117: *26 Practical things* to heal anxious attachment & become securely attached (in 2026)

If you’re still anxiously attached… If you still overthink texts If silence feels like danger If you’re tired of feeling “too much” or not enough

This episode is for YOU.

In this podcast, I share 26 practical, real-life things you can start doing in 2026 to finally heal anxious attachment and become SECURELY ATTACHED not just in love, but in life.

Because this work doesn’t just change your relationships. It changes your ANXIETY, your MENTAL HEALTH, your BODY, your CAREER, your SELF-ESTEEM

I was anxiously attached for 30+ years. And becoming secure changed EVERYTHING for me.

Not just how I love. But how I breathe. How I sleep. How I show up How safe I feel inside myself.

Whether you’re in your 20s, 30s, or 40s — This is some of the most IMPORTANT WORK you’ll ever do.

Because what’s the point of: ➞ money ➞ holidays ➞ birthdays ➞ success ➞ relationships

…if you feel anxious, insecure, and disconnected from yourself inside? 🚩

In this episode, you’ll learn how to: ★ Stop outsourcing your safety to a partner ★ Calm your nervous system (for REAL) ★ Self-soothe instead of spiraling ★ Set boundaries through ACTION, not begging 🚦 ★ Stop overgiving + start receiving 🤍 ★ Sit in discomfort without panicking ★ Heal old wounds instead of reliving them ★ Become your OWN source of security 🔒

This is not theory. This is PRACTICAL. This is DOABLE. This is LIFE-CHANGING. 🦸🏼‍♀️✨

🎧 Grab a pen. 📓 Take notes. 🫂 Be gentle with yourself.

Your younger YOU deserves this. Your future YOU is counting on you. 💎🫶

💌 Want my support? You can reach out via email to check if I currently have 1:1 coaching spots available. I coach via WhatsApp or 1:1 video calls. 🛎✨

Sending you a secure, calm, empowered 2026 Where you STOP proving. STOP shrinking. And START choosing YOU.

Love, Jula

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction to Anxious Attachment and Healing 03:19 00 Delay Caffeine when you wake up 05:09 01 Check if you’re really anxiously attached 06:00 02 Define what “securely attached” means for YOU 10:02 03 Identify your most impactful areas to work on 11:35 04 Shift focus from your partner to YOU 12:57 05 Have a backup plan ready 15:30 06 Learn to self-soothe 18:03 07 Self-soothe through physical touch 19:01 08 Acts of service for yourself 20:04 09 Gifts for yourself 20:57 10 Learn to RECEIVE 22:54 11 Be consistent 23:34 12 Focus on what you can control 24:47 13 Identify core needs vs. anxious rules 26:39 14 Boundaries through action, not words 28:53 15 Reassure yourself first 29:28 16 Stop bullying yourself 30:16 17 Remove triggers & surround yourself with secure energy 31:14 18 Envision your secure self every morning 32:25 19 Name your emotions out loud 33:32 20 Do body scans 35:11 21 Pause before reactive behavior 36:15 22 Identify your real fears 37:55 23 Recognize triggers from your past 39:28 24 Prioritize YOU 40:28 25 Learn to sit in discomfort 41:54 26 Talk to your younger self

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.