Can a narcissist actually change?
In this episode, you’ll hear another powerful clip from my interview on Valerie Greene’s podcast, Soul Shaking Love. We explore two of the most frequently asked questions about narcissistic relationships: Can a narcissist truly change—and how can you tell if it’s even possible? We discuss what real change looks like beyond the surface-level promises and gestures, and why it’s so difficult to know whether to stay or go. Listen to full episode here: Spotify: https://ope...
1 Touko 26min
From Codependency to a Genuine Connection
Valerie Greene dives into the roots of codependency, showing how childhood neglect can lead us to put others’ needs before our own. Through personal stories and practical insights, she reveals how building healthy boundaries and embracing self-awareness can transform relationships from draining to deeply connected. Discover the path from codependency to true interdependence. Valerie's Website: https://coachvaleriegreene.com/podcast/anthony/ If you are interested in a consultation ...
26 Huhti 31min
How Can You Tell If You’re With a Narcissist?
Why is it so hard to leave someone who keeps hurting you? In this clip from Soul Shaking Love, we unpack the emotional confusion of narcissistic relationships—how to spot grandiose vs. vulnerable narcissists, why the fantasy of who they could be keeps you stuck, and what deeper wounds might be playing out beneath the surface. Listen to full episode here: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2R3EZ6W5UpDRXnM9QMYO5p?si=tm49CCEzQjqAPs9Eq0aJfw YouTube Podcast: http...
23 Huhti 28min
Mastering Negotiation with Narcissists
What if being reasonable is the worst strategy with a narcissist? In this conversation with negotiation expert Rebecca Zung, we explore how to protect yourself when fairness and empathy are used against you. She shares her SLAY method—Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, and You—as a powerful framework to shift the dynamic, stay emotionally grounded, and take back control in high-conflict relationships. Rebecca's Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/negotiate-your-best-...
16 Huhti 29min
Healing from Betrayal: Insights and Discoveries
In this episode of the Narcissism Decoder, Dr. Anthony Mazzella interviews Dr. Debi, a leading expert in betrayal recovery. They explore the unique trauma of betrayal, its profound impact on trust and identity, and the healing process. Dr. Debi shares her groundbreaking research findings, including the five stages of healing from betrayal and the concept of post-betrayal transformation. The conversation emphasizes the importance of personal growth and the choice to heal as essential component...
9 Huhti 34min
Is It Love—or Emotional Control?
In this episode, we dive into the emotional power struggles that define vulnerable narcissism, particularly within parent-child relationships. We unpack how covert control, dependency, and cycles of shame quietly shape toxic dynamics—and how these patterns are often misread as love or concern. If you’ve ever felt trapped in a relationship that looks caring but feels suffocating, this conversation offers a path toward clarity. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virt...
2 Huhti 30min
Breaking the Spell: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella and Jin unpack the cult-like dynamics of narcissistic relationships—and the emotional aftermath survivors face. From trauma bonds and identity loss to the inner voice of the narcissist that lingers long after they’re gone, this conversation explores what it really takes to break free. If you’ve ever wondered why walking away doesn’t always feel like freedom, this conversation reveals the hidden chains—and how to finally break them. If you are interested i...
26 Maalis 32min
I Know My Partner is Narcissistic – Why Can’t I Leave?
In this episode, I sit down with Jin from Narc Troopers—a writer, educator, podcaster, and narcissistic abuse recovery facilitator— to explore the psychological dynamics that keep people stuck in toxic narcissistic relationships and why breaking free can feel impossible. We discuss the fantasy that keeps people trapped, the impact of early childhood development, and Shelly Bach’s concept of pathological mourning. We also touch on the dead mother theory by André Green and its relevance to feel...
19 Maalis 34min
