205: It’s In Your Hands: Building Emotional Resilience with Dr Jane Foster

205: It’s In Your Hands: Building Emotional Resilience with Dr Jane Foster

In this powerful and uplifting episode of The Penis Project Podcast, Melissa Hadley Barrett is joined by Dr Jane Foster, an educator and author who’s spent more than 40 years helping people understand and manage their emotions.

Jane’s groundbreaking “steering-wheel” metaphor teaches us that while we can’t control life’s bumpy roads, we can control how we steer through them. Her simple, evidence-based approach to emotional resilience encourages us to replace judgment and blame with choice and responsibility.

Together, Melissa and Jane explore how our emotions, stress responses, and everyday habits shape mental and physical well-being — from coping with anxiety and overwhelm to managing relationship challenges and recovering from life’s rough patches.

In This Episode, We Cover:

  • How emotional resilience begins with understanding your “steering wheel” — you choose how you respond.
  • Why rough roads (stress, setbacks, grief) are vital for personal growth.
  • The importance of shifting language: swapping “good and bad” for “rough and smooth” to remove self-judgment.
  • Jane’s research on how simple daily SMS reminders transformed emotional well-being — and even saved lives.
  • The concept of TEPS and PETS: identifying everyday triggers (TEPS) and creating healthy coping strategies (PETS).
  • How partners can use this model to communicate better and manage intimacy challenges after illness or surgery.
  • Practical tools for dealing with overwhelm, from mindful breathing to setting boundaries and creating space for recovery.

Key Takeaways:

  • You can’t control the road, but you can control your steering.
  • Emotional resilience is a skill — built by practicing calm responses on life’s rough roads.
  • Reframing our language reduces guilt and self-criticism, improving relationships and mental health.
  • Stress, anger, and anxiety aren’t “bad” — they’re part of a healthy pulse of life.
  • Small daily actions (your PETS) can prevent emotional overload and support long-term well-being.

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett

  • Melissa reflects on how Jane’s approach can be applied in men’s health — especially for those recovering from prostate cancer or experiencing sexual dysfunction. Learning to recognize emotional “rough roads” and respond with awareness can make a huge difference to physical recovery, relationship harmony, and confidence.

Resources & Links:

  • Dr Jane Foster Website: emotionalresiliencetraining.com.au Book: It’s In Your Hands – Your Steering Wheel, Your Choice (available via website & Audible) Follow Jane on Instagram, Facebook & LinkedIn

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135.Losing Weight After Prostate Cancer Diagnosis; Star Trek Paul

135.Losing Weight After Prostate Cancer Diagnosis; Star Trek Paul

If you’re looking to lose weight and have been finding it difficult, this might just be the podcast for you. In just two months, our guest for today lost 9 kgs. ;)     Meet Paul. We also have our guest host, Kendall.   Paul was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer last April 2022.   After bum checks, MRI, and a biopsy - his results were in and you guessed it he had prostate cancer.  Paul is not aware of any family history relating to prostate cancer so this was a shock to him. But it also became a wake-up call and a step towards his weight loss journey and better health in general.   Together with Kendall, he was able to lose 9 kilograms 2 months and lost 6 centimeters (about 2.36 in) around his waist.  Much like many others, Paul also learned how bad alcohol is when it comes to continence. So instead of having beer every day, he drinks it only on ‘cheat days’. He has also realised the affect alcohol consumption has on his weight loss.   He has been sleeping better, doing tons of walks, and eating healthy to aid weight loss.   Prior to diagnosis, Paul was taking testosterone injections which had to be discontinued before the surgery. After a good prognosis and getting to his doctor, he started using a daily gel - which was easier than the testosterone injections.   Paul acknowledges that he has been well looked after by his medical team and that this podcast was like a ‘school he was going to’ with Melissa and Dr Jo as his classmates.   Do you also feel the same as Paul, that this podcast is like a school you go to? Of course, with Dr Jo and Melissa being your chatty & giggly schoolmates. 😉    Enjoy listening!  ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

10 Touko 202336min

134. Joe’s Prostate CancerJourney

134. Joe’s Prostate CancerJourney

For today’s episode, we have Joe. Joe was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer before his daughter’s wedding. A difficult decision had to be made whether to have his surgery before or after the event. But due to possible Covid restrictions, Joe ultimately chose to have his operation prior. And that he did. Successfully. Despite the operation, he was able to walk his daughter to the altar. From Joe’s perspective, he knows that his Prostate Cancer journey is different from all the others, which is the case for everyone. And his message is this; Don’t be afraid. Take it on. Everything will be fine in the end. To listen to Joe’s story, click the button below. ;) ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

2 Touko 202332min

133. Melissa’s Talk on Sexual Dysfunction

133. Melissa’s Talk on Sexual Dysfunction

For this episode, get to hear Melissa as she presents her talk on sexual dysfunction, patient perceptions, and more to health practitioners - another step taken to help bridge the gap for Men’s Health.   This is the last of the series of Melissa’s Talks. So stay tuned for regular programming next week!   To fully enjoy the presentation, feel free to watch the video here. https://youtu.be/OzBXdeWVW68   Full shownotes:  https://thepenisproject.org/133-melissas-talk-on-sexual-dysfunction/ ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rshealth_perth/   Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

25 Huhti 202355min

132. Melissa’s Radio Interview

132. Melissa’s Radio Interview

For this episode, get to hear Melissa’s Plenty Valley FM radio interview - a station all the way from Melbourne. This just shows how The Penis Project is reaching men. So thank you to everyone who is spreading the word and sharing information so we can continue bridging the gap in men’s health care. Enjoy listening! ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

19 Huhti 202321min

131. Melissa in NZ

131. Melissa in NZ

Last March, Melissa and Dr Jo were invited to speak at a conference in New Zealand. And… you’ll be able to listen to one of those talks, today! For this episode, you’ll get to know more about what Melissa and Dr Jo are doing for Men’s health and how they close, bridge, or fill the gap in Men’s Health. Most especially, how The Penis Project podcast came to be. Have fun listening! And if you’re interested to have Melissa or Dr Jo in an event, please feel free to reach out and we’ll be honored to be your guests. ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/ Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

12 Huhti 202329min

130. Lonely Nights, A Poem Reading Episode

130. Lonely Nights, A Poem Reading Episode

It’s the Easter Week and we’d love for you to enjoy this poem as you take a break. ;)     This poem is written by Steve Jones, entitled Lonely Nights.   Enjoy!     For anyone who would like to share their poems and want us to read it for you, we are up for it! ;)     Have a great Easter week to those celebrating.   ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

5 Huhti 20235min

129. The Universe of Deliciousness, With Author Julia Hollenbery

129. The Universe of Deliciousness, With Author Julia Hollenbery

Get ready for a sultry, pleasurable episode with our guest Julia.   For today’s episode, we speak with Julia. Julia is the author of the book entitled The Healing Power of Pleasure, Seven Medicines for Rediscovering the Innate Joy of Being. This book is a step-by-step guide to creating a happier, more sensual, and conscious life for you.   What you’ll be listening today will be quite extraordinary - by extra we mean a voice so sultry that when you hear it, we’re sure you’ll stop whatever it is you’re doing and just… listen.   It’s an episode about pleasure, body, sex, touch, sizes, life, and sensuality.   From Julia’s words and the episode’s takeaway - tremendous beauty and pleasure is possible.   How? That’s what exactly the episode will be about.   Click the play button below to start listening to Julia, Dr Jo, and Melissa in this sultry-licious episode. A first of its kind. ;)   ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

29 Maalis 20231h 9min

128. Pills, Pumps, P Injections Easily Explained, Steve’s Journey Know how these 3 works

128. Pills, Pumps, P Injections Easily Explained, Steve’s Journey Know how these 3 works

For today’s episode, we’ll hear back from Steve - the poet who didn’t know it.   Our previous episode with Steve was about his poems, now, we brought him back to hear about what he did to his penis post-op.   Did he use pills? Pumps? Or penile injections?   Well, he used all three! All powered by his guts and his desire to recover.   You see, Steve, isn’t a patient of Melissa nor Dr Jo’s but through his hard work, belief, and courage to do it - he used all of those three - pills, pumps, and p injections. He first used the pills, then the pumps (still using it!) and the p injections. Steve asked Melissa whether it’s ok to use pumps even if his function is 95% back. Yes, is what Melissa answered! Why? Listen to Melissa as she explains it. Melissa will reiterate how important these three things are in your recovery or rehab. So, if you’ve been wondering how these three things work together - Melissa has the answers! What can the pills do to the penis? Why do you need to keep using the pump to exercise it? Why use injections??   If you want brief, easy to understand answers - listen to the podcast now through the button below. And we suggest that you bookmark this episode - to remind you that these things are all based on science, not movies. ;)  Enjoy listening!  ---------- Websites: https://melissahadleybarrett.com   Men’s health only https://rshealth.com.au/  All genders http://www.menshealthphysiotherapy.com.au/ http://prost.com.au/   Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Melissa-Hadley-Barrett-100085237672685/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100085146627814   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissahadleybarrett/ https://www.instagram.com/restorativehealth.clinic/ TikTok: @melissahadleybarrett YouTube: Melissa Hadley Barrett Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-hadley-barrett/   Music David Mercy https://open.spotify.com/artist/1HbvnltKu4XbWTmk0kpVB9?si=D1xP5dDVQK-zzNU3rViRWg   Producer Thomas Evans: The SOTA Process https://www.instagram.com/thesotaprocess/ https://open.spotify.com/show/4Jf2IYXRlgfsiqNARsY8fi

21 Maalis 202314min

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