#446 Beyond the (Religious) Shame and How to Recreate Your Sex Life

In this episode we have a playful yet informative with Disability Awareness Consultant, Cripple Content Creator and host go the Disability After Dark Podcast, Andrew Gurza. Why do people have so much fear when it comes to talking about disability (and sex)? What should listeners should know about sex and disability? What about the fun and the vulnerability around sex and disability?  We also answer the sex question: My wife loves her vibrator but rarely uses it without me. Should I encourage her? Is she missing out on something?  About Andrew: Andrew Gurza is a Disability Awareness Consultant and Cripple Content Creator whose written work has been featured in Men's Health, Daily Xtra, Gay Times UK, Huffington Post, The Advocate, Everyday Feminism, Mashable, and Out.com, and several anthologies. He has guested on a number of podcasts including Dan Savage’s Savage Love and Cameron Esposito’s Queery. He has spoken all over North America on sex, disability and what it means to be a Queer Cripple. He is also the host of the DisabilityAfterDark: The Podcast Shining a Bright Light on Sex and Disability available on all podcast platforms. You can follow the podcast @disaftdarkpod. He is also the creator of the viral hashtag #DisabledPeopleAreHot. You can find out more about Andrew by going to www.andrewgurza.com & connecting with him on Twitter @andrewgurza.  Some other links mentioned in the podcast: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESS20 at blue boutique.com  Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com Feel good inside and out (on your own time!) + get a 30 day free trial with OpenFit by texting sspodcast to 303030

23 Huhti 20191h 12min

What is vulva mapping and Sexological Bodywork? How can a vulva mapping session help a vulva-owner to awaken sensation and expand orgasmic potential? How does this apply to lovers/partners? Our special guest, Dolly Josette, answers this and much much more (believe us...you are probably going to want to learn all about how to get your own genital mapping session after listening to this episode).  And guess what? Dolly is offering a FREE SESSION to one of the winners of our upcoming Instagram campaign for Masturbation May. Be sure to follow us on Insta to learn more.  Dolly is also the lead organizer for the upcoming Sexological Bodyworker training in LA. To learn more visit SexbodLA.com  Oh, and if you are in the Santa Cruz, CA, are Dolly is teaching a workshop at Pure Pleasure Shop on May 15th, 2019! More about Dolly: Dolly Josette is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Sex Educator, & Relationship and Intimacy Coach, committed to seeing her clients relish in love, intimacy and perpetual fireworks. Her specialties are connection, acceptance, and relaxing her clients' nervous systems so they can begin to unwind layers of shame, routine, pain, or numbness.  Dolly teaches embodiment and attunement in a nurturing and playful approach that helps her clients prioritize pleasure and expression through self-acceptance, positive body image, movement, breath, and touch. Checkout Dolly in May 2019’s issue of cosmo. Learn more at pleasuremuse.com Some other links mentioned in the podcast: Start meditating now with this easy-to-use app + get 25% off of a Calm premium subscription by visiting calm.com/shamelesssex Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESS20 at blue boutique.com  Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com

16 Huhti 20191h 10min

This episode features Amy’s beloved therapist, teacher, guide and mentor, Dr. Nicola Amadora. We talk all about relationship – with the self and with others – and tools for deeper, more profound connection. Nicola teaches us how to break through our protective walls as a means of tapping into more LOVE and ALIVENESS, including “getting naked without taking our cloths off”. And we talk about how it all translates to juicy sex ;) We also answer the sex question: My partner put on weight and I’m not very attracted to him these days. How can I improve my feelings for him? Dr. Nicola Amadora is an accomplished leader, therapist, speaker, writer and spiritual teacher. Her passion and gift is to support people to live, lead and relate with presence, connection and wholeheartedness in the world. For 30 years she has worked both in Europe and the USA with organizations, communities, groups, families, couples and individuals. In all her work, Dr. Amadora offers a rich banquet of life experience, high-level professional expertise, a deep well of wisdom and great heart to contribute to positive change in people and our world. Nicola is known for her integrity with a fierce, tender love for all beings. Nicola Amadora, Ph.D. holds University degrees in Transpersonal Psychology (JFK and IPS) and Clinical Social Work (FHS). She is a certified Hakomi Therapist (Hakomi Institute) , certified Dharma Leader (Vipassana Center, Spirit Rock), Mindfulness Teacher (Mindfulness Program Jon Kabat Zinn), Certified Meditation Teacher (Yogananda Center), , Universal Peacedance Leader (Sufi Order), Diplom Horseriding Therapist (Swize Equine Therapy Center), Rev. Interfaith Minister (New York Seminary), Mediator (JFK University), Parent Leader (Parentleadership Institute), Non Violent Communication& Conflict Resolution (NVC Center), Women Wisdom& Empowerment, Leadership and Relationship Trainer (International Education). To learn more visit nicolaamadora.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESS20 at blue boutique.com  Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com To learn more about the American Sex Podcast visit sunnymegatron.com

9 Huhti 20191h 31min

What is kink and how do I know if I'm kinky? How do I start to explore my kink, and how do I talk about it with my partner?   We also answer a sex question: I'm a healthy 42 year old man, married to my beautiful queen, and I have a hard time getting/keeping an erection. Please help. About our guest: Mike Rozycki has been active in his local kink communities since 2005. In 2018, he and his business partner started JoyMill, a company dedicated to customized kink gear. You can sign up for their mailing list and try their beta experience at www.joymill.com. Be sure to sign up for the mailing list to get first access to discounts, new products, etc. Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com

2 Huhti 20191h 10min

In this episode we dive deep into female sexual arousal with award-winning author, Wholistic Sexuality teacher and medical professional, Sheri Winston. Why have women’s body parts gone missing in history? How does female ejaculation happen on a cellular level? What are some tips for female-bodied folks who want to experience more orgasmic abundance? What about partners who want to up their pleasure skills? We also answer part 2 to last week's sex question about a cis-man with no/very low libido.  About Sheri: Sheri Winston is a celebrated sexuality teacher, award-winning author and medical professional. Sheri’s 2010 book, Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure (also available on audible) won the 2010 Book of the Year award from AASECT. Sheri’s 2014 book, the visionary yet practical Succulent SexCraft: Your Hands-On Guide to Erotic Play and Practice, offers a detailed road map to supercharging your erotic life and becoming sexually whole and empowered. With its wealth of ideas, practices and games, readers are able to access extraordinary pleasure, overcome challenges and learn to play masterfully with their inner ‘sexcraft’ toolkit. Sheri’s Wholistic Sexuality™ curriculum has over 50 classes covering subjects such as orgasmic abundance for men and women, integral genital anatomy, expanded arousal, sex and relationship skills, and holistic sexual and women’s reproductive health. Learn more at intimateartscenter.com  Start meditating now with this easy-to-use app + get 25% off of a Calm premium subscription by visiting calm.com/shamelesssex Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com

26 Maalis 20191h 11min

What are the most common fantasies people have? Where do they come from? Why do we have them? And how do I talk to my partner about my fantasies? How can we bring fantasy into real life?  Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011 and he has published articles in numerous media outlets, including Playboy, USA Today, VICE, Politico, and New York Magazine. To learn more visit sexandpsychology.com We also answer a sex question: I’m a straight man engaged to a beautiful woman, but I never crave sex. For some of our favorite sexy products: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com   We are a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts network

19 Maalis 20191h 2min

What do I do if my partner asks me to do role-play and I'm uncomfortable with being in the spotlight? How does one learn how to do authentic yet sexy role-play? And what about dominance? Can I learn how to tap into my most confident, dominant self (even when I don't feel it in everyday life)? Join us for this playful yet informative episode with world renown sex educator, Midori. We talk about role-play, dominance, outing the awkward, confidence, making negotiation sexy, and more!  We also answer a sex question: I feel like I'm the one who is always initiating sex. How do I get my partner to initiate more often?  About Midori: Dan Savage calls Midori “The Supernova of Kink!” She is an artistic visionary who has touched lives across the globe with her expertise in sexuality, personal fulfillment, and kinky adventures. Using her “head-heart-hands” methodology she facilitates tackling challenging topics and creating space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Her passion is fully on display in her transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive, and The Wanted Man intensive with Marcia Baczynski. For more information on her upcoming classes and events, please visit: http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes For some of our favorite sexy products: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com

12 Maalis 20191h 12min

In this episode we chat with Dr. Lee Phillips about chronic illness and chronic pain and how they affect sex and relationships. Dr. Phillips shares tools such as sensate focus, as well as ways partners can support their loved ones with chronic illness.  We also answer a sex question: Great sex during an affair...should I leave my husband?  About our guest: Dr. Melvin L. Phillips, Jr., is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a private practice in Washington, DC where he treats chronic illness and sexual dysfunction, as well as the author of the upcoming book Sex and Love When You Are Sick, due to release in late 2019. He is a speaker and has lectured on topics including preventative services, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, ethical decision making, and the assessment of mental disorders. To learn more visit www.drleephillips.com

5 Maalis 20191h 5min