
The Fourth Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Reach & Respond)
Reaching and responding is the core interaction that helps couples move out of stuck, negative cycles and back toward connection. A reach is an imperfect, vulnerable sharing from the heart, and a resp...
26 Tammi 48min

Two Date Rule and Testing The Waters In Dating: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME TIGHT - Workshop Jan 31 and Feb 1, 2...
22 Tammi 13min

The Third Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Knowing Your Cycle)
In this episode, we explore what a negative relationship cycle is and why couples get stuck repeating the same patterns during conflict. We explain how protective moves like criticism, shutdown, fixin...
19 Tammi 51min

Safety In Sameness: Quick Advice
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME TIGHT - Workshop Jan 31 and Feb 1, 2...
15 Tammi 13min

The Second Pillar Of A Secure Relationship (Individuation)
In this episode, Colter, Lauren, and Cayla unpack the second pillar of a secure relationship: individuation—the idea that what it’s like to be me is different than what it’s like to be you. They exp...
12 Tammi 55min

Marriage 2026: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME TIGHT - Workshop Jan 31 and Feb 1, 2...
8 Tammi 12min

The First Pillar of A Secure Relationship (Window of Tolerance)
Window of Tolerance helps explain why one partner often wants to keep talking while the other shuts down, speeds up, or feels totally overwhelmed. In this episode, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren unpack h...
5 Tammi 55min

How To Fix Disconnection in 2026: QUICK ADVICE
Couples Values Construction for 2026 Here you can find some more instruction on how to construct your values as a couple as well as the values list. HOLD ME TIGHT - Workshop Jan 31 and Feb 1, 202...
1 Tammi 14min



















