257: Overcoming Accidental Accomplice to Fraud | Feedback Friday

Your dad is a pedophile. He's taken naked pictures of kids, including one of your cousins on your mom's side, and posted them online. He's been caught by the police, but he's been let go on some kind of probation. You don't know how to handle the situation. For some context, You're a high functioning autistic person. You're able to live on your own, take care of yourself, and hold down a full time job, but you have a lot of problems making and maintaining friendships and you have enough sensory issues that you don't like to leave your house any more than you need to. On the one hand, it would be a great relief to you if you never had to see or hear from your parents again. On the other hand, the number of people in your support network is already quite small, and you wouldn't want to lose contact with your sister, who has very severe mental health problems and is still living at home. What should you do? This is pretty dark and heavy territory, but we'll do our best to offer some real advice on this and much more in this Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/298. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan for his birthday this February? It'll be here sooner than you know it! Reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details if you want to go! Your significant other paid for you to attend college and supported you financially as you started out in your career. Now that you're on track financially, you're having relationship issues. How should money factor into a situation like this? Years ago, your mother and sister found out your father was having affairs with multiple women. It was devastating at the time, but you all eventually moved on when he agreed to stop. Today, you saw him with one of those women. How do you handle this? Your dad is a convicted pedophile on probation. You're a high-functioning autistic person living on your own who would love to never see your parents again, but you don't want to lose contact with your sister who still lives at home. What can you do? Do the potential networking, career, and social benefits of living in a big, expensive city outweigh the increased cost of living? Your girlfriend has been getting therapy to improve in academia from an unlicensed "life coach" who sells her expensive (and ultimately useless) gadgets, and now has the gall to tell her you're manipulative, controlling, and patronizing for not being supportive. How can you lovingly steer your girlfriend away from this shameless shyster? How you can communicate a barter proposal in an attractive... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

10 Tammi 202050min

Eric Thomas (@ericthomasbtc) is a motivational speaker, YouTube personality, podcaster, pastor, director of Breathe University, and author of several books, including The Secret to Success: When You Want to Succeed as Bad as You Want to Breathe. What We Discuss with Eric Thomas: How Eric Thomas went from homeless to PhD to become one of the world's top motivational speakers. How and why to get out of our psychological bubbles whether we're broke or millionaires. Why we do not have to accept life as it was given to us. How to break out of patterns and mindsets that no longer serve us. What taking responsibility for our own actions ultimately gives us (and what blaming others takes away). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/297 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Tammi 202058min

Tasha Eurich (@tashaeurich) is an organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times bestselling author of Insight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think. What We Discuss with Tasha Eurich: How to identify and navigate the invisible barriers to self-awareness. Why thinking about ourselves isn't related to knowing ourselves. How to deal with the woefully un-self-aware people in your life. How to use mindfulness to become more self-aware, and how to practice it without mantras. Why no one is telling you the truth about how you're coming across -- and why that's dangerous. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/296 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Tammi 20201h 12min

Shep Gordon (@SupermenschShep) is a talent manager, Hollywood film agent, producer, and author of They Call Me Supermensch: A Backstage Pass to the Amazing Worlds of Film, Food, and Rock'n'Roll. He is also the subject of Supermensch: The Legend of Shep Gordon -- a documentary by Mike Myers that chronicles his life and times. What We Discuss with Shep Gordon: How do you create history rather than waiting for it to happen? Do you have to be a jerk to make it in Hollywood? What's Shep's coupon system? What's the most selfish thing you can do? Is fame toxic? And so much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/295 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

31 Joulu 20191h 29min

You have a nephew who has a history of undressing, touching genitals, and dry humping smaller, weaker humans than himself. These humans either do not consent or are unable to consent. It's well known in your family that he can't be left alone with children. There have been numerous incidents with different witnesses and victims spread out over the years. Today this nephew is 20 years old and expecting a baby with his live-in girlfriend. You were horrified and began asking if this girlfriend knew about his history. No one seems to know if she's aware, but are strongly agreed that it's not any of your places to tell her. But you fear that if you don't tell her, no one will. Taking it upon yourself, what's the best way to deliver the news? And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/294. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan this February? It's filling up fast; reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details! Your nephew has had a history of being sexually abusive, and now he has a kid of his own on the way. While the rest of your family wants to ignore the problem, how do you step up and tell the mother-to-be? As a frequent employee of the month, you recently negotiated a raise to your salary only to discover that you're making the same amount as someone who was recently hired and is already on probation for dropping the ball too many times. Should you say something? The Jordan Harbinger Show is banned in China, possibly for allowing guests to air anti-government opinions (and, to be fair, facts). Do Jordan and Jen ever worry about extended family who may still live there being in danger as a result? As your uncle's sole beneficiary, you were left with a house he wanted the family to enjoy after he passed. Your other family members feel they should be entitled to their fair share of what the house is worth, though they're happy enough to leave you holding the bag for the funeral, legal, bills, upkeep, and yard work. What should you do? Two months ago, you earned and accepted a job transfer within the company where you've worked for 14 years. Unfortunately, the department you're leaving is understaffed and overworked, and the status of your transfer has been postponed indefinitely. How can you continue to advocate for your transfer date without seeming like you have a bad attitude? Is it time to just find a new job? Life Pro Tip: Winter is in full force in many places, so be sure to keep a bag of cat litter (for traction under your tires if you get stuck in the snow), a shovel, a hat, gloves, a blanket or... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Joulu 201942min

Zak Dychtwald (@zakdychtwald) is the Founder of think tank and consultancy Young China Group and author of Young China: How the Restless Generation Will Change Their Country and the World. What We Discuss with Zak Dychtwald: At 417 million strong, China has more millennials than North America, the Middle East, and Europe combined. Chinese millennials and its younger generations are experiencing -- and influencing -- a society and culture changing at 10 times the speed of what Western millennials have experienced. What this breakneck rate of change means for the childhood of someone growing up in modern China and the effect it has on his or her resulting worldview. Whether we view it as a collaborator, competitor, or consumer, this "Young China" is the single most important rising actor on the world stage. How Zak became fluent in Mandarin -- considered by the CIA to be the hardest language to learn in the world -- at the highest level in two and a half years instead of the customary six. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/293 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Joulu 20191h 3min

You've got two lovely kids, and you're perfectly content to stop there, but your spouse has other plans. How do you break the news you're not of like mind to have a third? We'll try to tackle this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/292. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your spouse has been pushing for a third child, but you figure two is enough. Is there a way to find common ground? Your sibling and their fiance have decided to get married on one of the few nights you can't get out of work. To whom do you owe your loyalty? Your mother stopped making payments on a parent loan taken out for your education, and now you're stuck with $28,000 in interest. What happens next? You accidentally fell asleep on the job, and if you don't adjust your time card, no one else would be the wiser. What should you do? Retiring from a professional athletic career, you wonder if your BA in economics will cut it for your next career move, or if you should go back to school? Your friend is publishing articles about his industry in order to raise his profile at work. But how do you tactfully suggest that his writing is sorely in need of editing? Life Pro Tip: If you're on a Mac, use Bartender, Endurance, FruitJuice, and iStat Menus. Recommendation of the Week: Broken Quick shout outs to Melissa Kellogg and Jon Bjork! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, join his podcasting club, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Joulu 201945min

When a family inheritance is split between two siblings, only one of them is given control over how the money is spent due to the other's penchant for get-rich-quick scams and bad investments. What can the family do to close the rift this power dynamic is causing while ensuring half of the inheritance isn't wasted on a pyramid scheme? This and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/290. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? It's filling up fast; reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details! Suggestions are in for how we should refer to our listener base! How can you keep your relative from wasting his inheritance on a pyramid scheme? Your current employer is ghosting your requests for owed vacation days and paperwork needed to transfer to a new job. How should you proceed? How can you renegotiate for a better salary when you gladly accepted an offer without negotiating in the first place? As a healthcare worker who sees death more often than most, how can you healthily deal with the spiritual void you feel thanks to a bad relationship with organized religion? When is it okay to stop banging your head against the system and just relax? What should you make of it when your wife of almost a decade out of the blue suggests that she wants you to get a girlfriend? How do you find a trustworthy guardian or fiduciary for the kids when the parents pass? [Thanks to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!] You're a female personal trainer with a dream to help gamers -- who are predominantly male -- live healthier lifestyles. How can you assure your husband of your safety? Life Pro Tip: When you replace "Why is this happening to me?" with "What do I need to do now?" everything shifts. Action ends suffering. Recommendation of the Week: Tell Me Who I Am Quick shout outs to Dave Olverson and Melody Wilding for recommending FollowUpThen -- and James Gibbins for recommending Tinyblu -- to the person who asked for a free CRM in See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Joulu 201951min