The Comparison Trap: Why We Compare, When to Say Yes, and the 48-Hour Rule

It’s said that comparison is the thief of joy, and there’s truth to this.

Whether it’s your kids thinking their life is so unfair because their friends have phones, or go to parties and they’re not allowed, to you as a parent constantly judging yourself against the other mums and dads at the school gate.

In this episode, I show you how to avoid the dreaded comparison trap. I explain the five step response framework, share some helpful tips to stop you comparing yourself against other parents, and talk through some examples to help you put all of this into practice.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:

00:57 - What are we doing wrong?

04:37 - The five step response framework

08:17 - When to say yes

14:41 - Coping when the answer is no

17:41 - Age appropriate conversations

21:17 - School gate gossip

24:50 - Give yourself 48 hours

27:31 - Talk it through with your tribe

29:26 - Neurodiversity and social media

32:23 - Examples

36:06 - Separation comparison from genuine concern

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