#446 Beyond the (Religious) Shame and How to Recreate Your Sex Life

What are the common reasons people stray from their partners? How common is it and how do folks rebuild relationships after infidelity? And what is the "New Monogamy" all about?  We also answer a sex question: How can I reconnect to myself and learn to relax with my partner after sexual trauma? Dr. Tammy Nelson PhD is an internationally acclaimed psychotherapist and TEDx speaker and the author of several books including, “Getting the Sex You Want,  “The New Monogamy; and her latest book "When You're the One Who Cheats."  She has been a featured expert in the NY Times, Washington Post, Wall Street Journal, CNN, Rolling Stone Magazine, TIME, and a source in Time Magazine. She writes for Huffington Post, ThriveGlobal, Medium and has a new podcast, The Trouble with Sex.  Dr. Tammy is a Board Certified Sexologist, a Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Relationship Therapist. She can be found at drtammynelson.com   Some other links we talk about:  Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Learn more about sexological bodywork with River Drosera at riverdrosera.life Access your free 30-day trial to Open Fit by texting sspodcast to 303030

4 Kesä 20191h 12min

Charlie Glickman returns to teach us all about the ins and outs of awesome anal sex! We also answer a sex question: I feel shame about the fact that I can only climax when I touch myself. How can I change this? Charlie Glickman PhD is a sex & relationship coach, a sexuality educator, a sexological bodyworker, and an internationally-acclaimed speaker. He’s been working in this field for over 25 years, and some of his areas of focus include sex & shame, sex-positivity, queer issues, masculinity & gender, communities of erotic affiliation, and many sexual & relationship practices. Charlie is also the co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners. Find out more about him on his website MakeSexEasy.com or on Facebook/charlie.glickman.  Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Be the first to get Margins Wine's new releases by signing up for their newsletter at marginswine.com Get 10% off during your first three months at ritual.com/SHAMELESSSEX

28 Touko 20191h 37min

Dr. Alison Ash returns to teach us about the five tenets of CHAMP quality pu$$y eating. We chat about orgasms, attunement, technique, and more. We also answer a sex question: How do I get over my jealousy about my partner looking at other women on Instagram? About our speaker: Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach, sexual empowerment educator, author, and founder of TurnON.love. A champion for others overcoming shame and deepening pleasure, Aly helps her clients experience the kinds of sexual interactions and romantic relationships they long for.    As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in the Hakomi method of psychotherapy as well as Somatica model of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves.  Aly designs workshops and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them. She invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and...love at www.TurnON.love Some other links we chat about: Come to our June 29th, 2019 workshop at Diamond Adult World, Grover Beach Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com Learn more about sexological bodywork with River Drosera at riverdrosera.life

20 Touko 20191h 5min

Laura Delarato is a writer, video maker, body image activist artist and sex educator based in NYC. Her art and essays have appeared in Travel + Leisure, Refinery29, NBC, BeautyCon, Men’s Health, Huffpost, Allure, Ravishly, Revelist, Salty Mag, The Horizontal, and Le Wand and she has spoken on the topics of body image and wellness at Decoded Future Summit, ProjectHEAL, Body Politic NYC, The Brooklyn Sex Expo, and Fusion Academy. Her work is deeply planted within body politics, fitness, sex education and plus size representation. Follow Laura on Instagram at @heylauraheyyy where she posts about body acceptance, erotic art, and wellness. To learn more visit lauradelarato.com

18 Touko 201935min

In this episode we chat with author, sex coach and Sexological Bodyworker Xanet Pailet all about sexless marriages and relationships. How common is it (hint - it's more common than you may think)? What are the signs that someone may be heading towards a sexless relationship? Why is this happening? What can partners do to keep the fire burning? Xanet Pailet, best selling author of the new book, Living an Orgasmic Life, is a recovered NYC health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach. She believes that pleasure is our birthright and is passionate about helping folks find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure. She works with couples who are in sexless marriages and women and men who have experienced abuse and trauma. She helps them heal their wounds, release their shame, and reconnect with their desire and sexuality. She offers 1:1 coaching and online group programs to empower women around their sexuality and strengthen couples’ relationship and intimacy skills. Learn more at powerofpleasure.com Some other links we chat about: Come to our June 29th, 2019 workshop at Diamond Adult World, Grover Beach Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com Learn more about sexological bodywork with River Drosera at riverdrosera.life

14 Touko 201949min

In this episode we chat with Sex Educator Reid Mihalko all about threesomes! How do we negotiate threesomes with potential (and current) partners? Where do we find a third? What about safety and consent? And how do we make threesomes playful and fun? We also answer a sex question: How to navigate a date night visit to a sex shop without feeling awkward. About Reid: Sex and relationship geek Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com helps adults and college students create more self-esteem, self-confidence, and greater health and accountability in their relationships and sex lives using an inspiring mixture of humor, personal stories, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information. In early 2018, some very brave people came forward sharing harms that Reid had caused them. Reid stepped down from teaching and initiated a restorative justice-based accountability process to address his misconduct and make amends if and where possible. The formal, year-long process along with Reid’s apology and resources were shared publicly and can be found at TinyURL.com/reidaccountability. Going forward, Reid’s projects and appearances will include pointing people towards resources and experts on restorative and transformative justice-based accountability processes. Reid teaches internationally, running workshops and speaking on communication skills, alternative relationship styles, and shame-free sexuality. Whether online, on stage, or at a college or university, Reid shares skills and concepts designed to help everyone be the change they want to see in the bedroom. Reid’s workshops and college lectures have been attended by over 50,000 people from all over the globe. He has appeared in media such as Netflix’ Chelsea Does... with Chelsea Handler, Oprah's Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil's The Doctors on CBS, Bravo's Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, The Washington Post, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages Reid is also founder of Sex Geek Summer Camp, Sex Geek Conservatory, and Sex Geek School for Gifted Sex Geeks, which help sex educators learn valuable business skills that allow them to reach more people with greater ease, transform more lives, and make a better living as sexperts. Follow Reid on Twitter and Facebook and YouTube and Instagram.   Some other resources we mention: Start meditating now with this easy-to-use app + get 25% off of a Calm premium subscription by visiting calm.com/shamelesssex Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com

5 Touko 20191h 30min

Here’s a sneak peak into a new podcast for you: Purple Panties is an erotic fiction story created by New York Times best-selling author Zane. On the outside Maddox, Loren and Stephanie go against the grain when it comes to sex. But as relationships shift and physical needs change, can they keep up with the facade? Follow them on their journey as they navigate their professional and personal lives. The sun isn’t the only thing hot in Atlanta… Purple Panties is now free in your podcast app. Check it out or visit purplepantiespodcast.com

3 Touko 20195min

How can mamas reclaim their sensuality after kids? How can busy mamas (or all people) invite pleasure into their daily lives - in and out of the bedroom? And how can couples reignite the fire in long-term relationships?  Also, guess who's now single? Tune in to learn more! About our guest: Dana B. Myers is an award-winning product developer, entrepreneur, author, and media personality.  As Founder of Booty Parlor, Dana has changed the lives of thousands of women by inspiring them to boost their sensual self-confidence and create sexier, more satisfying relationships. Known for her frank yet empowering style, Dana helps her clients reclaim the power of their sensuality and sexual satisfaction through her coaching practice and live workshops. Her advice, and Booty Parlor’s products, have been featured by Marie Claire, Women’s Health, Parents, Redbook, Nylon, Allure, and the Wall Street Journal. Dana has appeared on ABC Nightline, Good Morning America, Access Hollywood Live, The Wendy Williams Show, and more. Her most recent book, The Mommy Mojo Makeover: 28 Tools to Rediscover Yourself and Reignite Your Relationship, was published in 2018 by VivaEditions. To learn more visit https://danabmyers.com/ Some other links mentioned in the podcast: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESS20 at blue boutique.com  Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com Get 10% off during your first three months at ritual.com/SHAMELESSSEX

30 Huhti 20191h 17min