How to Ask for What You Want in Bed (For Better Sex)

In this captivating episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily welcomes back adult film legend and author Joanna Angel to discuss her brilliant new choose-your-own-adventure erotic novel "Club 42." From her transformative days as a stripper to building a porn empire, Joanna shares how embracing her sexuality became the foundation of her confidence and success We dive into Joanna's fascinating journey of sexual self-discovery, exploring how stripping taught her to embrace her femininity, develop unshakeable confidence, and connect authentically with others. Her new book takes readers on multiple erotic adventures through a strip club setting, allowing you to choose your own path through various sexual scenarios—from hooking up with fellow dancers to exploring BDSM and everything in between. This episode is packed with practical advice on dirty talk, sexting, and vocal expression during intimacy. Joanna breaks down why authentic communication is crucial for great sex, how to move beyond performative sounds influenced by porn, and why being genuinely expressive enhances pleasure for everyone involved. We also explore her weakness for "band guys" and how sexual attraction doesn't always align with our feminist ideals. Key Topics Covered: How stripping transformed Joanna's confidence and sexuality The art of choose-your-own-adventure erotica Dirty talk vs. sexting: different skills for different situations Moving beyond porn-influenced sexual performance Why authentic vocalization enhances pleasure Sexual confidence and embracing your desires The psychology behind attraction to "bad boys" Creating inclusive, diverse sexual narratives Joanna's refreshing honesty about sexuality, combined with her literary talents, offers listeners both inspiration and practical tools for expanding their own sexual adventures. Whether you're looking to spice up your relationship or explore new fantasies, this episode celebrates the power of choice, authenticity, and unapologetic pleasure. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Joanna's journey from stripper to porn entrepreneur 08:00:00 - How stripping built unshakeable sexual confidence15:00:00 - "Club 42": Choose-your-own-adventure erotica 23:00:00 - The art of authentic dirty talk and sexting 31:00:00 - Moving beyond performative sexuality 38:00:00 - Listener questions and practical advice This episode reminds us that great sex starts with knowing yourself, embracing your desires, and having the confidence to ask for what you want—whether in the bedroom or on the page. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/ ⁠ Let's get social: Instagram ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠ Threads https:⁠//www.threads.net/@sexwithemily ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text