Am I The Asshole for Watching Porn Without Telling My Partner?

How do you give incredible, life-affirming oral sex to a vulva owner? While every body is different, I’m here to tell you that these are the techniques you absolutely need. First, we’ll talk the art of the tease. I explain how to use your tongue to intensify sensations and encourage arousal. I also get into everyone’s favorite: the Kivin Method. Next, I show you how to help facilitate a G-spot orgasm by answering your top questions. For example, when you’re 100% down to give oral but your partner doesn’t like receiving, what do you do? When you’re the vulva owner and want to squirt, how do you get there? Finally, I talk overcoming insecurities when you’re the receiver, and how to make giving oral more physically comfortable. Show Notes: I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Get to Know the Clitoris (& How to Pleasure It) PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva? Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Podcast: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl Article: Ask Emily: How Do I *Actually* Start Squirting? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

4 Huhti 202353min

What does it mean to be sexually confident? In my opinion, it comes from a sense of security in who you are, what you bring to the table, and knowing that it’s OK to ask questions. It’s not having all the answers, because let’s be honest: sex would be boring if we knew everything already. But when your self-image takes a hit, how do you recover your sexual confidence and combat performance anxiety? I’m talking to callers with precisely that question. What do you do when your partner keeps talking about how hot strangers are, even when you told them it makes you uncomfortable? What happens when you’re not maintaining your erections, and it’s causing anxiety? How about when your partner is more sexual than ever – but not towards you? All this and more in today’s sexual confidence episode. Show Notes: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

31 Maalis 202333min

In my opinion, masturbation is one of the healthiest self-care practices out there. But so many of you tell me how ashamed you feel about masturbating! Especially since the only pop culture examples you saw growing up were cringey. That changes today, as I take your calls on masturbation, taking time to explore your body, and unlocking different kinds of orgasms during solo sex. I also discuss masturbation frequency, and if there’s such a thing as too much. Speaking of frequency: is it possible for vulva owners to have multiple orgasms during solo sex? Let’s find out. I’ll answer your questions on group masturbation parties, jealousy toward your partner’s vibrator, and what to do when your partner can only orgasm through masturbation. Show Notes: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Emily x Christina Aguilera: HelloPlayground.com/Xtina CERĒ Spellbound Stimulator & Reverie (code EMILY15 for 15% off sitewide) OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50) LELO TOR 3 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

28 Maalis 202335min

Sex is inherently vulnerable, which is partly why it’s so hot. But how do you take the extremely vulnerable – even awkward – step of telling a partner something sensitive? Maybe their breath is bad. Maybe you’re bored with the sex itself. Or maybe you're afraid to tell a partner you’ve fallen in love with them. On today’s episode, I’m helping listeners find the right words for these sensitive moments. What happens when you don’t feel anything during penetration? Or your partner’s afraid to tell you they have a small penis? How about when you’re into something kinky, tried it out virtually, and got caught? And finally, when you disagree on what makes good sex, is that a deal breaker? All this and more on today’s sexual feedback show.  Show Notes: The 7 Secrets of Making Out How to Have the Sexiest Spring Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SmartMouth Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

24 Maalis 202338min

Have you ever been to a sex party? Are you curious about what goes down in one, and if it’s something you’d like to explore? Are they held in dungeons? Upscale clubs? Someone’s house? There’s a lot more interest in sex parties lately, so on today’s episode, I’m talking sex parties 101. I’ll go over the various types of parties out there, how to find them and specific sex events you might be interested in, sex party etiquette, what you can expect when you walk in the door, how to interact with fellow attendees, and of course…what to wear. Show Notes: The 7 Secrets of Making Out How to Have the Sexiest Spring Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure FetLife Feeld #Open Kinky Rabbit Club Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

21 Maalis 202339min

The vagina is a beautiful place. But from orgasms to vaginismus, do you know your way around a vagina and how to properly care for it? Whether you want to maximize a vulva owner’s pleasure or improve your own vaginal health, this episode is for you. We’ll start with the internal clitoral network: I’ll talk about how recent our scientific knowledge of the clitoris is. Later I'll discuss clitoral orgasms versus G-spot orgasms -- which one’s stronger, and what do they feel like? My listeners also bring me questions about vaginas and sex: is a clitoral piercing painful? Will it affect your sexual sensations? And when sex is painful, how can you reclaim your sexuality? All this and more on today’s vagina episode. Show Notes: Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Singles’ Survival Kit 6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Article: Where is the Clitoris? Je Joue’s New Bullet Vibrators & Endometriosis Collection (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF everything) Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide) OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50) This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

17 Maalis 202342min

Want to give 10/10 pleasure to a penis? Whether you’re giving or receiving oral sex to a penis, this episode is for you. From where to start as an absolute beginner, to upgrading your oral sex game, this is a comprehensive episode on the art of the blowjob. First, we’ll map the penis anatomy so you know what pleasure points you’re dealing with. Next, I’ll teach you techniques to build anticipation, tease, and make your oral sex that much more memorable: eye contact, how to use your hands, and the best lube for the job. We’ll also get into sensation play, testicle and perineum stimulation, and if swallowing or deep-throating is in the cards for you. (It’s totally OK if not.) Plus, I’ve got tips for dealing with anxiety when you’re the receiver. Don’t blow this episode off: your oral sex mastery starts now.   Show Notes: 6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better Sex PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand Podcast: Everybody Loves Oral Article: 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down on a Vulva Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method Article: How to Give a Better Blowjob Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex? This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

14 Maalis 202346min

Have you ever been into something so strongly, you couldn’t stop fantasizing about it? Maybe it’s getting spanked or tied up, to name a couple common turn-ons. Whatever your turn-on is, does it arouse you so much that you just have to make it a reality? Or are you apprehensive to take your fantasy IRL? On today’s episode, I’m taking your calls on kinks, fetishes, and everything in between. I’ll teach you how to introduce your fantasy to a partner, especially if you’re turned on by something very specific. From spandex to group sex, squirting to infantilization, I’ll help you understand the difference between a kink and a fetish, how to safely explore your options, and how to communicate your desires to a partner. All this and more on today’s turn-on show! Show Notes: Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Sexy Survival Kit PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Okay, What’s Really the Difference Between Kinks and Fetishes? Yes No Maybe List, Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides FirmTech Rings (code EMILY20 for 20% off sitewide) FetLife Kasidie LELO SORAYA Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products) This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/sexwithemily and get 10% off your first month. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

10 Maalis 202346min