1717 || when shame is a demon || book club
The more one experiences shame, the more one is ashamed, and the beat goes on. It is this dead-end quality of shame that makes it so hopeless. But it's not hopeless, it just feels like it.“Without fee...
18 Maalis 10min
1716 || book club || healing the shame that binds you
“Without feeling, nothing matters, and with feeling, anything can matter.” - Silvan TompkinsWhen you internalize toxic levels of shame, you create a "false self" to cope. It takes lots of energy and h...
17 Maalis 11min
1715 || regular shame vs. toxic shame
Toxic shame is a deep feeling of worthlessness and self-hatred often starting in childhood due to trauma or neglect. Deconstructing internalized toxic shame is an intense and overwhelming process, but...
16 Maalis 10min
1714 || "thawing out" from a freeze state
Analysis paralysis is a natural response to stress, but there are many ways to manage it.Respect the "thawing" process: this takes time. Ground yourself: breathing exercises, noting exercises, etc. Pr...
13 Maalis 9min
1713 || imperfect action > inaction
Inaction is not neutral. I know I’m capable of great things but I am too afraid to do anything I want to do because it is easier to do nothing.It feels safer to do nothing but it’s not. Inaction is no...
12 Maalis 8min
1711 || why the war
This war is a ponzi scheme by people who use "rapture accelerationism" as a manipulation tactic. People ARE resisting, but we need to address what's really happening if we want to resist it properly. ...
11 Maalis 10min
1712 || keep me kind
Having a broken heart means you still have a heart. Feeling painful feelings means you can still feel. It's all part of the process of processing. "Keep my anger from becoming meanness.Keep my sorrow ...
11 Maalis 10min
1710 || bell hooks || men aren't the enemy
"By highlighting psychological patriarchy, we see that everyone is implicated and we are freed from the misperception that men are the enemy. To end patriarchy we must challenge both its psychological...
10 Maalis 8min
