shame series part 4: how toxic shame fuels dysfunctional family systems

shame series part 4: how toxic shame fuels dysfunctional family systems

This is part four of our multi-episode series aimed at helping you alchemize and transmute your toxic shame. In this episode, we’ll dive into the generational aspect of toxic shame and how it gets passed down and embedded into dysfunctional family systems. We’ll also discuss the various roles and rules in shame-based families and the pervasive impact this has on children in adulthood.

Check out the time stamps below for a more detailed description of the topics covered in this episode.

00:00 – 05:14: Intro + reflections

05:00 – 18:07: How toxic shame sabotages our most important relationships

18:07 – 33:13: A case study of how toxic shame gets passed down throughout generations

33:13 – 48:54: Exploration of the various dysfunctional family roles and their characteristics

48:54 – 01:09:54: Multi-generational shame cycles (how children develop toxic shame)

01:09:54 – 01:30:53: Dysfunctional rules in shame-based families

01:30:58 – 01:36:57: How to become more fully human with the “five freedoms” of Virginia Satir

01:46:37 – 01:59:46: Guided meditation and affirmation session to transmute toxic shame

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The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.

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