.Episode Highlights: 02:03 Understanding Switches02:27 Exploring BDSM Tests04:04 Healthy Power Exchange05:10 Setting Relationship Goals06:48 Adjusting Dynamics07:43 Customizing Your DS Relationship09:16 Practical Tips for Beginners10:37 Feedback and Continuous ImprovementConnect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Take the BDSM Test: https://www.bdsmtest.orgSpeak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

12 Maalis 14min

Finding your kink community can be a game-changer, but where do you even start? Finding the right community is about more than just showing up; it’s about knowing where to look, how to vet spaces, and making connections that actually feel good.In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I’m breaking down exactly how to find local munches, BDSM events, and online communities without wasting time in the wrong places. I’ll walk you through using FetLife the right way, recognizing red flags at events, and navigating social dynamics so you’re not just standing around awkwardly sipping a soda. Plus, I share my best tips for attending events solo, making introductions without feeling weird, and showing up as your most authentic kinky self.If you’ve been struggling to find your people, this episode is your roadmap. Whether you’re brand new to the scene or looking to deepen your connections, tune in and get ready to build a community that truly fits you.Episode Highlights: 01:43 How to Find Your Kink Community03:40 Red Flags in Kink Communities04:59 Online Kink Communities and Safety Tips08:21 Attending Kink Events: Tips and Advice14:11 The Importance of Communication in Kink Relationships15:23 Building and Contributing to Your Kink CommunityGo to ⁠http://www.meetkinksters.com/TKC⁠ and you can get 50%off your first month of premium membership! Connect with Me: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you! ⁠Book your consultation here

5 Maalis 17min

In this episode, I sit down with CJ from No Shame with CJ to dive into the complexities of kink, non-monogamy, and redefining relationship norms. As a fellow sex and relationship coach, CJ brings a unique perspective on what it means to explore ethical non-monogamy and how the language we use around relationships shapes our experiences. We unpack the differences between polyamory and non-monogamy, the challenges of navigating jealousy, and how to build relationship dynamics that actually work for you instead of just following traditional expectations.CJ shares how their own journey into non-monogamy and power exchange has evolved over time, from navigating long-distance relationships to integrating new partners while maintaining strong foundations. We talk about the idea of being “monogamish” and how some people choose monogamy while still engaging in kink outside their relationship, challenging the assumption that one structure fits all.If you’ve ever questioned your relationship style, struggled with jealousy, or felt pressure to conform to certain labels, this episode is packed with insights on how to unlearn outdated narratives and create relationships on your own terms.Episode Highlights: 01:52 Understanding Ethical Non-Monogamy04:00 Defining Polyamory and Solo Poly22:27 Jealousy and Possessiveness in Relationships28:00 Open Communication in Relationships32:39 Exploring Kink and Boundaries37:09 Authenticity and Self-DiscoveryConnect with CJ https://www.noshamewithcj.com/ https://www.instagram.com/noshamewithcjDownload the Feelings Tracker: https://bit.ly/FeelingsTrackerConnect with Me:  ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/⁠Speak Your Desires with Confidence - Download this FREE step-by-step guide to having open, honest, and judgment-free conversations about kink, boundaries, and pleasure.https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1Ready to explore your desires and elevate your intimate life? Book your FREE 20-minute consultation with The Kink Consultant and discover how personalized coaching can help you unlock your full potential. Whether you’re curious about kink, want to spice things up, or need expert guidance, this is your chance to get tailored advice that meets you where you are. Don’t miss out—schedule your session now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling, authentic you!⁠Book your consultation here⁠.

19 Helmi 46min