Toddler Tantrums Are Not What You Think (What Actually Helps in the Moment) with Devon Kuntzman, Episode #152

If your toddler’s big emotions are leaving you feeling overwhelmed, stuck in power struggles, or constantly second-guessing your approach, you’re not alone. Toddler tantrums, meltdowns, and boundary-pushing can be some of the most exhausting moments in parenting.

In this episode, we’re joined by Devon Kuntzman, founder of Transforming Toddlerhood and one of today’s leading voices in positive toddler parenting. Devon challenges the idea of the “terrible twos” and invites us to see toddlerhood for what it really is — a critical stage of emotional development, brain growth, and connection.

We explore what’s actually happening beneath toddler tantrums and big feelings, why traditional discipline strategies often lead to more resistance, and how parents can respond in ways that support emotional regulation in children while still holding clear, loving boundaries.

This conversation will help you move away from daily power struggles and toward a more connected, confident approach to parenting your toddler.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why toddler tantrums happen and what’s driving the behavior

• How to respond to big feelings without yelling, punishment, or giving in

• What it really means to set boundaries with connection and consistency

• How to support your child’s emotional regulation and independence

• Practical parenting strategies to reduce power struggles and build cooperation

Toddlerhood can feel intense — but it’s also one of the most important windows for building trust, emotional resilience, and lifelong connection. With the right tools and understanding, these hard moments can become opportunities for growth instead of daily battles.

If you’ve ever wondered how to stay calm, set limits, and still feel connected to your child, this episode will meet you with both reassurance and real-life strategies you can use right away.

Devon’s wonderful new book Transforming Toddlerhood is now available:

https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/book/

To learn more about Devon and her work, visit:

https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/

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