Sexology

Welcome to episode 30 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Lanae St. John. In this episode, we discussed why it’s important to talk to teens about sex and the importance for parents to create a safe space for their teens. Lanae St. John, DHS, ACS, is board certified sexologist, sexuality educator, and writer. She received her Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where she focused on Child and Adolescent Sexuality. She develops curriculum, teaches classes, and works with clients to normalize conversations about sexuality between parents and children.   In this episode, you will hear:   How Lanae became interested in child adolescent sexuality Why it’s important to talk to teens about sex How it’s not always sufficient just to rely on schools for sex education The need for clarity and correct information in sex education Ways in which parents can discuss consent with their teens How parents can help facilitate the coming out process for homosexual teens The importance for parents to create a safe space for their teens How parents support their teens if they are engaging in risky sexual behaviour The importance for teens to not fear the reactions of their parents when discussing these issues   Resources http://www.themamasutra.net MamaSutra@me.com https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8 https://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one http://www.uua.org/re/owl  Phone: +1 (909) 295-2623   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

1 Elo 201741min

Welcome to episode 29 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Deborah Tolman who speaks to me about her research on adolescent sexuality, the double standards that exist between boys and girls around sexuality and recommendations for parents to help their teenage girls through these challenges.   Deborah L. Tolman is a developmental psychologist and the co-founder of SPARK: Sexualization Protest: Action, Resistance, Knowledge. She is the author of Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality, which was awarded the 2003 Distinguished Book Award from the Association for Women in Psychology. Deborah received her Ed.D from Harvard University in 1992. She is also the former director of the Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality, and professor of human sexuality studies at San Francisco State University. Before relocating to San Francisco, she was a senior research scientist and the director of the Gender and Sexuality Project at the Center for Research on Women at Wellesley College.   Deborah is currently a professor of social welfare and psychology at the Hunter College School of Social Work and the Graduate Center of CUNY. Her research on adolescent sexuality, gender development, gender equity and research methods has been funded by grants from the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, the Department of Health and Human Services, the Ford Foundation, and the Spencer Foundation.   In October 2010, Deborah co-founded SPARK (Sexualization Protest: Action, Resistance, Knowledge), an intergenerational "girl-fueled" movement building organization (with Lyn Mikel Brown) dedicated to challenging the sexualization of girls by engaging girls to be activists and working with partner organizations around the country. SPARK links academia to activism and demonstrates an alternative to the divisive "wave metaphor" regarding feminism.   In this episode, you will hear:   Details on her research on adolescent sexuality The importance of differentiating teens and young adults in the research How the results and language terminology differ between teens and young adults The pressures teen girls and young women face around slut shaming The double standards that exist between boys and girls around sexuality How young women and teens are pressuring themselves to achieve “the perfect image”   The negative connotations that exist when trying to open up feelings around sexuality The implications eating disorders can have on self-image and sexuality Recommendations for parents to help their teenage girls through these challenges   Resources http://sexgenlab.org https://www.facebook.com/sexgenlab http://www.sparkmovement.org Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

24 Heinä 201744min

Welcome to episode 28 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dana Nelson who is an American psychologist and counselor living and practicing in Lyon, France (Rhône-Alpes region). In this episode Dana talks about how she became involved in working with inter-cultural relationships, how a person’s cultural background can play into their expectation around sex and the underlying reasons we’re attracted to people from different cultures.   Dana Nelson is an American psychologist and psychotherapist, originally from Northern Virginia, who now lives and practices in Lyon, France. She completed her masters degree and PhD in Clinical Psychology from Penn State University, and worked for a number of years in community mental health as well as university counselling center settings prior to moving to France in 2014. While in graduate school in rural central Pennsylvania (one of the least likely place to meet a Frenchman, you would think!), Dana met her current partner, a French international student working on his PhD in engineering at that time. After 3 years together in the US, they both graduated, and he moved back to France for a job. Then, after 2 years of being in a super long-distance relationship from Pennsylvania to France, Dana decided to embark on her first-ever experience of living abroad and moved to France to join him. They now live together in Lyon, and Dana opened her private practice there last year, where she works with English-speaking expats, intercultural couples, international students, and others living abroad. Dana's most recent adventure has been starting a podcast of her own, called Mindful Expat, which focuses on issues of emotional wellbeing and resilience for expats, intercultural couples, and others living abroad.      In this episode, you will hear:   How Dana became involved in working with inter-cultural relationships The underlying reasons we’re attracted to people from different cultures How modern technology has allowed us to have relationships with people all over the world Sexual experiences; how inter-cultural couples rate their experiences compared to couples of the same culture The need for honest and open communication when in an inter-cultural relationship How a person’s cultural background can play into their expectation around sex Learning to be respectful and understanding of a person’s cultural background when in an inter-cultural relationship The importance of seeing things from your partners perspective Seeing and understanding your partner as their true authentic selves   Resources http://www.dananelsoncounseling.com/mindful-expat-podcast/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

18 Heinä 201738min

Welcome to episode 27 of the Sexology Podcast, in the run up to the release of season 7 of Game of Thrones, my guest today is Tamara Powell, LMHC who speaks to me about why as sex therapist she thinks Game of Thrones stands out from other TV shows, the attraction we have to the powerful roles women have in the show and why we are fascinated with sexual war.   Tamara is the owner of Arya Therapy Services, the now global phenomenon in holistic health and healing. She is also the founder Tales from a Trapezoid dedicated to the more raw and edgier side of life, working with those who may often feel like a trapezoid in a world full of circles.   Most recently, she launched her own podcast Undressing The Spirit, where through stories and interviews, she takes listeners behind the veil of counseling into erotic, relational, and spiritual diversity, uncovering how to accomplish mankind’s greatest challenge – finding purpose and passion no matter the worldview or proclivity.  In this episode, you will hear: Why Tamara thinks Game of Thrones stands out from other TV shows How it reminds her of Nancy Friday’s seminal work in the 70’s & 80’s The attraction we have to the powerful roles women have in Game of Thrones Why we are fascinated with sexual war How the show can give you ideas for your own fantasies with your partner Misconceptions about why Game of Thrones is sexually appealing Why the forbidden is attracting and exciting How people are too quick to relate the show to pornography The way women’s sexual desires are represented through characters such as Daenerys Targaryen The sexual power dynamics that exist in the show For more great content please check out https://oasis2care.com   Resources https://aryatherapy.com https://aryatherapy.com/about-the-podcast (Undressing The Spirit Podcast) https://talesfromatrapezoid.com https://www.facebook.com/talesfromatrapezoid http://www.hbo.com/game-of-thrones https://www.amazon.co.uk/Books-Nancy-Friday/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=n%3A266239%2Cp_27%3ANancy%20Friday Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

11 Heinä 201734min

Welcome to episode 26 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is , who speaks to me about the psychological effects that BDSM behaviours can have, the similarities between BDSM and Tantra and the roles that submissive and dominant play in BDSM.  Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT is a marriage & family therapy provider who practices in West Hartford, CT. She is also the author of "Playtime: Not Just for Children" and she is known as "The Sex Doctor." In addition to her expertise in the field of sexuality, her specialties include couples counseling, eating disorders, alternative relationship styles, anxiety, depression, and ADHD. By mutually establishing goals with clients, Amanda uses coaching and therapy to overcoming current struggles and barriers. Amanda believes that everyone out there has the potential to have an amazing life: personally, socially, relationally, and sexually. She will help make you healthier and happier by assessing your emotional, physical, spiritual, and intellectual life experiences and equip you with the tools to accomplish your goals! In this episode, you will hear: The definition of BDSM – bondage & discipline, dominance & submission and sadism & masochism The psychological effects that BDSM behaviours can have How there is a lot of trust within BDSM The deep level of communication that exists within BDSM Common behaviours that Amanda see’s The similarities between BDSM and Tantra The misconceptions created by Fifty Shades of Grey Ways in which our culture can create feelings of shame in this area Recommendations for the first ways you can start to get involved in BDSM The roles that submissive and dominant play in BDSM The need for negotiation, compromise and understanding when engaging with BDSM How to bring up your interest in BDSM with your partner Why Amanda wrote her book “Playtime: A Guide To Sexual Conquests For Women” Resources https://sexandmagic.com https://www.amazon.com/Playtime-Children-Guide-Sexual-Conquests-ebook/dp/B06X9WM66S/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

4 Heinä 201730min

Welcome to episode 25 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Jessa Zimmerman, who outlines some of the most common mistakes couples make in the bedroom! Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed mental health counselor and a nationally certified sex therapist. She works in private in downtown Seattle and specializes in working with couples struggling with issues of sex and intimacy. Jessa earned a Masters in Psychology from LIOS Graduate College of Saybrook University, working through a program that emphasized family systems theory and experiential learning. Upon completion of that degree, she earned a Certificate in Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan. Combining those credentials with many hours of supervision and client work, she earned her certification as a sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She has pursued advanced training in approaches to couples therapy, including Crucible™ Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). Jessa has developed an online quiz that helps couples get a sense of the health of their relationship across several parameters. One of those measures is sexual avoidance. She is currently writing a book on the topic of the avoidance cycle and how couples can address the issues that cause them to avoid sex so that they can share a fulfilling sex life.     In this episode, you will hear:   Why she created her quiz; how healthy is your sex life? Healthy aspects of sexuality Jess see’s in couples How couples can slowly lose interest in sex and need new fantasies The pressure of running out of new ideas for sex Deepening your relationship to help increase intimacy The need to be open and able to communicate with your partner about these issues Overcoming unresolved sexual issues that can spill into a relationship Contributing factors that lead to sexual avoidance How porn is sexual entertainment, not education   The need to keep educated about sexual issues Ways in which you can begin to overcome sexual avoidance Developing healthy habits for your sex life   Resources http://www.jesszimmerman.com http://seattlecouplescounselor.com/sex-quiz/ https://www.amazon.com/Guide-Getting-Paul-Joannides-Psy-D/dp/1885535457 Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

27 Kesä 201729min

Welcome to episode 24 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Carmen Roman, who speaks to me about she got into the line of work of celibacy, how people live without sex and the unintended consequences of not being sexual.  Dr Roman is a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience working in both Mexico and 5+ years in California. She is known for her ability to create a safe place to help you to explore your deepest feelings and tap into your inner wisdom or get resources to cope with emotional trauma. Using Gestalt Therapy and transpersonal psychology, she will support you to live with awareness and responsibility to create the transformation you are longing for. Her clients are psychologists, counselors, religious leaders, and people in the entertainment industry. Based on Gestalt therapy she helps clients to live with awareness, responsibility and in the here-and-now. Aided by the transpersonal psychology she addresses issues of spirituality, the use of meditation and paranormal experiences. She is a specialist in creative expression in therapy at master’s and PhD levels. All those credentials are a toolbox to her as she tailors them to your needs. She uses the science of psychology as needed in every case. Her focus is your transformation and the improvement in your relationships. In this episode, you will hear:   How Dr. Roman became involved in this work Details on her workshop on celibacy which she has ran for the last 15 years The relation between sexual abuse and celibacy Issues surrounding male values over female values How celibacy means only to be unmarried and not to withdraw from sex How religious interpretations of celibacy have changed over the centuries Ways in which in priests or people of faith deal with celibacy Her thoughts on sexual abuse that has happened within religious organisations The need to not put priests or other religious people outside of scrutiny when dealing with sexual abuse The unintended consequences of not being sexual   Resources http://www.carmenroman.net http://www.carmenroman.net/emotions-in-harmony-podcast.html Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

20 Kesä 201737min

Welcome to episode 23 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D., who speaks to me about how the internet has impacted our sex lives, defining compulsivity in relation to pornography and how social media can hinder our real life social skills.  Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D., is a Professor and Program Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. She received her master’s in marriage and family therapy from Purdue University Calumet and her doctorate in human development with a specialization in marriage and family therapy from Virginia Tech. She is a globally recognized researcher studying sexuality, technology, and its effects on couples. As she examines the role of technology in couple and family life, Hertlein has developed the first multi-theoretical model on this issue. In addition to technology and relationships, Hertlein’s other areas of expertise include infidelity, sexuality, high-risk sexual behavior, child and adolescent therapy, and cyber issues in couple and family therapy. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist, an American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Approved Supervisor, and a PREPARE/ENRICH Certified Counselor. Hertlein has co-authored 8 books, including Handbook for the Clinical Treatment of Infidelity, The Therapist’s Notebook for Family Healthcare, Handbook for the Treatment of Infidelity, Systemic Sex Therapy, and A Clinician’s Guide to Systemic Sex Therapy, the last revision of which won the 2017 AASECT Book Award. She has published more than 60 articles in the notable journals in her field, contributed over 40 chapters to books, and serves on the editorial boards for several academic journals. She was recently appointed as the Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy. Hertlein has also won several awards for her teaching, mentorship, and work in the field of sexuality research, including the Integrated Approaches to Sex Therapy Award through AASECT.  In this episode, you will hear:   How the internet has impacted our sex lives The impact of pornography on self-esteem How too much consumption of pornography can lead to a higher and higher need for stimulative images / videos The side effects of watching too much porn; erectile dysfunction Defining compulsivity in relation to pornography How the internet has impacted people’s sexual behaviour and infidelity The need for more people to show their vulnerability How we have our “edited versions” of ourselves on social media Sexting; what it is and the benefits and risks that come with it How social media can hinder our real life social skills   Resources https://www.unlv.edu/news/expert/katherine-m-hertlein http://oasis2care.com/ katherine.hertlein@unlv.edu https://www.amazon.com/Systemic-Sex-Therapy-Katherine-Hertlein/dp/0415738245   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

13 Kesä 201730min