Q&A: I’ve Been Working on Myself, So Why Am I Still Insecure?

Q&A: I’ve Been Working on Myself, So Why Am I Still Insecure?

Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try, your self-esteem just won’t stick? One day you feel confident, the next day, one comment or mistake makes you shrink back into doubt. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.

In this episode, I talked about why rebuilding self-esteem is harder than it seems. We talk about:

  • Why mental and emotional growth doesn’t follow a straight line
  • How old patterns, childhood experiences, and perfectionism can keep you stuck
  • Why falling back into insecurity doesn’t mean you’re failing
  • and more


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