EP124 - From Solo Sex to Partnered Sex

Welcome to episode 397 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Irene Fehr. In this conversation, we discuss the various forms of sensitivity, including sensory, energetic, and emotional, and how these impact a person's daily life and intimate relationships.Irene Fehr, MA, CCPC, SEP, Sex & Intimacy Coach helps couples make love and sex work in a long-term relationship and bring sex and passion into sexless ones. Weaving together somatic coaching, mindfulness, emotional communication work and experience around the intricate dynamics of women's sexual desire in a long-term relationship, Irene has developed and successfully applied her holistic Connection SexTM approach with couples who come to her as a last resort before divorce to turn their relationships around towards to include sexual intimacy and passion. Irene is no stranger to her clients’ issues. Her personal story of losing her libido and ending up in a sexless marriage all by the time she was 29 has been featured worldwide in more than 40 podcast interviews and in articles in major publications such as HuffPost, Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, Bustle, EliteDaily, and ScaryMommy.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Understanding Highly Sensitive Individuals·      Sensory Sensitivity Explained·      Energetic and Emotional Sensitivity·      Impact of Trauma on Sensitivity·      Recognizing a Highly Sensitive Partner·      Navigating Sensitivity in Relationships·      Pre-Sex Needs for Highly Sensitive People·      Couple Dynamics and Sensitivity Thank you to our sponsor Intimate Rose! Grab an exclusive 10% discount using the code "Sexology" Giveaway Announcement: Celebrate Our 400th Episode!Let’s celebrate together! Be sure to follow the Sexology Podcast on Instagram and follow the instructions there to enter this incredible giveaway. It will include items from Clone a Willy, Datebox, and Arya box! This is our way of saying thank you for your support and being part of our journey!Bonus Entry: Get your copy of the FREE Sex Bucket List and subscribe to our newsletter HERE, then respond to our latest edition with "GIVEAWAY" to enter. We email out our newsletter every Tuesday morning. Afternoon Delight Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

30 Jul 202437min

Welcome to episode 396 of the Sexology Podcast! In today's solo episode, we’re excited to delve into the fascinating world of sexual fantasies. We’ll be featuring insights from esteemed sex therapists and educators who will provide a deep understanding of this intriguing topic. We'll explore various theories about where these fantasies come from, including Freud's theories on evolutionary psychology and the perspectives offered by social learning theories. These insights will help us understand the complex nature of our fantasies and their origins. In addition, we’ll be sharing a wide range of sexual fantasies that have been submitted anonymously by our audience. Our goal is to reduce stigma and diminish feelings of shame surrounding these experiences, offering a safe space for open and honest discussion.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Exploring Sexual Fantasies·      Freud: The Way Fantasies Reveal Childhood Desires·      Evolutionary Psychology: Fantasies and Reproductive Success·      Social Learning: How Our Environment Shapes Fantasies·      Integrative Approach: Combining Psychological Theories·      Common Fantasies: Group Sex and Taboo Themes·      How Cultural Backgrounds Shape Fantasies·      Normalizing Fantasies for Self-Acceptance Thank you to our sponsor Intimate Rose! Grab an exclusive 10% discount using the code "Sexology"Giveaway Announcement: Celebrate Our 400th Episode!Let’s celebrate together! Be sure to follow the Sexology Podcast on Instagram and follow the instructions there to enter this incredible giveaway. It will include items from Clone a Willy, Datebox, and Arya box! This is our way of saying thank you for your support and being part of our journey!Bonus Entry: Get your copy of the FREE Sex Bucket List and subscribe to our newsletter HERE, then respond to our latest edition with "GIVEAWAY" to enter. We email out our newsletter every Tuesday morning.Afternoon DelightPodcast Produced by Pete BaileyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

23 Jul 202428min

Welcome to episode 395 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Amanda Olson. In this conversation, we discuss the importance of pelvic floor health and its impact on sexual health, the functions of pelvic floor muscles and the role of specific products from her company, Intimate Rose, in addressing these issues.Dr. Olson earned her Bachelor of Science degree from Pacific University, and a Doctorate Degree in Physical Therapy from Regis University, graduating as a member of the Jesuit National Honor Society. She holds a Certification of Achievement in pelvic floor physical therapy (CAPP-PF) from the American Physical Therapy Association, and the Pelvic Floor Practitioner Certification (PRPC) through the Herman and Wallace Pelvic Institute. She is also a certified Stott Pilates instructor and RRCA certified running coach. She is the president and chief clinical officer of Intimate Rose where she develops pelvic health products and education.  She is passionate about empowering women and men with pelvic health issues including pelvic pain, incontinence, pregnancy, and post-partum issues. Dr. Olson teaches internationally on various pelvic health topics including pelvic floor dysfunction in runners. She has written newspaper and magazine articles on pelvic floor dysfunction, and running and also authored the book Restoring the Pelvic Floor For Women.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Creating Tools for Pelvic Health·      Understanding Pelvic Floor Function·      Pelvic Floor Health Across Genders·      Impact of Aging on Pelvic Health·      Pelvic Floor Exercises and Techniques·      When to See a Pelvic Floor Therapist·      Tips for Maintaining Pelvic Health Thank you to our sponsor Intimate Rose! Grab an exclusive 10% discount using the code "Sexology"Survey Link Follow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Pete BaileyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

16 Jul 202432min

Welcome to episode 394 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Richard Espinoza. In this conversation, we discuss the evolving landscape of online dating and its impact on modern relationships and societal views. Dr. Espinoza shares insights from his work with the LGBTQ+ community, the challenges and psychological impacts faced by individuals using dating apps, and the importance of effective communication and introspection in forming meaningful relationships.Richard “Dr. E” Espinoza, PsyD, is a leading clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles, specializing in trauma and resilience. His practice emphasizes serving the LGBTQ+ community and its allies, striving to empower individuals from diverse backgrounds through comprehensive psychological assessments, transformative talk therapy, and dedicated activism. As an esteemed professor and captivating speaker, Dr. Espinoza shares practical insights on self-discovery and personal growth. He also creates accessible self-help resources, designed to inspire personal transformation and a deeper sense of fulfillment.In this episode, you will hear: ·      The Evolution of Online Dating·      Psychological Challenges of Online Dating·      The Impact of Ghosting·      Safety Concerns in Online Dating·      Introspection and Self-Understanding·      Sexual Compatibility in Online Dating·      Alternatives to Online Dating Intimate Rose Thank you to our sponsor Intimate Rose! Grab an exclusive 10% discount using the code "Sexology" Survey Link Follow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Pete BaileyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Jul 202446min

Welcome to episode 393 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Charlotte Mia Rose and Chris Maxwell Rose from Pleasure Mechanics. In this conversation, we discuss their backgrounds in erotic massage and sexological bodywork, the importance of enthusiastic consent, overcoming hesitations related to body image and cultural conditioning, and specific techniques for improving oral sex experiences. After pioneering the field of Sexological Bodywork, partners Chris Maxwell Rose and Charlotte Mia Rose co-created PleasureMechanics.com in 2006 and devoted their lives to generating online resources to support folks in cultivating more erotic pleasure, joy and connection. Known for their passionate compassion and game-changing re-frames, Chris and Charlotte guide folks to expand their pleasure and erotic experiences through their erotic touch training and effective erotic education at PleasureMechanics.com. You'll also find their podcast Speaking of Sex with the Pleasure Mechanics on all platforms or at PleasureMechanics.comIn this episode, you will hear: ·      The Origin Story of Pleasure Mechanics·      Understanding Oral Sex and the Arousal Gap·      The Importance of Erotic Massage·      Overcoming Shame and Hesitation·      Creating a Safe Space for Sexual Conversations·      The Power of Enthusiastic Consent·      Exploring Personal Preferences in Oral Sex·      Grounding Techniques for Better Oral Sex Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth! Use the code SEXOLOGY here to get 30% off all products.Follow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Pete BaileyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

2 Jul 202439min

Welcome to episode 392 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with August McLaughlin. In this conversation, we discuss the complexities and richness of orgasms, how societal myths influence sexual experiences, and the importance of sexual education. August shares her journey and insights on overcoming taboos around discussions of sex and pleasure. We also talk about accidental orgasms, sleepgasms, and the impact of mindset and fantasy on sexual experiences.August McLaughlin is a journalist, author, sex educator and host/producer of  the true story podcast, Girl Boner Radio, which was named “one of the best sex podcasts you should be listening to” by Romper and a top feminist podcast by Bellesa.  August's articles and expertise have been featured in a range of publications, including Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post, O: The Oprah Magazine and Shape. And her Girl Boner book, called a "refreshingly inclusive...welcome addition to sexual health literature" by Publisher's Weekly, is currently in its second printing.In this episode, you will hear: ·      The Importance of Orgasms·      Overcoming Orgasm Myths·      The Power of Fantasy and the Mind·      Exploring Different Types of Orgasms·      The Debate on Female Ejaculation·      Accidental Orgasms: Stories and Experiences·      Sleepgasms and Sexual Curiosity·      Erotic Audiobooks and Sexy Experiments  FirmTechThank you to our sponsor Firm Tech! Firm Tech's TechRing enhances sexual performance and health monitoring with an easy-to-use smart design. It monitors firmness, length of time, and more in the heat of the moment. Additionally, the Firmtech Max PR, their non-tech ring enhances pleasure and endurance. Grab an exclusive 10% discount using the code "Sexology"Purchase Afternoon DelightFollow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Pete BaileyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

25 Jun 202445min

Welcome to episode 391 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Magda Kay. In this conversation, we discuss the differences between sex and intimacy, the significance of mindfulness and energy work in Tantra, and Magda's experiences in tantric communities. Magda also emphasizes the importance of genuine connection and communication in relationships, alongside practical advice on incorporating tantric rituals into daily practice.Magda Kay is an Intimacy Expert, Tantra Teacher & Conscious Relating Coach, author, and founder of the School of Intimacy. More than 10 years ago she quit her corporate job, and embarked on a journey that led her through ashrams, yoga training, Tantric communities, and ceremonies. Through hours of daily devotion and practices into her deepest parts, facing the wounds and fears, and it also revealed her highest calling: to share and teach others how to access their deepest desires and ability to create transformative intimacy in their lives. Her work combines the gifts of the East and the West, a blend of Tantric and yogic philosophies with psychology and human behavior.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Magda's Journey to Tantric Teaching·      Overcoming Sexual Challenges·      Exploring Tantric Communities·      Intimacy vs. Sex·      Understanding Tantra·      Western Perception of Tantra·      Energy and Enlightenment·      Tantric Practices for Couples FirmTechThank you to our sponsor Firm Tech! Firm Tech's TechRing enhances sexual performance and health monitoring with an easy-to-use smart design. It monitors firmness, length of time, and more in the heat of the moment. Additionally, the Firmtech Max PR, their non-tech ring enhances pleasure and endurance. Grab an exclusive 10% discount using the code "Sexology"Follow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Pete BaileyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

18 Jun 202443min

Welcome to episode 390 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Kirk Honda. In this conversation, we discuss the complex and often misunderstood topic of infidelity. Dr. Honda debunks several pervasive myths, such as 'it takes two to cheat,' 'once a cheater, always a cheater,' and gendered reasons for cheating. We also explore the notion of forgiveness, the multifaceted process of recovery, and the critical role of therapy for both the individual and the couple.Dr. Kirk Honda, PsyD, LMFT, is the esteemed host of The Psychology in Seattle® podcast and YouTube channel. The mission of this platform is to enhance the world by delivering educational and engaging content focused on psychology, psychotherapy, and culture. Established in 2008, the podcast and YouTube channel have expanded significantly, now boasting over 4,000 episodes, 350,000 YouTube subscribers, and thousands of paying members on Patreon and YouTube. Currently, we release approximately 12 episodes per week. Dr. Honda holds a Doctorate in Psychology and a Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy. With a career spanning back to 1996 as a psychotherapist and 1998 as a professor, he brings extensive experience and insight to the show.In this episode, you will hear:●      Common Myths About Cheating●      The Impact of Infidelity on Relationships●      How Patriarchy Historically Blames Women for Men's Infidelity●      Navigating the Aftermath of Cheating●      Factors Contributing to Infidelity●      Understanding that forgiveness is an intentional process●      The Complexities of Forgiveness●      Looking at Infidelity as an Opportunity to Strengthen Relationships●      Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity FirmTechThank you to our sponsor Firm Tech! Firm Tech's TechRing enhances sexual performance and health monitoring with an easy-to-use smart design. It monitors firmness, length of time, and more in the heat of the moment. Additionally, the Firmtech Max PR, their non-tech ring enhances pleasure and endurance. Grab an exclusive 10% discount using the code "Sexology" Follow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Pete BaileyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

11 Jun 202455min