When Someone You Love Is Kinky: Love, Fear, and the Power of Acceptance with Janet Hardy

Alice Little is fascinating, smart, and has stories galore.Ms Erika asks about a quote on Alice’s website: https://thealicelittle.com/ that says her philosophy is “...intimacy is a need, and far too often that need goes unmet.”This leads to a thoughtful conversation about the nature of intimacy, connection, the role of sex workers, and where intimacy fits in for a fulfilled life.Ms Olivia brings up Alice’s appearance on the Tim Ferriss Show podcast. Find out what surprised the ladies about his questions and attitude towards Alice. COVID ended up being a wake up call for many people - including those in the adult industry. For Alice, she decided that no matter what happened in the world she would be in charge of her destiny. That meant a look at her career to date. She decided to create multiple income streams, including OnlyFans and YouTube. The ladies talk about why and how she created the BRAND Alice Little Intimacy Expert.Did you know that Alice is one of the very few courtesans in the legal brothels who has training in BDSM and kink? She is also a BDSM educator and a switch. This leads to some stories about why expertise and experience really matters when it comes to fetish, kink or BDSM pleasure.A slut belonging to Ms Olivia wants to know if there is an opportunity at a legal brothel for a sissy male escort. Alice has some surprising info about men of any identity in the Nevada brothel system.“How to Give A Blow Job” is one of the most popular episodes on The Weekly Hot Spot. Alice graciously shares her blow job tips and tricks.What makes the difference between a good sex worker and a really great courtesan? Here’s a hint - it has less to do with sex skills and more to do with intangibles. This leads to a discussion about how to be very intimate and still keep appropriate boundaries. Alice introduces the term bounded intimacy and shares what that means.This episode wraps up with thoughts on sex worker rights and how to advocate for, or present, sex work as work. Alice says things like The Weekly Hot Spot podcast are part of efforts to combat stigma around sex, sex work and sex workers.NEXT week, part 2 with Alice Little - this will be a conversation about AI and the porn industry. How will artificial intelligence change the adult industry? That and more in the next episode of The Weekly Hot Spot.

10 Heinä 202331min

Mistress Harper joins the ladies to talk about FLRs or Female Led Relationships.This episode is inspired by an email sent to Mistress Olivia asking what is real and what is fantasy with FLRs. This leads to a lively conversation with lots of laughs in addition to BDSM education from Femdoms who are in the kink scene in their private lives.They start with the common definition of Female Led Relationships and point out that this may or may not include BDSM, power exchange, kink or any of those sorts of activities.Learn:Experiences with FLR in their personal relationships (Ms Erika’s answer makes us all laugh)Levels of control in a Female Led RelationshipMs Harper makes the distinction between female led and “female did it” which is highly relatable!Whether the ladies WANT Female Led Relationships in their personal lives (the answers might surprise you).Mistress Harper has great insights into patriarchy, matriarchy, and gynarchy. What those are and how these terms relate to relationships where the Dominant woman is in control.There’s talk about the difference between how women exchange power and a power imbalance fantasy - the fantasy isn’t wrong, it’s just that it’s hard to replicate a fantasy 24/7 - and not hard in a good way, hard in the exhausting kind of way.These women are Femdoms who do Distance Domination so the conversation about FLR being sexualized is enlightening in terms of what is real and what is fantasy.What is the difference between a Dominatrix, Pro Domme, Femdom, Dominant and woman in charge?This ends up being a thoughtful conversation about gender, gender roles in society, malicious incompetence, work, culture, and social pressures to comply with what have been traditional norms.

3 Heinä 202333min

Dr. Betty Martin joins the ladies to talk about BDSM consent and the conversation touches on so much more. Meet this fascinating person who has been a chiropractor for years and is now a sex and touch coach, certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, Somatic Sex Educator and author of the book: The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent.The conversation includes:Issues of consent for sex workers and other touch professionalsWhy getting a “yes” isn’t enough, consent needs to be about mutual agreementHow to apply to Wheel of Consent to Distance Domination and phone sexHow the role of context and meaning makes all the difference with experiences.Dr. Betty brings up the 3 minute game popular in the BDSM world. That’s where 2 (or more) people take turns saying, “What do you want me to do to you for three minutes?” and “What do you want to do to me for 3 minutes?” Ms Erika asks how to use the Wheel of Consent with Distance Domination as an online Femdom Mistress.The ladies all talk about the value of working with a lot of clients as a sex worker. Experience and skill level really matters with all kinds of intimate experiences including distance domination and phone sex.Dr. Betty talks about her transition from chiropractor to sex coach to, now, self defined sex worker. Learn what a sacred intimate does. The ladies have a candid conversation about sex worker and who does sex work. Ms Erika tears up talking about her close relationship with a disabled man who thoroughly enjoys erotic humiliation at the hands of a Mean Mistress. Ms Olivia says she thinks of sex work as a calling and a passion.The ladies cover a lot of topics, have a bunch of laughs and, hopefully, inspire you to think about the role of sex workers in your own lives.

26 Kesä 202338min

Think of BDSM as a 3 act play: BDSM negotiations, the kinky scene, and then, aftercare for the submissive and the Dominant.Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika talk about the importance of aftercare in BDSM in general and, specifically for people who call Femdom phone sex for Distance Domination.Ms Erika gives a general description of BDSM aftercare: taking time after the play or scene to recover, get centered and tend to the physical and emotional needs of the Domme and the sub.First, they get sidetracked talking about men who like to hang up before or right after they cum. Ms Olivia points out that behavior like this is why many people go to a sex worker - to behave in ways that aren’t socially acceptable in a personal relationship.Getting back on topic the ladies talk about:The vulnerability of being a submissiveHow to communicate with your Femdom MistressSub drop Domme drop And, after care tips that include taking care of physical and emotional needs. These Femdoms give specific suggestions and how to apply this to Distance Domination sessions.

19 Kesä 202334min

It’s summer and the ladies are inspired by pretty bare feet to talk about all of us with a foot fetish.Ms Erika leads off with a quick explanation of the difference between a kink and a fetish.The ladies answer listener questions:Do women think a foot fetish is weird?Do ladies like guys who are really into feet?Just how popular IS sexual attraction to feet? The numbers might surprise you.Did you know there are a lot of really fun terms for foot play and the love of feet? Ever heard of the terms shrimping, turkey foot, piano man or sole mate? Mistress Olivia suggests they design a fetish play party with foot love as the theme. What “stations” will there be? The ladies both want emphasis on toot pampering and things like massage and pedicures.Both Mistresses thoroughly enjoy foot worship - kissing, licking and sucking our sensual feet.This leads to a conversation about the role of a mean Mistress and humiliation of a foot slave including things like coerced bi or coerced cock sucking.A Femdom or strict Mistress can include trampling and CBT using feet, stiletto heels and boots.As always, there’s the science behind the sex. Brain chemistry gives some clues about why feet are arousing and why smells can be so powerful and powerfully stimulating.

12 Kesä 202330min

PRIDE Month is a time for celebration, education and connection.Ms Harper joins the ladies to talk about PRIDE, BDSM, kink and connections with callers.First, how each lady identifies:Ms Olivia: Bisexual/pansexual and she/her pronounsMs Erika: Heterosexual with bicurious rising.Ms Harper: Bi or Pan, Aromantic, and Genderqueer with pronouns she/they.First up, the history of PRIDE and politics of LGBTQ+ activism.Ms Harper points out that gay rights pushes society forward. This comment leads the ladies to talk about Queer influence on music, fashion, art and more.This episode covers:Cis and transUse of pronouns Efforts to decouple the idea of gender and what society says gender is supposed to beThe LGBTQ+ acronym and other ways to identifyThe difference between gender identity, sexual attraction and emotional partnerships.PRIDE and kinkBDSM and use of humiliation in kink sessions

5 Kesä 202329min

Mistress Olivia gets an email from a woman who is exploring kink with her husband. Ms Erika’s confession that she nibbled on a gummy before recording takes the ladies off on a tangent and oh what a tangent it is:Why Ms Erika says a cock can cure allAntics with Ms Olivia’s custom BDSM fetish furniture Sex with the guy that built the Queening ChairAll joking aside, a listener question inspired this episode. This woman is getting into kink and realizing she is a Femdom! As she is exploring her power as the Domme in her relationship, she has specific questions that the Femdom hosts answer:Why it’s so exciting for the woman to be the Dominant one.How a shrinking fantasy is great for phone sex and Distance Domination.Ideas for her to try as she creates sexual roleplays in her own life.How to negotiate BDSM limits and get consent.Ways to create surprises in the scene.How to use pacing and layering to create the sensations the Domme wants the submissive to have.The ladies create a role play scene using foot worship, body worship, sensual humiliation, and more.

29 Touko 202332min

Hosts Ms Olivia and Ms Erika respond to emails that ask some version of: “How do I get my wife to be my sissy Mistress?” This is a common question. Some of the discussion is about sissy specific issues and some advice will apply to anyone who is a submissive trying to change a partner who isn’t already into kink, fetish or gender play.The first question to consider is: “Does your wife or girlfriend WANT to be your Mistress?” If you think she might be open to being your Domme, then this episode is all about how to talk about your sissy desires with her.What is a FLR or female led relationship? How does feminization and/or sissification work in a female led relationship?What happens in the rest of the relationship if he is her sissy cuckold and she is the Domme wife?What is monogamy in a kink relationship?How will a sissy perform in a cuckold relationship?Will a cuckold sissy husband be expected to suck cock and sexually satisfy men?Will erotic humiliation be part of your feminization or sissy play?What to do if your partner is also submissive but may be willing to learn to be your Dominant.Why BDSM negotiations are different with a Pro Domme versus non sex worker partner.What is topping from the bottom and why is this a bad thing?How to communicate your needs when you are a submissive.How do you both go back to your “regular” life when sissy play time is over?

22 Touko 202325min