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In this episode... Sebastiaan shares a comment from Afua, who participated in The 7 Day Social Confidence Challenge.  Afua writes about feeling intense anxiety and frustration with her social anxiety, but she found relief and a shift in perspective after tapping along with a video. Sebastiaan explains that reality is just a perception, and that our belief system influences our interpretation of events and circumstances.  We can overcome Social Anxiety and live our lives the way we want by tapping into and changing our perspective.  Are you looking for ways to shift your perspective? Get our FREE Mini course: "The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence" https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast ______ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

9 Touko 20236min

In this episode… Sebastiaan shares three tips for dealing with silence in a conversation. He begins by telling a personal story from two decades ago about approaching a girl on the bus. He shares how he struggled with the awkward silence in this social situation. He describes how this made him cringe, self-conscious, and feel hugely pressured to fill in the silence. He explains the 7 common reasons why we struggle with silence in a conversation: 1. Worrying 2. Fear of awkwardness 3. Pressure to fill in the silence 4. Self-consciousness 5. Misinterpreting 6. Fear of negative judgment 7. Insecurity of your social skills He then teaches three quick fixes for dealing with and being at ease with silence. While these tips can be helpful when you're already in a social situation, he highlighted that these are just surface-level tips. He clarifies that it is our belief system that causes discomfort during silence, which can be effectively addressed through tapping. If you want to learn more about how to be comfortable in social situations, get our FREE Mini Course: "The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence" https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow Click here to listen to one of the interviews with former Social Anxiety disorder sufferers mentioned by Sebastiaan in the podcast. Go here for show notes page. ______ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

4 Touko 202310min

In this episode... Sebastiaan shares a testimonial from a lady named Sally who tapped along with the guided tapping session "Expanding your Comfort Zone."  Sally took part in the recent free 7 Day Social Confidence Challenge. At the end, she felt hopeful and excited about expanding her comfort zone without feeling forced. Sebastiaan explains tapping allows you to imagine and visualize difficult social situations so we can address the negative emotions from the comfort of your own home. Start your Journey To Effortless Social Ease by getting our FREE Mini Course: The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast ______ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

2 Touko 20235min

In this episode... Sebastiaan shares a guided visualization to help individuals overcome Social Anxiety. He guides viewers to focus on their five senses and breathing while imagining scenarios where they no longer have Social Anxiety. These scenarios involve imagining that you are at ease, happy, and proud of yourself, and that you have no need for approval or acceptance from others.  The visualization ends with individuals feel more relaxed, calm, confident and happy with who they are. Get our FREE Mini course: The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast Go here for show notes page. ______ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

28 Huhti 202318min

In this episode... Sebastiaan features a positive comment from Shant, who took part in free The 7 Day Challenge. Shant describes how the process helped him shift his perspective toward expanding his comfort zone rather than stepping outside of it.  Sebastiaan explains how energy psychology, specifically tapping, can help release the reasons for the fear in the first place, allowing people to face their fears calmly and at ease. This reality testing modifies beliefs and shifts perspectives, resulting in positive experiences and increased Social Ease. Want to expand your comfort zone? Get our FREE Mini course: The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast ______ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

25 Huhti 20235min

In this episode... Sebastiaan explains how Social Ease differs from Social Confidence, which is a performance-based approach to socializing. Instead, Social Ease is about self-acceptance, being comfortable with who you are, and feeling safe to be yourself.  To achieve Social Ease, it is necessary to eliminate limiting beliefs, emotional cycles, and negative fantasies that prevent you from feeling at ease in social situations. This can be accomplished by tapping into and shifting beliefs about social interactions.  Sebastiaan offers a FREE Mini Course titled "The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence" that can be accessed by going to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast Note: In this episode, you will hear "check out the video testimonials of my former clients". To watch those, go here and here.  Go here for show notes page.______ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

20 Huhti 20239min

In this episode... Sebastiaan shares a testimonial from Isobel, a participant in The 7 Day Social Confidence Challenge, which involves tapping and other psychological concepts.  While tapping is the main focus of the challenge, he explains that it is combined with other therapies and techniques to achieve the best results.  Isobel's comment reflects that she is more hopeful about the outcome of tapping and more confident about expanding her comfort zone.  Sebastiaan emphasizes that this challenge is about making small shifts and changes rather than expecting overnight transformation. You can also experience these small shifts that lead to Social Confidence by combining tapping with other therapeutic approaches and by getting our FREE Mini Course: The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence. https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow ______ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

18 Huhti 20236min

In this episode... Sebastiaan talks about his initial resistance to the idea of acceptance, but explains that it is an essential piece of the puzzle for overcoming social anxiety. He debunks common myths about acceptance, such as the belief that it means giving up or being okay with being socially anxious for life and discusses the benefits of practicing acceptance, such as reducing shame and fostering a more self-compassionate attitude. Sebastiaan offers a simple tapping exercise to practice acceptance and reduce the intensity and duration of Social Anxiety. Although the Social Confidence Club is not currently open for registration, you can get started by getting our FREE Mini course, "The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence." https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow Go here for the show notes page.  ______ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb

13 Huhti 202322min