The Real Secret to Achieving Your New Year's Resolutions: Aligning with Your Nervous System

In this episode, Gena delves into the reasons why New Year's resolutions often fail, particularly for IT professionals who are prone to overworking and burnout. She acknowledges that the root of these challenges lies not in a lack of discipline, but in the nervous system and subconscious patterns that drive behaviour. Gena advocates for a shift in approach, suggesting that sustainable change comes from understanding and regulating one's system rather than merely setting goals. KEY TAKEAWAYS Most New Year's resolutions fail not due to a lack of discipline, but because they are based on mindset-only solutions that overlook the underlying nervous system and subconscious drivers of behaviour. IT professionals are particularly vulnerable to resolution failures due to their training in logical problem-solving and high-pressure environments, which condition their nervous systems to prioritise urgency and over-functioning. Lasting change begins with understanding and regulating one's nervous system rather than simply setting goals. It's essential to listen to what the body needs to feel safe enough to change. Instead of ambitious resolutions, implementing small, manageable changes that the body can agree with is more effective. This approach aligns with the principle of not deploying untested code into production. Working with subconscious patterns through coaching and hypnotherapy can help rewire automatic stress responses and create accountability, making change feel natural rather than forced. BEST MOMENTS "Most New Year's resolutions don't fail because you lack discipline. They fail because they are built on the wrong operating system." "Small repetitive changes that your body agrees with will always outperform ambitious resolutions your system resists." "Instead of battling yourself every January, change becomes something your system supports, not something it fights." "Most habits are subconscious... insight alone doesn't change behaviour." "If you're feeling frustrated that past resolutions didn't stick, you weren't weak. You were working with the wrong layer of the system." HOST BIO Gena Frangina, a seasoned software engineer with over a decade of industry experience, is your trusted host on the "IT Stress Relief" Podcast. Her unique background includes a profound passion for psychology, culminating in the attainment of a Business Psychology MSc. Gena's diverse skill set extends to accreditation as a Hypnotherapist, under the tutelage of Paul McKenna and his renowned team, as well as expertise in wellness coaching. This extensive blend of technical acumen and psychological insight positions Gena as an exceptional host in the IT world. She not only understands the intricacies of the field but also excels in guiding IT professionals towards holistic well-being. Tune in to Gena's podcast for enlightening interviews with IT specialists, and gain access to a wealth of knowledge. https://genafrangina.com/podcast/ Calendly.com/gena-frangina https://www.facebook.com/gena.frangina IG: @gena.frangina This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/