#446 Beyond the (Religious) Shame and How to Recreate Your Sex Life

Author, Podcaster, and Sex Educator extraordinaire, Dr. Jess O’Reilly joins us to answer your sex questions: How do I initiate sex when I lack confidence in the bedroom? Is there something wrong with my labia? How do I talk to my partner about my sexual trauma, and how can I heal?  What are your sex and dating tips for someone who is visually impaired?  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 19. About our guest: An award-winning speaker, Dr. Jess O’Reilly has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program. From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after. Jess is also co-host of the popular podcast Sex With Dr. Jess, and she contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media such as Women’s Health, Men’s Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. To learn more visit sexwithdrjess.com Other Links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Get $20 your first coaching session with code SHAMELESSSEX at nicoleduke.com

2 Maalis 202055min

Aida Manduley teaches us all about long-distance relationships and how to keep them fresh, connected and spicy.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 20.  Aida Manduley, LCSW is an award-winning Latinx activist, trauma-focused therapist, and sexuality educator known for big earrings and tackling taboos. Their politics are radical, their life is ridiculous, and their penchant for irreverence as intimacy is notorious. Manduley's current focus areas include community accountability, healing justice, and work centering queer and trans people of color. To learn more visit http://www.aidamanduley.com/ Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.com Easily connect with sexy women at mygirlfund.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com

25 Helmi 20201h 5min

Willow Brown is a Chinese Medicine Doctor and internationally recognized teacher of Taoist Sexology. Willow has studied the human body and it’s correspondence with nature extensively for over two decades. Her style is a blend of many modalities including Taoist Yoga, Qi Gong, acupuncture, nutrition, cranial sacral, and Sacred Sexuality. Her online programs and private practice focuses on women’s health, endocrine function, and sexuality. Willow guides women from low libido, emotional disharmony, menstrual disorders, menopause, infertility, and post-partum depression to return to their innate equanimity so they can create sustainable balance in their lives, feel in control of their emotions and raise their sensual frequencies for greater magnetism and increased orgasmic potential.                         Willow offers Taoist Sexology courses all around the world, inspiring women to  experience pleasure in ALL that they do.  To learn more about Willow's online courses, retreats and other offerings, visit yinwellness.com Link for the Sugar Challenge: https://yinwellness.com/get-off-sugar-completely-in-4-days-challenge/ Link for Sensuality Awakening Session: https://bookwithwillow.as.me/?appointmentType=9265806

21 Helmi 202051min

Why is pleasure so important, both in and out of the bedroom? How does the brain and hormonal system affect this? And how can people have sustainable pleasure in longterm relationships?  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 19. About our guest: Nan Wise, Ph.D., is a cognitive neuroscientist, professor, licensed psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, board-certified clinical hypnotherapist, and certified relationship specialist. After almost twenty years in clinical practice, she became driven to understand how the brain creates moods and behaviors in relation to sex and other aspects of human experience. Having returned to academia to pursue a Ph.D. in cognitive neuroscience, she is now a cognitive neuroscience researcher at Rutgers University-Newark. Dr. Nan has contributed her expert opinion to outlets such as National Geographic, The Atlantic, Time, Glamour, Women’s Health Magazine, The Washington Post, HuffPost, Romper, Bustle, and has an weekly column in Glamour, Ask Dr. Nan, in which she addresses sexual health questions from readers. To learn more visit askdoctornan.com Learn more about Amy's upcoming retreat March 13-15th, 2020 here: danielmollner.com Learn more about Amy's upcoming classes in Dallas, TX here: sarassecret.com Other links: Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Meditators have better sex! Start meditating with the Calm app + get 40% off when you visit calm.com/shameless Get $20 your first coaching session with code SHAMELESSSEX at nicoleduke.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com

18 Helmi 20201h 12min

In this episode we learn all about erotic touch techniques and how to be a phenomenal hands-on lover. Christina also shares about the mysterious A-Spot, a powerhouse for pleasure! Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 20 to dive right in. About our guest: Curiosity is Christina’s driving force. Being born during the Soviet Era in a conservative household that never spoke about sex unless it was telling adult jokes gave her an insatiable appetite to dive deep in the world of sexuality. She’s been studying sexuality for more than 14 years and she believes that the secret to the universe is between our legs. She’s traveled to over 60 countries speaking, giving workshops and learning from other great teachers. She’s on a mission to bring sexuality out of the dark ages where our sexuality becomes the source of our peace and happiness instead of the source of our shame, guilt, trauma, pain, and anxiety. To learn more visit confidentlovers.com For Christina's article on how to find a good erotic massage practitioner: https://www.confidentlovers.com/tantra-massage/ For more info on the A-Spot: https://www.confidentlovers.com/what-is-the-a-spot/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Th4Y9J3iK5Y Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Want clinically proven science-backed multi-vitamins made from the best ingredients? Go to ritual.com/SHAMELESSSEX and get 10% off during your first 3 months  Schedule your own erotic storytelling photoshoot with our favorite photographer couple/duo at https://tadamphoto.com/ Take Amy's workshop in Dallas by visiting www.sarassecret.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com

11 Helmi 20201h 9min

How does the pill affect sexual responsiveness, choice of partner, or even seemingly unrelated life choices like career or attainment of higher education? And what should we be doing to better educate and inform women about their choices, bodies, and options? We also answer a sex question: I want more kissing and intimacy in my relationship.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 19.  About our guest: A leading researcher in the dynamic and rapidly expanding field of evolutionary psychology Sarah E. Hill completed her PhD at UT Austin and is now a professor at TCU. She is also the author of the new book, THIS IS YOUR BRAIN ON BIRTH CONTROL: THE SURPRISING SCIENCE OF WOMEN, HORMONES, AND THE LAW OF UNINTENDED CONSEQUENCES. With more than fifty scientific publications and multiple prestigious research grants to her credit, Dr. Hill has become an authority on evolutionary approaches to psychology and health. She has been quoted in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Scientific American, and The Economist. To learn more visit www.sarahehill.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.com Get $20 your first coaching session with code SHAMELESSSEX at nicoleduke.com Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com

4 Helmi 202055min

The intro of the episode is about some of our favorite sex toys, as well as some awesome Valentine's Day activity and gift recommendations including as few that won't cost you a thing.  The interview of the podcast is all about navigating non-traditional relationships including non-monogamy and anything beyond the traditional "get married to one person forever" way of being. Our guest also helps us answer some of your sex questions about non-monogamy. To checkout the Clone-a-Willy and Clone-a-Pussy go to www.cloneawilly.com and use code SHAMELESSSEX for 20% off.  To checkout the We-Vibe Chorus and Moxie go to We-Vibe.com and use code Shameless for 5% off plus free shipping.  Want to fast forward to the interview? Skip ahead to minute 34 (Note - our mic disconnected during the recording, so we apologize for the poor sound quality).  Kitty Chambliss is a #1 Amazon Best Selling author of Jealousy Survival Guide: How to feel safe, happy, and secure in an open relationship. She is also a relationship coach, keynote speaker, polyamorous and sex-positive activist, and founder of Loving Without Boundaries (LWB) - specializing in helping people in non-traditional relationships navigate the challenging emotions that often arise in such dynamics. Kitty has made it her life’s mission to make thriving relationships – even unconventional ones – attainable to everyone. She is also the host of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast - available on all of the apps. To learn more visit lovingwithoutboundaries.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Meditators have better sex! Start meditating with the Calm app + get 40% off when you visit calm.com/shameless Get $20 your first coaching session with code SHAMELESSSEX at nicoleduke.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com

28 Tammi 20201h 19min

Anthony Asanti is a Straight Male Escort providing warm, sensual professional companionship to women and couples. He is skilled in multiple healing techniques including sensual massage and Bondassage. To learn more visit anthonyasanti.com

24 Tammi 202019min