389. How to experience healthy love after toxic love

389. How to experience healthy love after toxic love

After toxic love, healthy love can feel surprisingly hard to recognise because you’ve likely learned to expect chaos, inconsistency, and emotional whiplash. In this episode, we unpack what toxic love actually looks like, how it shapes your beliefs about love in your 20s, and why calm, consistent connection can feel suspicious or even ‘boring’ when you’re used to intensity.

We explore:
• What toxic love is and how it intersects with abusive
• How this reshapes trust, pessimism, and your expectations of people
• The role of neurochemistry, addiction, and intermittent reinforcement in toxic bonds
• Self-sabotage and self-esteem
• The role of attachment patterns over time
• What healthy love and conflict actually feel like
• Practical ways to lean into safe love

If you’re conflicted between craving consistency or chaos, this episode is for you.

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390. The psychology of serial monogamy & relationship hopping

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388. The psychology of fashion & personal style

388. The psychology of fashion & personal style

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386. 26 lessons I've learnt in 26 years

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19 Feb 48min

385. The best psychology hacks for studying

385. The best psychology hacks for studying

Want to study smarter, not longer? Today, we're finally breaking down my psychology-backed guide to becoming the academic weapon you always dreamed of being. I’m sharing the exact study hacks I used t...

16 Feb 33min

384. How to stop taking things so personally

384. How to stop taking things so personally

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12 Feb 33min

383. The psychology of intrusive thoughts

383. The psychology of intrusive thoughts

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