#219: How a Fear of Rejection Keeps Us From What We Want Most
On Attachment16 Des 2025

#219: How a Fear of Rejection Keeps Us From What We Want Most

In this episode, we explore why rejection feels so big — not just in dating and relationships, but across friendships, family, work, and creative life. We look at the evolutionary and attachment roots of rejection sensitivity, and how it creates a confirmation bias that makes neutral situations feel personal.

I talk about how the fear of rejection leads us to shrink, stay silent, or hold back from opportunities, creating a self-fulfilling cycle of loneliness and limitation.

We also talk about what rejection resilience looks like in practice: separating facts from stories, reality-checking assumptions, taking small risks, and building an internal sense of worth that can withstand a “no.”

This is a gentle, grounded invitation to stop rejecting yourself first — and to live more fully, even when rejection is a possibility.

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