Hot or Red Flag: The Truth About Modern Dating (ft. Sex Coach Aimee)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Aimee, sex coach, host of Come Talk With Aimee, to unpack red flags in hookup culture, casual sex boundaries, love bombing, ghosting, emotional unavailability, situationships, sexual compatibility, and how to protect your peace while still having fun.

This episode dives into the blurred lines between “hot” and “toxic,” how to define red flags in early dating, and why casual doesn’t have to mean careless. Alexa and Aimee break down how to navigate casual sex in a way that feels empowering instead of chaotic.

In this episode, we cover:

• How to define a red flag (and why they aren’t always universal)
• The difference between mystery and emotional unavailability
• Why hot-and-cold behavior is a major warning sign
• Love bombing and how to spot it early
• Why ghosting happens (and when it’s acceptable)
• Fear of rejection and craving validation
• How to state your needs without playing games
• Casual sex vs. friends with benefits vs. fuck buddies
• Setting boundaries before sex happens
• How to avoid situationships and why we’re both against them
• Why “casual” doesn’t mean careless
• How to reschedule a date properly from both sides
• Signs someone may be selfish in bed
• Unsolicited nudes and consent in sexting
• Condom jokes & sexual health red flags
• Boundary pushing and subtle manipulation tactics
• Negging disguised as “banter”
• Why talking badly about all your exes is a red flag
• Pussy worship vs. oral as a chore
• Abundance mindset vs. scarcity mindset in dating
• Why you shouldn’t do casual if it creates chaos for you
• Protecting your peace while still enjoying sex

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