EP132 - Women with Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder Relational Challenges

Welcome to episode 173 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Rachel Needle to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Needle speaks with me about threesomes, how common fantasizing about them is, learning to manage your emotions and being honest about your motivation.      Dr. Rachel Needle is the founder and Executive Director of the Whole Health Psychological Center. She is a Licensed Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and an entrepreneur. Dr. Needle has specialized training in the areas of Substance Use Disorder, Trauma, Sex, and Relationships. She received her M.S. and Psy.D. in clinical psychology from Nova Southeastern University, her B.A. in psychology from Barnard College, Columbia University, and completed an internship in clinical psychology at University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey: Robert Wood Medical School in Piscataway, New Jersey.     Dr. Needle is an Adjunct Professor of Psychology in the Department of Behavioral Sciences, in the Masters in Forensic Psychology, and in the Doctorate in Criminal Justice programs at Nova Southeastern University. She is the founder and CEO of the Advanced Mental Health Training Institute and Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes which provide continuing education, certifications, and a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology to Mental Health and Medical professionals and Sex Therapists around the world.     Dr. Needle has presented her research and clinical work at national and international conferences. She is often interviewed by and quoted in national media outlets. She has been featured in a number of popular magazines such as Details, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Details, and Shape, and papers including the Washington Post and the Palm Beach Post. She has written several articles for Glamour Magazine’s online Blog: Smitten.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How common are threesome fantasies?   Deciding when it’s a good time to act on these fantasies   The way in which we have a blurred view of threesomes because of porn   Learning to manage your emotions   Understanding the challenges of having a threesome   How the fantasy might be more attractive than the reality   Where to find a third partner   Recommendations for managing jealousy around threesomes   Being honest about your motivation   Understanding it’s a process and not to give up if you didn’t enjoy the first time         Find Dr. Needle here:   www.drrachel.com  www.modernsextherapyinstitutes.com     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Apr 202030min

Welcome to this bonus episode of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Barry Davis to the podcast. In this episode Barry speaks with me about how we can better manage as couples being in lockdown, tips for those who are struggling and what we can all do as frustration starts to build up.     Divorce Mediator, Barry Davis has been a full-time mediator since 2003 and specializes in working with divorcing couples. His passion for helping couples through this difficult time, his extensive mediation and counseling training (including two advanced degrees) and his fifteen years as a businessperson, equip him to deal with both the practical and the emotional aspects of divorce.      His approach is to assist couples in working through their specific issues as constructively as possible by helping them minimize negative tactics, emphasize productive ways to make decisions and focus on the big picture (such as the best interests of the children and/or not wasting a couple’s entire net worth on a costly court battle). By utilizing a multi-faceted approach that includes identifying the couple’s true issues and concerns, facilitating productive communication and educating the couple concerning possible outcomes, Barry has been able to achieve success in the majority of mediations he facilitates.     After completing an undergraduate degree in sociology at University of California, Santa Barbara, Barry embarked on a thirteen-year career in the telecommunications industry where he established a track record of success in sales management, marketing and business development with the two industry leaders, AT&T and MCI.   Education Institute.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     How we can better manage being in lockdown as a couple?   The challenges relationships will face being in a confined space   Looking at what distinguishes negative conflict   Tips for couples who are struggling with lockdown   What we can all do as frustration starts to build up   Thoughts on potential separations that could happen during lockdown   How some couples might be able to use the time to turn things around  Recommendations for couples who want to get through this positively     To download the conflict management worksheet, click here.   Find Barry here:   https://davismediation.com   Man’s Search For Meaning    Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

17 Apr 202038min

Welcome to episode 172 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am thrilled to welcome Marla Renee Stewart, MA to the podcast. In this episode Marla speaks to me about pervertables, how you can use them to improve your sex life and tips and techniques for improving virtual sex.      Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a professional sex, intimacy and relationship coach, sexologist, and sex educator. Not only is she a Lecturer at Clayton State University, she is also the Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective.     She also created the sexual education company, Velvet Lips, 9 years ago to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives. She has studied human sexuality for more than 18 years at San Francisco State University and Georgia State University, respectively, and has expert knowledge in a wide variety of subjects. She has published academic articles and continues to do sexuality research.     She has conducted workshops at conferences, not-for-profit and private organizations, and has been featured on many radio shows, television shows, documentaries, books, magazines and has been invited to speak at Universities around the world. She also sits on the board for the SPARK Reproductive Justice Now! and Diverse Sexualities Research and Education Institute.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is a pervertable?   Incorporating everyday items into your sex life   Which items work and don’t work for anal pleasure  Being more creative sexually whilst on lockdown   Using music to enhance your sexual pleasure   Learning to bring the sense of adventure to your home   Cultivating sexual confidence   Overcoming layers of shame and guilt that might be getting in the way   How you can up level your sexual pleasure even if it’s a good level  Tips & techniques for improving virtual sex         Find Marla here:   http://velvetlipsllc.com/   Pre-order Marla's book: https://www.velvetlipssexed.com/shop  Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Apr 202025min

Welcome to episode 171 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Jess O’ Reilly to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Jess speaks with me about seductive communication, keeping things sexy while separated and cultivating your core erotic feelings.     Dr. Jess O’Reilly began working as a sexuality counselor in 2001 and she has never looked back! Her PhD studies involved the development of training programs in sex education for teachers and her education and undergraduate degrees focused on equity and sexual diversity.     Her training includes courses in counselling skills, healthy relationships, resolving sexual concerns, sex education, clinical sexology, sexual development, sex and disability, group therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.     Alongside her academic and television credits, Dr. Jess is also an accomplished author with three best-selling titles. Her latest, The New Sex Bible, has received rave reviews from professionals and clients alike and her first book Hot Sex Tips,Tricks and Licks is in its fourth print! Look for her monthly column in Post City or catch her on Tuesday mornings on Global TV’s The Morning Show, Wednesdays on 102.1 The Edge and Saturdays on PlayboyTV.     Dr. Jess’ work experience includes contracts with school boards, social services agencies, community health organizations and private corporations. A sought-after speaker, her sessions always attract a full-house at conferences and entertainment events alike.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Taking a look at seductive communication   Assessing our own strengths and weaknesses around seduction   Exploring sexting and teledildonecs  Looking at and understanding the best platform for you to use   Keeping things sexy whilst separated   Making the most of sex toys   Understanding what your partner is most receptive to   Cultivating your core erotic feelings   The need to change our lifestyles to have better sex  Making scheduled sex work   Tips for busy couples who want to re-kindle their sex lives         Find Dr. Jess here:   https://www.sexwithdrjess.com     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Apr 202037min

Welcome to episode 170 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome back Martha Kauppi, LMFT to the podcast. In this episode Martha speaks to us again about polyamory, why opening a relationship doesn’t have to mean separation, how there are different types of polyamory and the importance of self-regulation throughout this process.     Martha Kauppi, LMFT, is an educator, AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor, and AAMFT-approved supervisor. She specializes in relational sex therapy, including alternative family structures, and trains therapists to work effectively at the intersection of sex issues and relationship challenges.     Martha’s mission is to make sex a safe topic in therapy rooms everywhere by developing unique educational experiences and immediately-applicable learning materials for therapists. She has a book coming out in August 2020 about working effectively with clinical challenges related to polyamory.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How can someone know if polyamory is right for them?   Why opening a relationship doesn’t have to mean separation   Looking at the different structures and dynamics of polyamory   How there is different types of polyamory  Is there a customary way of going polyamorous?   Developing meaningful relationships within polyamory  Using apps such as Ok Cupid to meet other polyamorous people   Approaching the other partner around going polyamorous   The importance of self-regulation throughout this process       Find Martha here:   https://instituteforrelationalintimacy.com   http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/02/26/does-polyamory-work     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested to book a video counseling with Dr. Moali   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

31 Mar 202042min

Welcome to episode 169 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Dr. Eileen Crehan to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Crehan speaks to me about sexuality and autism, how an autism diagnosis might get in the way of sexual desire, the importance of being pro-active about what you want sexually and recommendations for individuals with ADS who would like to have fulfilling sex lives.     Dr. Crehan is a clinical psychologist and specialist in autism spectrum disorder. In particular, she focuses on adolescents and adults with autism spectrum disorder and promoting healthy development in the domains of sexuality, physical health, and social abilities. Dr. Crehan’s lab at Tufts University integrates the perspective and insights of autistic individuals through an advisory board and by surveying autistic adults about their priorities for research on autism across the lifespan.     Currently, she is focused on exploring best structures for sexuality education programming, adapting teaching materials to the learning needs of autistic individuals with a range of intellectual and language abilities, and disseminating sexuality education curricula using telehealth systems.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How does an autism diagnosis impact one’s pursuit of romantic and sexual relationships?  How an autism diagnosis might get in the way of sexual desire  What are some of the myths about sexuality when it comes to this population?  Practical measures people with autism can take to better pursue a healthy sex life  How can a parent of a child with ASD talk about sex with their child?  Making sure to find the correct and right resources  Understanding that people with autism can have a great sex life   Looking at online dating sites for those with autism   The importance of being pro-active about what you want sexually   What are your recommendations for individuals with ADS who would like to have fulfilling sex lives?      Find Dr. Eileen Crehan here:   eileen.crehan@tufts.edu   https://www.facebook.com/crehanlabtufts     Sex & Autism Resources:  https://researchautism.org/sex-ed-guide/  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RgsUbkqJ8ro    Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested to book a video counseling with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

24 Mar 202027min

Welcome to this bonus episode of the Sexology Podcast.  In this episode, we answer some of the burning questions that you have around sex in the time of coronavirus.    In this episode we discuss: Is it okay to have sex? What are some of the ways to have hot sex that minimizes your exposure? How to effectively manage your anxiety during this time so it wont ruin your sex life How to use this time of quarantine to elevate your sex life   Previous episodes mentioned in this show:   Learn how to practice Orgasmic Breathing http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2020/01/14/tantric-orgasm-with-barbara-carrellas/   How to master peaking http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2019/07/30/self-pleasure-and-peaking/ Download my new ebook for free here: https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/   101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe     If you are interested to book a video counseling with Dr. Moali, https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

20 Mar 202028min

Note: This episode was pre-recorded two months ago. Like the rest of the world, we are experiencing the reality and stress of the current COVID-19 situation. Our hearts go out to those who have been directly affected by this pandemic, and we are deeply saddened by its impact on our community. We will be releasing an episode soon addressing COVID-19 and sex. We hope all of you are taking the necessary precautions to keep you and your loved ones safe.    Welcome to episode 168 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Andrea Barrica to the podcast. In this episode Andrea speaks to me about the sex tech revolution, overcoming negative stigma around sexual wellness and why we need more advocacy in this area.      Andrea Barrica is CEO and Founder of O.school, a judgment-free media platform to learn about sexuality and pleasure. As a queer woman of color, she’s been fighting to bring more humanity to the tech industry, and her mission is to create the world’s most trusted sexual wellness brand to help people increase their sexual health, power, and confidence. Previously, Andrea co-founded the leading financial solution for growing startups, inDinero.com, which now employs 150+ employees globally. She also served as a venture partner at 500 Startups, a global venture capital fund, where she worked with hundreds of startup companies.      Andrea was raised in a religious, conservative Filipino family that only taught abstinence and she only had fear-based sex education in public schools. Seeking support and information, Barrica could not find reliable resources and experienced harassment online. Determined that no one else should have to struggle like she did, Barrica launched O.school in 2017 to change the way people learn about sexuality.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How can sex tech improve women’s sex lives?  Overcoming negative stigma around investing in your sexual health  How did Andrea get involved in this field?   The first things Andrea explored when examining sexual wellness products   How did Andrea raise the money needed?   Why we are behind in innovation and solutions when it comes to sexual wellness   Why it’s difficult to teach people about sexual wellness  What does Andrea see in the future of sexual wellness The need for more advocacy in this area   Why Andrea started the O School       Find Andrea Barrica here:   https://www.o.school   http://www.andreabarrica.com     Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

17 Mar 202030min