Relationship Renovation: Why Couples Get Stuck & How They Find Their Way Back16 Mar 2021

22 - Embodied Healing - How Trauma Effects Relationships

Tarah and EJ interview Robin Memel Fox MA, BC-DMT, LPC, Board-certified Dance/Movement Therapist with over 25 years of experience working in the field of mental health and wellness. Robin has worked with individuals, couples, families and children in both community mental health and treatment centers. She has extensive expertise in trauma, relationships, addiction and couples/family systems.

This episode explores trauma and its effects on individuals and couples. They define trauma, explore treatment options and help couples learn how trauma can create challenges in self-regulation and conflict resolution. The concept of Embodied Healing is explored, which can help couples become more in tune with themselves in order to feel more connected with their partner.

https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/ptsd-and-relationships/

https://coloradorecoveryservices.org/the-impact-of-unresolved-trauma-on-relationships/

https://drarielleschwartz.com/the-polyvagal-theory-and-healing-complex-ptsd-dr-arielle-schwartz/

https://adta.memberclicks.net/what-is-dancemovement-therapy

https://brickelandassociates.com/trauma-survivor-relationships/

Info on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Post Childhood Experiences (PCEs)

https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/aces-and-toxic-stress-frequently-asked-questions/

https://lindsaybraman.com/positive-childhood-experiences-aces/

EMDR:

https://maibergerinstitute.com/emdr-therapy-tools-resources/

https://www.emdria.org/

https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/

Books on understanding trauma and healing (not exhaustive list):

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists by Janina Fisher
The Complex PTSD Workbook by Arielle Schwartz, PhD
The Post-traumatic Growth Workbook by Arielle Schwartz, PhD
Healing Developmental Trauma, How early trauma affects self-regulation, self-image, and the capacity for relationship by Laurence Heller, PhD and Aline LaPierre, PsyD

Additional resources:

Denne episoden er hentet fra en åpen RSS-feed og er ikke publisert av Podme. Den kan derfor inneholde annonser.

Episoder(294)

When Initiating Sex Starts Feeling Like Pressure

What happens when reaching for your partner no longer feels safe?There was a period in our marriage when EJ stopped initiating sex completely.It wasn't punishment. It wasn't giving up. We made the dec...

21 Aug 27min

You Don’t Need a Date Night to Feel Connected

What if staying connected didn’t require another thing on your calendar?For busy couples, “date night” can start to feel like one more responsibility—find a babysitter, make a reservation, figure out ...

14 Aug 14min

The Resentment Wall: Why We Keep Pushing Each Other Away

What if resentment isn't the problem... but a form of protection?Most couples think resentment appears overnight. In reality, it forms one small hurt at a time—like adding another brick to a wall. At ...

7 Aug 29min

The Courtroom Trap: Why Healthy Conversations Shouldn't Feel Like a Trial

Have you ever tried explaining yourself, only to hear your partner say, "You're being defensive"?It happens in almost every relationship. One partner feels misunderstood. The other feels unheard. Befo...

31 Jul 19min

Why Small Arguments Become Big Fights: The Trigger Transfer Trap

Have you ever found yourself in a heated argument with your partner and thought, "How did we get here so fast?"In this episode, EJ and Tarah unpack a real-life moment from their own marriage that star...

24 Jul 21min

Are You Loving Your Partner... Or Trying To Change Them?

When your partner is struggling, what do you do?Do you try to comfort them?Fix them?Pull them out of it?Or... are you actually trying to change their emotional state because their discomfort is making...

17 Jul 27min

Why Everything Feels Like Your Responsibility (The Hidden Belief That Was Quietly Running My Life)

Have you ever felt like you're carrying everything?Your family's emotions.Your marriage.Your business.Your finances.Your future.For years, EJ believed it was his job to hold everything together. The r...

10 Jul 28min

Why We Miss Each Other When We Need Each Other Most (And How to Repair)

Two nights ago, we completely missed each other.It started with something ridiculously small—a late-night plate of food for our kids—but underneath it were exhaustion, old wounds, nervous systems in s...

3 Jul 26min