Sex is Messy, Dirty, & Pleasurable, Understanding Our Sexuality with Dr. Joe Kort

Sex is Messy, Dirty, & Pleasurable, Understanding Our Sexuality with Dr. Joe Kort

Ep 198: Sex is Messy, Dirty, & Pleasurable, Understanding Our Sexuality with Dr. Joe Kort. "Sexuality and erotic interests are not clean. They are messy, nuanced, smelly, dirty, prideful, pleasurable, shameful, and we have to make room for all of that and not try to clean it up and try to make it a textbook thing," said Dr. Joe Kort. This is the last sentence he said in the interview and I think it's so very right, poignant, and definitely an accurate statement. Sex is all of those things, and even more! And it's certainly not cookie-cutter or so-called "normal". There is no normal. And why should there be? We are all individuals, as is each of our sexualities.

Listen to and learn from our amazing discussion! He has years and years of experience, he's so knowledgeable about sex and relationships. We chatted about all things sexuality. He shared about his journey coming out as a gay man in the seventies, how his mom was enlightened enough to get him help, but how he also fell into the trap of being labeled with a sexual addiction, which he later learned was false as with time he learned more about sexual health and reframed his mindset to a much healthier one. He became a therapist in response to his journey.

He counsels predominantly heterosexual couples, and he shared some very interesting stories from his practice.

He talked about how our sexual orientation is not in the acts we do, but rather it's who we are. He talked about how we need to shed shame, and how the worldviews have changed regarding gay/lesbian people. We also chatted about how trans people are being stigmatized now.

We talked about sexual orientation, masturbation, erotic compassion, cracking our erotic code, and how what's driving it isn't even about sex at all. He highlighted the importance of shedding shame for healthier sexuality and how couples really need to harness the mindset of having erotic compassion for one another, and not judge each other for their fantasies.

Connect with Dr. Joe Kort for his website, books, and podcast here: https://joekort.com/
Find all his links here: https://linktr.ee/drjoekort
Joe's book Erotic Orientation (affiliate): https://amzn.to/3RT5v1m
Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? https://amzn.to/3VkwJkl
10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives https://amzn.to/3VfixcF

Thank you Joe for coming on my show! Check out his podcast Smart Sex Smart Love on podcast apps.

Learn more about the podcast host Ruan Willow: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow

Ruan's anthology: Decadent Erotica An Anthology of 10 Tales of Extreme Sensuality, Indulgence, Dominance, & Submission.
Universal link to the book: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/f96fc8e4-338f-11ed-9399-3b82020d795f
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Coming in paperback to online sellers 10/22/2022

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Ep 4: Excerpt reading by Ruan from the erotic short story Harley's Peeping Punishment

Ep 4: Excerpt reading by Ruan from the erotic short story Harley's Peeping Punishment

Hello, Sexy Friends! Welcome to my fourth episode. I'm so excited and doing a mini celebration because you all have downloaded my new podcast so that I've had over 100 downloads already and I've only been live for a week!! I'm so excited and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support:) In this podcast episode,  I'm doing a reading of an excerpt from my erotic short story in the femdom anthology "He Will Obey", edited by Jay Willowbay. This awesome collection of 21 stories celebrates females in control. Things get hot with female domination when the Dommes control their subs in relationships and in sexual encounters. So many genres of femdom in this anthology to tickle your fantasy life, to try out new situations and themes, to delve into the heat of her in control. My short story is titled "Harley's Peeping Punishment" and  Kiara, the MILF of the story, catches Harley and goes all BDSM on him, much to his surprise and delight. You can read the full story in the "He Will Obey" anthology, which is sold in digital form and paperback on Amazon. Here is my affiliate link if you'd like to purchase the book or just want more information about the book. This is an affiliate link so I get a small kickback for advertising it if you purchase. Link to the anthology book He Will Obey:  https://amzn.to/3oPGxkS This book is delicious because you get 21 flavors of Domme's versions of control as they direct, use, enjoy their male subs. That's 21 hot erotic brains on display for your pleasuring, spinning their hot sexy tales to titillate and enthrall you to the max heights of desire. I hope enjoy my reading of this excerpt. You can learn more about my fellow anthology authors in my author links below interviews: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/bdsm-femdom-erotica-author-for-anthology/ https://ruanwillowauthor.com/femdom-control-an-author-interview-bdsm-anthology/ https://ruanwillowauthor.com/femdom-domination-anthology-an-author-interview/ I hope you have a very very very sexy day! Love, Ruan Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

5 Helmi 202128min

Ep: 3 Valentine's Day Gift Ideas, sex toy reviews, massage oil, & experiences

Ep: 3 Valentine's Day Gift Ideas, sex toy reviews, massage oil, & experiences

Welcome to the Oh F*ck Yeah with Ruan Willow podcast! Ruan  Willow is an erotica author and today she shares her ideas for gifts on Valentine's Day including sex toys (sex toy reviews), massage oil, lube suggestions, and ideas for fun experiences. Experiences as gifts for couples this Valentine's day; they are fabulous ways to celebrate love, enhance sexual intimacy, and to help romance bloom.  Grow your own relationship by considering these great gift ideas for lovers, for couples. This podcast can also be found in written form with links to toys at this blog post: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/sex-gifts-for-valentines-day/ Help romance and love flourish in your life. Check out these helpful reviews of sex toys to improve your sexual health and that of your partner. For a full review of the Nora Lovense toy, click here: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/rabbit-vibrator-lovense-nora-review/ To read Ruan's review of the Lush 2 toy by Lovense, click here: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/lush-sex-toy-review-remote-controlled-vibrator/ To read the rose clitoris sucker review, please click here: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/rose-vibrator-clit-sucker/ I hope you have found my gift ideas helpful and that they enhance your intimacy, your relationship, and your sexual health. Sexuality and couple intimacy are important aspects of a relationship, so pay attention to them and nurture both in yourself and in your partner. Happy Valentine's Day! Love, Ruan Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

2 Helmi 202135min

Ep 2: Ruan reads an excerpt from her Sucking Nipples at The Licking Sip Coffee Shop short story

Ep 2: Ruan reads an excerpt from her Sucking Nipples at The Licking Sip Coffee Shop short story

Episode 2:  (18+) Ruan reads an excerpt from her Sucking Nipples at The Licking Sip Coffee Shop short story which can be found in its entirety on her website at https://ruanwillowauthor.com/sucking-nipples-at-the-licking-sip-coffee-shop/ This is a sexy short story in the genre of erotica that Ruan has published on her website. This story grew out of her own personal fantasy she dreamt up from years ago...it has given her much pleasure! Now, she wants to share that pleasure with you. In this episode, she reads the sex scene between the head waitress and a coffee shop patron. The days heats up quick for head waitress Lana when a young stud walks into the shop and chooses her. He gifts an epic sexual experience to Lana that also deeply pleases him, among others. Read this to get hot and hotter and scorching hot with Lana as she reaches into her fantasy world to get real epic stellar phenomenal orgasms. Let's just say all enjoy this intimate display, but of course, not as much the couple. Listen to Ruan and feel her heat, enjoy your immersion into all things Ruan hot! Ready? Let's do it! Oh, f*ck yeah! With Ruan Willow. And please. Don't forget to subscribe if you don't want to miss an episode. Also, she loves reviews of all kinds. Please leave a review so she can grow as an author and an artist. Have a very sexy day! Thanks for listening! Catch Ruan on Twitter, X, Instagram, Threads, YouTube, Bluesky. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

29 Tammi 202136min

Ep 1: Welcome to Oh F*ck Yeah by erotica author Ruan Willow

Ep 1: Welcome to Oh F*ck Yeah by erotica author Ruan Willow

Episode 1: This podcast is for 18+ only. Welcome to Ruan's podcast! In this very first episode erotica author Ruan Willow talks about what her show will be about including sexy steamy hot readings, erotic short story excerpts, sex toy reviews, sex topics such as tips and ideas to improve your sexuality, both solo and with a partner, as well as erotica author interviews. In this first episode, she talks about fantasies, per request from people on Twitter, and she reads short erotic scene snippets and erotic poems. On Twitter, she is RaunchyIs and Ruan Willow. Interact with her there or on Instagram, MeWe, YouTube, Tik Tok, and Pinterest. You can read her erotic short stories on her website https://ruanwillowauthor.com Ruan on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RuanWillow Twitter: http://twitter.com/RaunchyIs http://twitter.com/RuanWillow All Ruan's links to books, social media, and more! https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Have a very sexy day! Thanks for listening! Love, Ruan Please follow my podcast so you don't miss a single episode, so much more to come! Want to support me and my podcast, and get extras? Join my Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/ruanwillow Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

27 Tammi 202124min

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