Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn13 Elo 2024

ADHD and sex

When you have ADHD, it can affect every part of your life — even sex. ADHD impacts how we show up in relationships. And it can be easy to forget it’s with us in the bedroom too.

ADHD sexpert and psychologist Dr. Ari Tuckman visits the podcast this week to talk about the connection between ADHD and sex. Listen to this foundational episode as we set the scene to cover more in-depth topics on sex in future episodes.

To get a transcript of this show and check out more episodes, visit the Sorry, I Missed This podcast page at Understood.org.

We love hearing from our listeners. Email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org.

Related resources

Sex, intimacy, and ADHD from ADHD Aha!
Ari’s book, ADHD After Dark
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

Timestamps

(03:45) Why is ADHD and sex an important topic?

(07:24) What Ari learned from research for his book, ADHD After Dark

(10:33) ADHD and responsibility

(12:47) Avoiding a transactional sexual relationship

(14:55) Intentionality and ADHD

(17:39) What can we do to help?

(25:10) Ari’s main takeaways

(26:45) What do I do if me or my partner is really excited about sex, but one or the other of us struggles to remember it exists?

(29:54) What do I do if I get distracted during sex?

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