Stop 'Should-ing' Yourself: Why ADHD and 'Should' Don’t Mix
ADHD Adultish2 Huhti 2025

Stop 'Should-ing' Yourself: Why ADHD and 'Should' Don’t Mix

“Should” is such a tiny word — and yet it carries enough emotional baggage to fill an entire ADHD junk drawer. In this episode, we’re calling it out for what it is: a sneaky little gremlin that piles on guilt, pressure, and shame. You’ll learn why “should” hits so hard for ADHD brains, how it contributes to overwhelm, and most importantly, how to stop letting it boss you around.

We’ll talk about:

  • Why ADHD brains rebel against “should”
  • The mental tug-of-war caused by competing brain networks (nerdy but cool)
  • How to pause, reflect, and reframe when the “shoulds” creep in
  • Why some “shoulds” are actually helpful—if they come from kindness

If you're tired of feeling like you're failing at life because of some invisible list of “shoulds,” this one's for you.

🔗 Resources & Links:

👉 Grab the Quick Wins Playbook — an ADHD-friendly guide to building momentum with small, doable wins (no shame required):

👉 Follow me on Instagram: @ADHDAdultish

👉 Learn more about ADHD coaching or book a free discovery call:

https://levelupmyadhd.com/coaching

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