The Body Remembers: Reclaiming Pleasure Beyond Patriarchy

This episode was sparked by a conversation with a friend, and it just lit a fire in me. We started talking about how little we were taught about our bodies growing up, especially in the context of pleasure. I’m a child of the ’70s, so you can imagine what sex ed looked like back then (and honestly, not much has changed). It was all about avoiding pregnancy and STIs, with barely a whisper about female anatomy, consent, pleasure & orgasms. And that silence? It's by design.

We live in a culture that benefits from women not knowing the power of their own bodies. And when we don’t fully understand how our pleasure works, or even that we deserve it, it plays into broader patterns of disempowerment. Whether it’s in our sex lives, our careers, or even in medical appointments where we’re too often gaslit out of our experience. This lack of education both disadvantages and hurts us.

So today, I open up about my own journey with pleasure (including learning about clitoral orgasms from an old Cosmopolitan magazine sealed section!) and share stories that might sound a little too familiar. I also talk about the incredible range of orgasmic experiences we can have, and the fact that most of us have never even been taught how or that they’re even possible.

This is why I created the Anatomy of Pleasure masterclass, a six-week deep dive into the power, beauty, and science of your body. We explore everything from clitoral, G-zone, cervical, and nipple orgasms, to squirting, ejaculation, and whole-body ecstasy. This is the education we all should have had, but never got. And every single one of us deserves to have this knowledge.

So if you’ve ever felt disconnected from your sensuality, unsure of your body, or just curious to explore your own pleasure on a deeper level, this episode is for you. We’re talking empowerment, embodiment, and the liberation that comes from finally understanding the magic you’ve carried all along.

✨ Doors open soon and I’d love for you to be part of this journey. Get on the waitlist here: https://www.vilates.com/priority-waitlist2025 it’s going to be a life-changing reclamation of pleasure.

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LINKS === •Website: https://www.vilates.com/

•Rebirth 1:1 coaching: https://www.vilates.com/the-rebirth-intimate-coaching

•Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/

•Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB

•Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980

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Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.