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S2E1: “It’s Never Just About the Dishes”: Why couples fight about the dumbest things (and what’s really going on underneath)

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 1

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

This show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

It’s Never Just About the Dishes — petty fights = deeper needs.

Proxy arguments: Surface tiffs (TP roll, “text me when you land”) mask needs like autonomy, security, being seen.
Perpetual problems: Many issues are ongoing value/style differences you manage, not solve (Gottman).
Physiology matters: The first minutes set the tone; if nervous systems spike, pause and regroup.
Queer twists: Mismatch on being out, blurred home roles, and double attunement can mean double resentment.
Look for what’s right: The “red truck” effect—what you scan for, you’ll see.
Tools: Name the need; check pattern vs one-off; use humor or a code word (“cinnamon”); validate feelings without “losing”; ask for what you want; let small stuff go; do regular check-ins.

Examples: Travel-call tug-of-war (connection vs autonomy), dinner indecision (passive control), recycling righteousness, the goldfish ultimatum.

Share your funniest dumb fights (anonymous!): 📧 info@datableaf.com | 📸 @datableaf

Be bold, be kind, and… don’t text your ex. Stay Datable AF.

#DatableAF #QueerDating #RelationshipSkills #ProxyArguments #Gottman #Communication #AttachmentNeeds #ConflictRepair #LGBTQPodcast #SapphicRelationships

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