The Ex-Good Girl Podcast14 Touko 2025

Episode 114 - Being Bullied and Becoming a People Pleaser

Many women who struggle with people-pleasing often blame themselves, but these habits are usually rooted in deeper issues that are beyond our control. There can be various underlying causes, but in this episode, I share how my personal experiences with bullying have influenced my people-pleasing tendencies. If recalling your own experiences of being bullied brings up strong emotions--it’s okay to skip this episode if it feels too tender. But if you’re ready, I invite you to explore how these early wounds may have influenced your people-pleasing—and how healing starts with self-compassion, not self-criticism. Here’s what I cover:

An overview of the four nervous system responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn
A deep dive into the “fawn” nervous system response and how it connects bullying to people-pleasing
How bullying-related shame impacts our sense of worthiness
A visualization exercise that uses arts work to help you heal your inner child
Why being attuned to others’ needs might actually be a trauma response
A compassionate question to ask yourself that will reveal the beliefs you formed about safety and belonging

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