EP465 - Childhood Wounds: Why Your Bedroom Patterns Are a Mirror

Welcome to Episode 465 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Jessica Baum, who speaks to me about how attachment styles shape our sexual connection and intimacy within long-term relationships.

In this episode, we explore how attachment theory helps us understand why so many couples struggle with maintaining desire over time. We discuss how patterns rooted in early childhood, such as anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment, influence not only our emotional connection but also our erotic lives. Jessica explains how couples often repeat familiar relational scripts, sometimes mistaking intensity or chaos for passion, and how real intimacy requires safety, awareness, and conscious effort.

Jessica Baum is a licensed psychotherapist whose journey began with a lifelong curiosity about the “Whys” of life, why we feel, connect, and experience the world the way we do. This passion led her to specialize in trauma, attachment theory, and interpersonal neurobiology. Jessica believes that connection to ourselves and others is at the heart of healing, and she uses a range of modalities to help individuals and couples return to wholeness. She is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, a private group practice, and she leads a global coaching company offering support to clients worldwide.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding Attachment and Sexuality

· The Link Between Love and Desire

· How Attachment Forms in Infancy

· Traits of Anxious and Avoidant Styles

· Recognizing Pockets of Disorganization

· How Childhood Shaped Adult Intimacy

· Repairing Attachment Through Awareness

· Creating Safety for Passionate Sex

· Somatic Tools for Healing

· Moving Toward Secure Attachment

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