EP246 - What Really Happens Behind the Scenes of a Hollywood Sex Scene with Chantal Cousineau

Welcome to episode 81 of the Sexology Podcast, I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Ari Tuckman who joined me on episode 79. In this episode, we talk about the fidelity agreement, how technology is changing our fidelity agreement and what gets in the way of having these conversations?    Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.     He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.     He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.     In this episode, you will hear:     What is a fidelity agreement?  How what is considered cheating for some couples, isn’t for others   The need for independence on your thoughts and desires   How is technology evolving our fidelity agreement?  Making a sustainable agreement between you and your partner about what is and isn’t ok   Understanding that sexual desires change and evolve over time   What gets in the way of having these conversations?    Resources  https://tuckmanpsych.com   https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/sex-matters   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

17 Jul 201832min

Welcome to episode 79 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Ari Tuckman who talks to us about Teledildonics, the common ways people use this technology and what the future will hold as this technology continues to grow.     Dr. Ari Tuckman is a psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist based in West Chester, PA. He writes the Sex Matters blog on PsychologyToday.com.     He has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine other countries.     He also specializes in diagnosing and treating ADHD and recently finished his fourth book, based on research he completed on the relationship and sexual satisfactions of couples where one partner has ADHD.     In this episode, you will hear:     What does Teledildonic mean?  The huge variety of technology for remote sex where tactile sensations that’s now available   How Teledildonics could help prevent cheating   The common ways people use this technology   Ways in which to incorporate Teledildonic to increase novelty into your relationship   The off-shoot benefits Teledildonic can have   How Teledildonic can help increase intimacy in long distance relationships  The potential downsides of using this technology   The future of Teledildonics and what we can expect to see    Resources  https://tuckmanpsych.com   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

10 Jul 201834min

Welcome to episode 78 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Jennifer Weeks. In this episode, Dr. Weeks talks us about pornography addiction along with discussion on evidence-based treatments for out of control sexual behaviors. Also, we evaluate the differences between healthy and unhealthy reliance on pornography as a method for mood regulation.   Dr. Jennifer Weeks is the founder and director of Sexual Addiction Treatment Services, an out-patient treatment program for out of control sexual behavior. She has over twelve years experience treating all aspects of addiction, trauma and addiction, sexual addiction, and sex offenders. She is a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist- Supervisor, Certified Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor, a Licensed Professional Counselor and has a Ph.D. in Psychology. Dr. Weeks is the author of the blog, Dr. Jen’s Recovery Readings as well as the prevention book, The New Age of Sex Education: How to Talk to Your Teen about Cybersex and Pornography in the Digital Age.   In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Weeks provides continuing education training for therapists and lectures at addiction conferences throughout the US.    In this episode, you will hear:  The differences between non-problematic viewing of pornography vs. pathological behavior Criteria for pornography addiction The prevalence of pornography addiction in general population Media literacy for parents and how to talk to your teen about pornography Cultivating sexual health after being diagnosed with pornography addiction  Resources: https://www.sexualaddictiontreatmentservices   https://www.amazon.com/New-Age-Sex-Education-Pornography/dp/1483575209  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

3 Jul 201834min

Welcome to episode 77 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Marie-Claire Thauvette who talks to us about what inspired her to write the book "Honeymoon Playbook", why the book is helpful for couples who didn’t start off having good sex and learning to be open and communicative with your partner to allow for sexual improvements.    Marie-Claire Thauvette is a familiar face in the industry, and has been featured on many podcasts, summits, radio and television shows. Her new book “The Honeymoon Playbook” is a best seller in 3 categories, and with it has really helped new and not so new couples spice up their lives in and out of the bedroom.    She is also a successful entrepreneur, professional educator, and woman on a mission: to teach individuals and couples alike about the power of intimacy, sex and communication – and how to have FUN doing it. MC combines her over 30 years of teaching experience and her AASECT and ISEE Sexual Educator certifications to reignite passion in singles and couples.    Marie-Claire Thauvette not only helps couples, she has a lot of fun helping daters become expert kissers, masters in sexuality, and most importantly keeping her daters accountable to find quality soul mates.      In this episode, you will hear:     What inspired Marie to write her book  Why the book is helpful for couples who didn’t start off having good sex Knowledge couples who haven’t had sex yet can find useful as they become sexual  Learning to overcome bad sexual experiences The amount of disinformation there is about sex online  How you can improve your sexual skills with practice  The need for very specific feedback to improve your sex life  Learning to be open and communicative with your partner to allow for sexual improvements  Overcoming the issue of shame to become more communicative    Resources  www.relationshipbliss.ca  https://www.amazon.ca/Honeymoon-Playbook-scoring-romantic-honeymoon/dp/0995807000  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care      Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Jun 201835min

Welcome to episode 76 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Rebecca Wong, LCSW-R. Rebecca talks to us about why it is difficult to talk about sex with our partners, the need to spend time with our bodies and discover what feels good and how anxiety can affect performance in the bedroom.     Rebecca is a relationship therapist and consultant. She’s also the creator of Connectfulness, a research-based practice that encourages you to explore and embrace every aspect of your humanity – including everything that’s marvellous and all that’s messy.    Rebecca takes you on a deep dive into that middle place between the personal and the professional, between the places you explore in therapy and the work you do in coaching.     When you explore this fertile in-between space, you can make great things happen. When you truly see yourself, you create the ripple that allow you to be the change you wish to see in the world – and that invites everyone around you to do the same.    In this episode, you will hear:     Why it is difficult to talk about sex with our partners  The difficulty of escaping the narrow view of what is “normal” within sexuality   The need to spend time with our bodies and discover what feels good   Guidance points for talking about these issues with our partners   Learning to be supportive whilst being true to yourself   The power dynamics that exist within couples   How anxiety can affect performance in the bedroom   The dynamics of masculine and feminine energy     Resources  https://connectfulness.com  https://www.omgyes.com  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Jun 201836min

Welcome to episode 75 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Sophie Lucido Johnson, who talks to us about her new book Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s), what a polyamorous lifestyle looks like to her and the difference between polyamory and open relationships.     Sophie Lucido Johnson gets a lot of questions when she tells people that she’s polyamorous. Many Love is an intimate look at this often misunderstood practice: its history, its misconceptions, and Sophie’s personal transformation from serial monogamist to proud polyamorist.    After trying for years to emulate her boomer parents’ forty-year and still-going-strong marriage, Sophie realized that maybe the love she was looking for was down a road less travelled. In this bold, graphic memoir, she explores her sexuality, her values, and the versions of love our society accepts and practices. Along the way, she shares what it’s like to play on Tinder side-by-side with your boyfriend, encounter—and surmount—many types of jealousy, learn the power of female friendship, and other amazing things that happened when she stopped looking for “the one.”    In a lot of ways, Many Love is Sophie’s love letter to everyone she has ever cared for. Witty, insightful, and complete with illustrations, this debut provides a memorable glimpse into an unconventional life.    In this episode, you will hear:     What a polyamorous lifestyle looks like to Sophie   How Sophie emphasizes the relationship whilst being polyamorous   Why polyamory is a good fit for many people but not everyone  Understanding you’ll have to deal with the issue of jealously when becoming polyamorous   Learning how to make polyamory work within a family dynamic   The difference between polyamory and open relationships  The connection between polyamory and queer culture     Resources  http://www.sophielucidojohnson.com   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Jun 201837min

Welcome to episode 74 of the Sexology Podcast. Our guest today is Dr. Lori A. Brotto, PhD. In this episode, Dr Brotto and I talk about using mindfulness to improve sexuality, how stress levels have impacted our sexuality and learning to use mindfulness in intimate situations.     Lori A. Brotto, PhD, is a clinical psychologist, a sex researcher, and the author of Better Sex through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire (Greystone Books, 2018). A member of various sexuality organizations, she is also Canada's Research Chair in Women's Sexual Health and an associate editor for Archives of Sexual Behaviour.    In this episode, you will hear:     The findings that Lori has found through her work and research in this area   How stress levels have impacted our sexuality   The importance to reduce our stress levels to improve sexuality   Learning to overcome and pass through the “honeymoon period” in a relationship   Why Lori became interested in sex and mindfulness  The ways in which mindfulness can improve our sexual functioning   The best ways to encourage people into this practice to improve their sex life   Learning to use mindfulness in intimate situations   Manging and using fantasies in a healthy way   Recommendations from Lori on the first steps to take using mindfulness to improve sexuality     Resources  http://www.loribrotto.com  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Jun 201835min

Welcome to episode 73 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, who speaks to me about the common challenges couples face during pregnancy, why many women are scared to have sex during pregnancy and recommendations on how to approach and improve communication on these sensitive subject matters.    Stephanie Buehler PsyD, CST-S, is an internationally recognized licensed psychologist and AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Supervisor. Dr. Buehler is director of the Buehler Institute, where she provides sex and relationship therapy as well as continuing education programs.    She is also part of Hoag for Her Center for Wellness, where she specializes in helping women overcome painful sex, as well as helping high-risk breast cancer patients. She has published on sexuality for both professional and lay audiences, including her books What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know About Sex, 2nd Edition and Sex, Love, and Mental Illness: A Couple's Guide to Staying Connected.    In this episode, you will hear:     The common challenges couples face during pregnancy   How the lack of sexual drive can carry on after giving birth   The ways in which pregnancy affects a woman’s libido   Why many women are scared to have sex during pregnancy   The unique challenges that happen during the post-partum period   How many women find sex painful after giving birth   Recommendations on how to approach and improve communication on these sensitive subject matters   The ways in which breastfeeding can impact sexual relations    Resources  http://learnsextherapy.com  www.LearnSexTherapy.com  www.TheBuehlerInstitute.com  https://www.amazon.com/Stephanie-Buehler/e/B004ANMUHO/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

29 Mai 201849min