42: What's Yours to Fix? Navigating Empathy and Boundaries

42: What's Yours to Fix? Navigating Empathy and Boundaries

Just Because I Can Doesn't Mean I Should

Over the past week, I've been connecting with lots of different people — friends, family, clients, leaders. It's truly lovely to share our lives, our successes, our joys, and even our struggles.

Something I noticed, though … when someone I care about is going through a hard time, I often find myself wanting to jump in and fix things. I really don't like to see people struggle, especially those close to me who I care about.

But I've realized that the further removed someone is from our lives, the less their issues actually impact us. And this is normal — our brains are wired for connection, and we're supposed to care when people we love are experiencing challenges.

While I used to feel a strong responsibility to help, this usually led to my own feelings of anxiety and overwhelm. As women, we're usually socialized to be the problem solvers and caregivers. But constantly taking on others' problems can be exhausting!

Not only that, but giving unsolicited advice when trying to "fix things" can feel like criticism to the recipient and lead to resentment on both ends. (I know how I feel on the receiving end of unsolicited advice!)

Here's the thing, though — sometimes, focusing on others' issues can be a distraction from facing our own.

In today's episode, I'm sharing my new practice, even after almost 20 years as a psychologist. This is an important one!

Key Takeaways:

  • It's normal to want to help people we care about, and it's just as important to recognize our own emotional responses to their struggles.

  • Consider who modeled caregiving and problem-solving in your own life.

  • Holding space for others involves managing our own emotions while actively listening and understanding what the other person truly needs.

  • Knowing our capacity and setting boundaries is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and avoiding burnout and overwhelm.

  • Just because you can help, doesn't mean you should. Before you offer support, ask yourself (or the person you want to help) if it's in everyone's best interest.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction to The Overwhelm Cure

01:28 Understanding Empathy and Responsibility

06:42 The Problem with Unsolicited Advice

10:00 How to Hold Space

15:17 Balancing Personal Boundaries When Helping Others

18:57 Facing Our Own Issues

24:00 The Serenity Prayer and Final Thoughts

27:38 Overwhelm Cure Program Invitation

Invitation: Sign up for The Overwhelm Cure Program

The Overwhelm Cure Program is a six week program, where you'll participate in regular exercises, and we'll come together each week to discuss ways to help you finally overcome feelings of overwhelm.

Link to sign up now - https://www.kimberlyknull.com/overwhelm-cure-program

Connect with me:

Jaksot(123)

42. Unpacking Core Values: Your Secret Weapon for Navigating Life's Toughest Moments

42. Unpacking Core Values: Your Secret Weapon for Navigating Life's Toughest Moments

Unlock the power of your values! In this episode, I'll walk you through a simple process to identify YOUR values, not society's or your family's. Plus, I'll share a real-life example of how values helped me navigate a tricky situation with a friend. Consider this episode your permission slip to be authentically YOU in even the toughest of situations. It might sound hard (especially for my fellow people-pleasers) but you'll thank yourself later. Listen in and let's do the work together! Connect with Kim: Register for Dare to Lead™ Workshop, where you'll learn the 4 skillsets of courage to level up at home, work and in your community | https://www.kimberlyknull.com/dare-to-lead

18 Maalis 202426min

41. Anxiety in the Joyful Moments: Why Does It Happen?

41. Anxiety in the Joyful Moments: Why Does It Happen?

Ever catch yourself spiraling into worst-case scenarios when there's no reason to worry and you should be feeling happy and at ease? If you answered yes, I've got your back. Today, I'm diving into the phenomenon of 'waiting for the other shoe to drop.' Tune in to discover why it happens, how to redirect those thoughts, and why embracing vulnerability can lead to more joy in your life. Connect with Kim: Register for Dare to Lead™ Workshop, where you'll learn the 4 skillsets of courage to level up at home, work and in your community | https://www.kimberlyknull.com/dare-to-lead

11 Maalis 202415min

40. What to do When You're Spread too Thin

40. What to do When You're Spread too Thin

Ever felt like you're being pulled in a million directions? Today, I'm diving into the chaos of feeling spread too thin, and I want you to join me. Listen in for a real talk about: Why 'done is better than perfect' has been such a powerful mantra for me The hidden signs of burnout Tips for managing anger and resentment when you're overwhelmed Connect with Kim: Register for Dare to Lead™ Workshop, where you'll learn the 4 skillsets of courage to level up at home, work and in your community | https://www.kimberlyknull.com/dare-to-lead

4 Maalis 202415min

39. What we get Wrong About Grief

39. What we get Wrong About Grief

Join me today as we peel back the layers and debunk the idea that grief follows a tidy, step-by-step process. Spoiler alert: it's anything but linear. Whether you're knee-deep in your own grief journey or supporting a friend through theirs, understanding these twists and turns is key. Trust me, having the right words can make all the difference. Let's dive deep and uncover the real deal about grief. Connect with Kim: Register for Dare to Lead™ Workshop, where you'll learn the 4 skillsets of courage to level up at home, work and in your community | https://www.kimberlyknull.com/dare-to-lead

26 Helmi 202427min

38. A behind-the-scenes look at the Dare to Lead Retreat | Leading through COVID, Becoming a More Present Parent, and more!

38. A behind-the-scenes look at the Dare to Lead Retreat | Leading through COVID, Becoming a More Present Parent, and more!

I'm excited to introduce you to one of our Dare to Lead participants! Today, she's sharing her retreat journey and breakthroughs from Brene Brown's powerful curriculum. From learning new skills that helped her lead through COVID to up-leveling her self-care and her presence as a parent, she's sharing it all. Connect with Kim: Register for Dare to Lead™ Workshop, where you'll learn the 4 skillsets of courage to level up at home, work and in your community | https://www.kimberlyknull.com/dare-to-lead

19 Helmi 202447min

37. Building Trust, Building Love: Lessons for Healthy Relationships

37. Building Trust, Building Love: Lessons for Healthy Relationships

Valentine's Day is coming up, and while fancy dinners and roses are sweet, let's be real: relationships are about more than just grand gestures. Healthy relationships (romantic or not) are built on trust. That's why today I'm peeling back the layers of trust in relationships, guided by the wisdom of none other than Dr. Brené Brown. From setting boundaries to navigating tough conversations, we'll dive into the nitty-gritty of trust. Connect with Kim: Register for Dare to Lead™ Workshop, where you'll learn the 4 skillsets of courage to level up at home, work and in your community | https://www.kimberlyknull.com/dare-to-lead

12 Helmi 202430min

36. A Behind the scenes look at the Dare to Lead Retreat with Erin

36. A Behind the scenes look at the Dare to Lead Retreat with Erin

Ever thought about diving into a wellness retreat but found the idea intimidating? Who could blame you? Opening up about your deepest struggles with a bunch of strangers doesn't exactly sound like a picnic. Our guest Erin has been there, and in today's episode, she's sharing about her transformative experience at The Dare to Lead Retreat. From learning about the healing power of community to ditching people-pleasing habits and undergoing a major self-compassion glow up, tune in to hear her takeaways! Connect with Kim: Register for Dare to Lead™ Workshop, where you'll learn the 4 skillsets of courage to level up at home, work and in your community | https://www.kimberlyknull.com/dare-to-lead

5 Helmi 202439min

35. A Guide to Tackling Tough Conversations

35. A Guide to Tackling Tough Conversations

Ever found yourself hesitating to discuss the tough stuff? It's a common hurdle, one that often breeds resentment and keeps us from living the life we desire. That's why today, I'm sharing my best tips for tackling hard conversations and giving feedback with grace. Listen in as I cover everything from WHY we hold in our true feelings to how to manage your expectations and emotions so you can enter tough conversations with confidence. Connect with Kim: Register for Dare to Lead™ Workshop, where you'll learn the 4 skillsets of courage to level up at home, work and in your community | https://www.kimberlyknull.com/dare-to-lead

29 Tammi 202437min

Suosittua kategoriassa Koulutus

rss-murhan-anatomia
voi-hyvin-meditaatiot-2
psykopodiaa-podcast
rss-valo-minussa-2
rss-narsisti
rss-vegaaneista-tykkaan
esa-saarinen-filosofia-ja-systeemiajattelu
psykologia
rss-koira-haudattuna
rss-vapaudu-voimaasi
queen-talk
filocast-filosofian-perusteet
rss-honest-talk-with-laurrenna
rss-ihana-elamani
avara-mieli
rahapuhetta
rss-niinku-asia-on
rss-duodecim-lehti
rss-psykalab
rss-luonnollinen-synnytys-podcast