30 Who's the Boss: A Primer for Parents and Pediatric Providers

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Dr. Arthur Lavin returns to the podcast and offers practical advice on parent-child conflict and problem solving strategies. Tantrums are a teaching opportunity where children learn to solve the problem and parents are the guides.

Dr. Lavin shares highlights from his book “Who's the Boss: Moving Families from Conflict to Collaboration” that he authored with colleague Susan Glaser and presents a framework to tackle tantrums and meltdowns

Let’s listen to this primer for parents and pediatric providers from Dr. Lavin!

[00:01 - 03:57] Opening Segment

• Let’s welcome back, Dr. Arthur Lavin
• Let’s all be cautious for a few more months
• Listen to Arthur’s message

[03:58 - 14:09] Teaching Children to Solve Problems

• How Arthur turned a 12-year collab into a book
• He did it with his colleague
• Teaching children to solve their problems
• Why Arthur likes “neutral questions”

[14:10 - 24:04] Like A Computer Freezing

• Understand tantrums better with this analogy
• How to handle tantrums better
• Arthur talks about anger flares among adults

[24:05 - 35:40] The Line of Concern

• The alternative to listening and problem solving
• Arthur shares a sneak peek about his next book
• Listen to his message to his resident self

[35:41 - 41:38] Closing Segment

• Finals takeaways
• Teach children to solve problems themselves
• Who will find the solution, the parent or the child?
• Adopting a neutral tone
• Structuring conversations better
• The approach with 100% success rate
• Children create the consequences, aside from solutions
• Tantrums are like computers freezing
• Teen tantrums are more complicated

Tweetable Quotes:

“The secret to success always lies in finding some way to create a situation or an understanding or a stance freely whereas the child [has] the freedom and the ingenuity and the creativity to solve that problem themselves .” - Dr. Arthur Lavin

“Listen to that voice, stay close to that voice, and stay true to that voice.” - Dr. Arthur Lavin

Resources Mentioned:

• Pediatric Meltdown episode 9: School Struggles ADHD or is it‪?‬
• Arthur’s books
• Who's the Boss
• Baby and Toddler Sleep Solutions For Dummies

Email alavinmd@gmail.com to connect with Arthur and visit https://www.advancedped.com/staff/ to learn more about his space.

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