Jay’s Must-Listens: Marriage Isn’t About Finding “The One” (5 Truths Every Couple Needs to Hear Before Marriage!)

Who do you identify as in your relationship? Are you often in the “I need to fix this” mode? Or do you prefer to be taken care of or to be told what to do most of the time? Perhaps, you are more of a supporting pillar to your partner, always there to offer help in any way possible. Our actions and reactions to situations and instances may differ on who you are with, but our personality will always be the same. And this trait that we have might help us work out our relationships or break them because of differences. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty discusses the three personality types that are common in most relationships and what it means for you and your partner. Sama Tea is now available! Go to http://samatea.com/onpurpose to order a box of Sama now and get access to our free live monthly tea parties, be the first to try out new tea flavors and receive a free exclusive download that shows my personal routine and rituals. Key Takeaways: 00:00 Intro 03:29 The three role type we play in a relationship 05:56 Personality #1: The Fixer 06:43 Personality #2: The Fragile 07:42 Personality #3: The Partner 08:56 How will you know that you’re a fixer? 14:32 Detach from your fixer tendencies 16:15 Are you the fragile type? 20:13 Here’s how to get out of the fragile mentality 22:44 Or are you the partner/supporter type? Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

24 Syys 202125min

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.Dr. Nicole LePera chats with Jay Shetty to talk about trauma as the root of all mental health problems. They discuss how one can utilize their own environment to self heal, why people are stuck with the same adaptive mechanism that doesn’t help them change, and taking many small steps on our way to complete healing.Dr. Nicole, a trained clinical psychologist, created the SelfHealers Circle to allow people to go on their own journey and create who they want to become. Dr. Nicole lives in Los Angeles, California and loves anywhere that involves the stillness (and quiet) of nature. She currently hosts the SelfHealers Soundboard podcast with Jenna Weakland focused on recognizing patterns, healing from the past, and creating oneself.Go to http://samatea.com/onpurpose to get on the list for early access + receive a free 5-Minute Wellness Journal made to help guide you through your wellness journey and daily routineWhat We Discuss with Dr. LePera:00:00 Intro02:23 The concept of the work: getting stuck04:33 Utilize the environment around us with many daily small steps07:23 What is epigenetics?09:46 Empowering yourself to be your own healer14:04 When you entertain the idea that maybe you are broken18:07 Overwhelming change could send us back into that same adaptive mechanism22:26 We work with the pattern we’re stuck in26:52 When we’re conscious, we can hear our body31:44 The uniqueness that makes each of us different35:31 The nature of our thoughts are reiterative and amplified in some ways41:35 How to nurture self-awareness and self honesty without leading to self-destruction?46:19 How do we stop letting other people's opinions define our choice?50:16 Creating empathy to people we can’t relate to52:47 Honoring the small choices you’re making and the moment you’re living in54:25 Dr. LePera on Fast FiveLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!Grab a copy of your own Think Like A Monk book. Get the audiobook here: https://amzn.to/2THCYUuEpisode Resources:The Holistic PsychologyDr. Nicole LePera | InstagramDr. Nicole LePera | LinkedInDr. Nicole LePera | FacebookDr. Nicole LePera | YouTubeSelfHealers SoundboardAchieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGeniusSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

20 Syys 202158min

Perhaps, it is easier to tell someone to be brave and to do something they haven’t done before. It’s easier to be that encouraging voice on the side cheering for them. But it isn’t as easy when you’re at the receiving end, when you’re the one being encouraged to do something you’re uncomfortable doing. It takes courage and an open mind to do something you’re hesitant to do because it’s outside of your comfort zone, especially when it’s something you never thought of doing out of fear of failing or getting rejected. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty talks about how doing small uncomfortable things can gradually lead you to embracing changes and improving yourself. Go to http://samatea.com/onpurpose to get on the list for early access + receive a free 5-Minute Wellness Journal made to help guide you through your wellness journey and daily routine Key Takeaways: 00:00 Intro 02:49 How to become comfortable with the uncomfortable? 06:05 Principle #1: Start small, do not go for the big things right away 08:29 Principle #2: Slow down, pause and reflect 12:11 Principle #3: Do one uncomfortable thing yearly 14:15 Principle #4: Surround yourself with people that do uncomfortable things 15:57 Principle #5: Know that it’s okay to fail 17:56 Principle #6: Measure the miniscule improvement 20:06 Principle #7: Say you don’t know anything when you only know a little 21:39 Principle #8: Accept correction and feedback without justification 22:47 Principle #9: Don’t avoid and postpone what you started, start preparing Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

17 Syys 202125min

Gabrielle Union chats with Jay Shetty to talk about a woman’s inner strength. From her arduous journey to have children and competing against her partner on career growth, to realizing what makes a marriage work and thriving in communities where your resources benefit the majority. Gabrielle is an actress who starred in several romantic films such as The Brothers, Deliver Us from Eva, Think Like a Man, and Think Like a Man Too. She portrayed the lead character in the BET drama series Being Mary Jane, of which she received an NAACP Image Award. Married to Dwyane Wade, she continues to advocate for survivors of assault. Head over to samatea.com/onpurpose to find out your Tea Personality! What We Discuss with Gabrielle: 00:00 Intro 02:54 Struggling to have children 11:21 Every child is unique 15:45 Support looks different for men and women 20:19 Figuring out how to walk side by side with your partner 24:30 You can’t compete with your partner 28:37 Most children aren't going to be shady for no reason 32:06 Rising through a terrible experience 38:20 Don’t try to hide when you feel vulnerable 46:07 Raise girls to have a world perspective, not with a town perspective 48:18 Accepting your child for who they identify as 53:55 It’s about building communities to share resources 55:53 Gabrielle on Fast Five Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Episode Resources: Gabrielle Union | Instagram Gabrielle Union | Twitter Gabrielle Union | Facebook Gabrielle Union | Amazon Flawless Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGeniusSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

13 Syys 202158min

Lessons can be learned anytime, anywhere, and at any given situation. These lessons are packed with learning that will help us grow to become a better person. Some are easily learned, some leave lasting and painful memories. For the past twelve months, we all have been trying to adapt to the new normal, to a completely different way of life for our own safety and everyone else around us. Last year was a true test of mental strength, emotional awareness, and physical agility to endure and persevere in any adversary. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty shares lessons he learned in the past year as he tried to stay on top of his life and remain connected to the people close to him. Grab a copy of your own Think Like A Monk book now! Head over to samatea.com/onpurpose to find out your Tea Personality! Key Takeaways: 00:00 Intro 02:51 Reflect on the lessons you’ve learned every year 04:41 Lesson #1: Focus on the input and the intention, detach yourself from the result 10:55 Lesson #2: You can’t always find joy and happiness but you can always find meaning and service 14:52 Lesson #3 Remind yourself of the gifts brought by terrible situations 16:00 Lesson #4: We have to learn to celebrate people while they are alive 19:35 Lesson #5: Look at how we are controlled by fear 21:39 Lesson #6: Digital friendships can go deeper 23:45 Lesson #7: Anything can be done in 48 hours 27:19 Lesson #8: There’s never a better time to learn when you’re not sure what’s going on 28:24 Lesson #9: When you don’t get what you want, you get more of what you need 29:29 Lesson #10: Solitude is as necessary as community 30:18 Lesson #11: Invest in energy first, expertise second 30:53 Lesson #12: The mind has to be used by you for what you want to believe Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

10 Syys 202133min

Rachel Hollis sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about loving yourself and seeing failure as success. We all need to learn to see the positive aspects of every failure in our life, to take proper care of ourselves by taking good care of our health, to sit down and process pain and grief at our own pace, and to never lose ourselves just to keep a relationship. Rachel is #1 New York Times Best-Selling and a motivational speaker. She authored three self-help books including Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop Apologizing. Aside from keeping herself busy with her podcast, The Rachel Hollis Podcast, she's also founded The Hollis Company, a media company that exists to arm people with the tools to make positive and lasting change. What We Discuss with Rachel: 00:00 Intro 02:06 Mental illness is not just about taking prescription medicine 06:00 Being intentional about trying to live in a healthy way 12:17 What the evolution of social media is doing to us 21:05 “My advance for my first book, which was Party Girl was $1,000.” 24:02 When something shakes the best life you think you have 38:24 Journaling every single morning to remember conscious moments 41:53 Pushing yourself to get over a difficult moment in your life 46:31 A different view of failure 54:48 You create something that you value and believe in and put it out there 59:10 There are many parts of us that can make a better version of ourselves 01:05:38 Feeding into your own narrative 01:09:24 “An apology without action or change is empty.” 01:12:27 Having support from people who cares without high expectations 01:17:14 How do you establish boundaries when you haven't done it before? 01:22:33 What’s your love language? 01:26:00 Don’t make other people’s process of pain about you 01:29:10 You’re trying to be the person who your partner thinks you are 01:37:19 We need to stop seeing the end of things as failure 01:40:40 Rachel on Final Five Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Grab a copy of your own Think Like A Monk book. Get the audiobook here: https://amzn.to/2THCYUu Episode Resources: Rachel Hollis | Instagram Rachel Hollis | Facebook Rachel Hollis | Amazon Hollis Co. Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGeniusSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

6 Syys 20211h 43min

“I hear you. I understand that this is difficult for you. What can I do to help?” These are the words we desperately want to hear when things don’t work out in our life. We expect our partners to be there for us, to understand what we are feeling and why we are feeling these emotions. However, some of us don’t get to hear these words. Some of us don’t get the understanding and support we need. Some of us could no longer connect emotionally with the people we love. And this disconnection is putting a strain on our relationships. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty shares principles for us to be an effective communicator so that our partner, our family, and friends can tap on deepest emotions and so that we can tap into theirs. Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Head over to samatea.com/onpurpose to join the tea party! If you invite 10 friends to the giveaway you can get a free mug when you refer 10 friends and purchase Sama ($25+). Key Takeaways: 00:00 Intro 03:30 The number one indicator for a good human life was the quality of our relationships 07:06 Point #1: We haven’t learned to communicate with ourselves 09:57 Point #2: Your self-talk 13:31 Point #3: Let’s experiment 17:10 Point #4: Repeat what other person said, what you heard, and then what you felt 20:21 Point #5: Separate the content from the context 22:45 Point #6: Us and We, not You and Me 24:54 Point #7: Focus on what builds trust 28:43 Point #8: Find time to connect with your partner Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGenius Grab a copy of your own Think Like A Monk book. Get the audiobook here: https://amzn.to/2THCYUu See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

3 Syys 202129min

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.Jessica Alba sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about her struggles in the film industry as a woman of color, how pushing people to develop their potential doesn’t isn’t always a positive deed, coming to terms with the truth when people are being honest, and using perfectionism as an excuse to not do anything.Jessica is an American actress and entrepreneur, and is the Founder and Chief Creative Officer of The Honest Company. She’s a globally-recognized entrepreneur and advocate, and a New York Times bestselling author of The Honest Life, a practical guide for parents to create a safe and healthy life for their families. With The Honest Company's success, she has been named one of Fast Company’s 100 Most Creative People in Business, Fortune’s 10 Most Powerful Women Entrepreneurs, and Vanity Fair’s Entrepreneur of the Year.What We Discuss with Jessica:00:00 Intro05:04 Which role has had the most impact in your life?08:20 When you’re a teenager with a child, what opportunities will you have?11:40 Showing your children a balanced view of peace, anxiety, and pressure15:19 Feeling like you don’t belong because of your skin color21:41 When is it the most difficult to be honest to someone?24:36 We always want honesty but when we’re presented with the truth, it’s difficult to accept26:01 Accepting life coaches and outside help28:30 When you put in the work, you will get those opportunities31:44 Seeing people’s potential and learning to help them reach their full potential35:52 People will see your life in their own lens37:19 Perfectionism is used as an excuse to not do anything39:47 If you’re putting in more positive energy, that’s what you're going to emit43:11 Nudge people and ask questions and let them come to terms with their potential47:52 Our children will always choose us50:12 Jessica on Final FiveEpisode Resources:Jessica Alba | InstagramJessica Alba | FacebookJessica Alba | TwitterThe Honest CompanyThe Honest Company | InstagramHonest Beauty | InstagramThe Honest Company | FacebookThe Honest Company | PinterestThe Honest Company | TwitterLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

30 Elo 202149min