Work To Improve Your Perception
Your perception is biased. Understanding the world around you is probably biased because of how the brain jumps to conclusions. These types of jumps are called cognitive biases. They seek to create a story out of as little information as possible, to avoid uncertainty. Battling cognitive biases involves telling stories in reverse, slowing down, and shifting your focus to questions instead of declaratory statements.Your memories are wrong. No matter how real and accurate they sometimes feel, a disturbing fact is that memories and false memories end up being indistinguishable to your brain. Factors as small as word choice or pointed questions can distort memories. Unfortunately, we depend on these memories to form our world views and perspectives.Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3n6a2fzShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/social-skills-shownotesLearn more or get a free mini-book on conversation tactics at https://bit.ly/pkconsulting#AbsoluteTruth #AnneliesVredeveldt #ChristopherFrench #Coan #EyewitnessTestimony #FalseMemory #HugoMunsterbergs #IndependentThinker #Munsterbergs #Neufel #JuliaShaw #Scheck #Shaw #Vredeveldt #WorkToImproveYourPerception #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #TheIndependentThinker
23 Helmi 202214min
When You Say You’re In Love With Someone, What Do You Mean?
The triangular theory of love states that the most successful relationships score well on all three metrics: attraction, intimacy, and commitment. Happy couples need to have strong overlap and match in their “triangles” or else work to strengthen their weak points. Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/ScienceOfAttractionShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/social-skills-shownotesLearn more or get a free mini-book on conversation tactics at https://bit.ly/pkconsulting#Commitment #ConsciousChoices #Intimacy #IntimacyPassionCommitment #Passion #PhysicalAttraction #RobertSternberg #Sternberg #SuccessfulPartnerships #SuccessfulRelationship #TriangularTheory #WhenYouSayYou’ReInLoveWithSomeone #WhatDoYouMean? #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #TheScienceofAttraction
21 Helmi 20227min
Listening Well Means Putting Your Own Needs And Perspectives On The Back Burner
Practice conversational patience, listen to others, and give them the space to be as they are. In other words, cut out the ego! You can validate others by asking questions every time you’re tempted to jump in and hog attention. Relax, slow down, and have the self-discipline and compassion to let the conversation unfolds as it will, rather than as you think it should.Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/IntentionalCommunicationKingShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/social-skills-shownotesLearn more or get a free mini-book on conversation tactics at https://bit.ly/pkconsulting#GenuineHumility #InstantGratification #IntentionalCommunication #TerribleListeners #ListeningWellMeansPuttingYourOwnNeedsAndPerspectivesOnTheBackBurner #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #IntentionalCommunication
18 Helmi 20229min
Perception Is Biased
Your perception is biased. Understanding the world around you is probably biased because of how the brain jumps to conclusions. These types of jumps are called cognitive biases. They seek to create a story out of as little information as possible, to avoid uncertainty. Battling cognitive biases involves telling stories in reverse, slowing down, and shifting your focus to questions instead of declaratory statements.Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3n6a2fzShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/social-skills-shownotesLearn more or get a free mini-book on conversation tactics at https://bit.ly/pkconsulting#AvailabilityHeuristic #CognitiveBias #GamblersFallacy #IndependentThinker #Postpurchase #PerceptionIsBiased #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #TheIndependentThinker
16 Helmi 202212min
Love Is All That Matters . . .
Love is what most of us marry for, but arranged marriages have been around for a very long time. In fact, what most of us would consider romantic love is a luxury that is only a few hundred years old.Arranged marriages work precisely because love is placed as a low priority. Instead, commitment, problem-solving, and lowered expectations take the forefront and create conditions that allow for a harmonious relationship to first blossom, which allows love to follow.Another factor that appears to be more important than love in relationships is similarity. Studies have shown that similarity is more important because people don’t tend to change, and over time, you’re just left with conflicting values and worldviews.Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/ScienceOfAttractionShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/social-skills-shownotesLearn more or get a free mini-book on conversation tactics at https://bit.ly/pkconsulting#ArrangedMarriages #Attraction #ConflictSkills #ElaineHatfield #Epstein #FrancineKaye #HappyCouples #HappyLife #DrRobertEpstein #Hatfield #HealthierMarriages #ProximityEffect #Rajasthan #Sprecher #SusanSprecher #WesternCultures #WesternMarriages #LoveIsAllThatMatters... #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #TheScienceofAttraction
14 Helmi 202218min
Humility: The Rarest Virtue
Humility is the virtue that will allow you to quickly and sincerely own up to mistakes. This takes courage and maturity. Make sure any apologies show remorse, repentance, and full responsibility, as well as explain what went wrong, what you will do to fix it, and a request for forgiveness. Accept any response to your apology with grace.Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/IntentionalCommunicationKingShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/social-skills-shownotesLearn more or get a free mini-book on conversation tactics at https://bit.ly/pkconsulting#Communication #DefensiveReaction #EffectiveApology #FauxApology #HeartfeltApology #IntentionalCommunication #Lewicki #Lount #RobertLountJr #RoyLewicki #BethPolin #Humility:TheRarestVirtue #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #IntentionalCommunication
11 Helmi 20228min
Perspective Isn’t Reality
Your perspective isn’t reality. It represents your subjective and unique worldview, but it’s not objective, it’s not reality, and it is destined to be skewed in terms of your experiences. Some experiences are solidified in what are known as schemas and heuristics, which are the frameworks you use to organize and understand the world. Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3n6a2fzShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/social-skills-shownotesLearn more or get a free mini-book on conversation tactics at https://bit.ly/pkconsulting#Heuristic #IndependentThinker #JeanPiaget #MentalGuidelines #Piaget #Schema #PerspectiveIsn’tReality #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #TheIndependentThinker
9 Helmi 20229min
A Word On First Impressions—And Walking The Walk
• Dr. Jack Schafer’s friendship formula states that people build connections when they are in proximity to one another, when their interactions are frequent and long in duration, and when both parties get their needs met. • Schafer’s theory can be applied to flirting, especially in contexts where the three-part flirting process wouldn’t be appropriate. • Whichever approach you use (short-term flirting or longer-term connection-building) remember to go step by step, building gradually on pervious connection, and adjust your approach carefully based on how you’re being received.Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/ScienceOfAttractionShow notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/social-skills-shownotesLearn more or get a free mini-book on conversation tactics at https://bit.ly/pkconsulting#Attraction #AutomaticAssessments #BuildingAttraction #DrJackSchafer #FacialExpressions #NicolasGuéguen #PhysicalStrength #PickupLines #Posture #ProximityFrequencyDuration #Schafer #SexualAttractiveness #YogaCalisthenicsSports #AWordOnFirstImpressions—AndWalkingTheWalk #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #TheScienceofAttraction
7 Helmi 202214min
