Are You a Grudge Holder or a Revenge Seeker? Here's How It's Hurting You – And How To Get Over It | James Kimmel, Jr.

Are You a Grudge Holder or a Revenge Seeker? Here's How It's Hurting You – And How To Get Over It | James Kimmel, Jr.

The psychology and neuroscience of revenge.

James Kimmel, Jr. is a lecturer in psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine, an expert on revenge, a lawyer, and the founder and co-director of the Yale Collaborative for Motive Control Studies. He is the creator of The Nonjustice System, the Miracle Court app, and SavingCain.org for recovering from grievances and revenge desires and preventing mass violence. His most recent book is The Science of Revenge: Understanding the World's Deadliest Addiction—and How to Overcome It.



In this episode we talk about:

  • The horrific and violent bullying he endured as a child—which provoked his interest in the subject of revenge
  • The connection between revenge and addiction
  • Our evolutionary programming for revenge
  • Practical strategies for when you feel wronged
  • How to seek justice without revenge
  • An antidote to revenge cravings
  • And much more



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