How Not to Screw Up Your Kids7 Sep 2025

Why Won't My Child Comply?

Do your children refuse to follow boundaries?

Do you think you are never being listened to?

In the first of a two part bucket emptying special, we are going to figure out the tricky issue of setting boundaries and getting our kids to actually respect them!

But here’s a spoiler: you should not feel guilty for setting healthy boundaries. As a parent, it’s your job to be the rulemaker, and your kids won’t always like or understand that. And in this episode I’m going to share 5 of the biggest reasons for non-compliance to help you understand why your child is saying no.

Then, in the next bucket emptying episode, we can explore some of the things you can start doing right away to help you deal with this.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

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Highlights from this episode:

00:48 - Don’t feel guilty about setting boundaries

03:04 - Our kids want some control over their own lives

06:37 - Pushing boundaries is not just a phase; it’s a cycle

10:28 - Is your child capable of doing what you’re asking them to do?

15:40 - Catching them off guard

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