flop eras, shrek-gate, ego death, supporting women's rights & wrongs

recording of a tiktok/youtube live on 24.02.2026 !

video version: https://youtu.be/xIduRHUSvUM

00:00 - recent obsessions

02:00 - being a woman in corporate

07:15 - dealing with insecure/intimidated women

08:03 - navigating a flop era

10:22 - current fave beauty products

11:56 - not taking things personally/detachment

14:56 - talking stages

15:45 - freelancing

17:26 - somatic exercises

17:51 - comparing yourself on social media

18:53 - draining family members

19:51 - guy not following up on dates

20:06 - being consistent with hobbies

21:35 - financial flop era

22:31 - getting new hobbies

23:01 - putting pressure on yourself

24:06 - pivoting from corporate

25:20 - visiting perth

27:50 - making friends

31:24 - asmr & vlogging

36:00 - shrek gate

46:25 - the emotional spiral, win-win relationships, navigating spaces as a minority

48:13 - women being held to higher moral standards than men

48:40 - identifying problems vs creating solutions

50:30 - misidentifying issues

52:55 - dating when you’re young

54:00 - ramadan in shanghai

56:26 - when to start dating again

57:27 - gender imbalance in china

58:30 - ego death??? re-constructing your identity

1:00:00 - gender binary and performance of gender in china

1:02:00 - reading

1:03:00 - pole schedule

1:04:00 - post-shrek gate

1:09:00 - provider men, going 50/50

1:13:00 - women benefitting from patriarchy, being hot & having fun, living life to your full potential

1:16:00 - analysis paralysis, learning from failure

1:17:00 - men and red pill

1:17:20 - the tragedy of heterosexuality by jane ward

1:19:58 - passive aggressive behaviour

1:20:16 - gay relationship dynamics

1:22:20 - smear campaigns, sh*t talking

1:24:20 - don’t confront passive agressive behaviour

1:27:18 - i support women’s rights and wrongs

1:29:00 - women defending shrek

1:35:00 - marginisation in the dominant group

1:37:15 - the illusion of binary options

1:39:26 - loser mindset with winner entitlement

1:41:45 - media literacy

1:42:30 - de-centering men, pick-mes, male-centered men

1:44:35 - beyond right and wrong

1:45:00 - live by example

1:47:07 - cognitive offloading

1:47:27 - how to make the most authentic decision for you

1:48:35 - men aren’t riding for female characters

1:49:00 - boundaries around social media