54 - When Resentment Flares - Understanding and navigating through resentment in your relationship

54 - When Resentment Flares - Understanding and navigating through resentment in your relationship

Throughout an intimate relationship, couples face challenging times. Many of the burdens you face as a couple, result from difficult times, external stress, and how you and your partner cope. Oftentimes, the stress you face is a direct result of your partner's choices and how they succeed and fail to adapt to the ups and downs of life. Resentment is the uncomfortable emotion that individuals in a committed relationship feel when they blame their partner for the emotional discomfort they are feeling. Resentment is a result of pulling apart in challenging moments and beginning to feel alone and unsupported at a time when you would like to feel deeply connected and united in the face of adversity.

In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss how resentment develops within a relationship and what happens when couples struggle to communicate this complicated emotion. They share their experience as therapists and a couple and share their insight into how couples may avoid falling into patterns of frustration and loneliness and instead stay emotionally present and intimately connected during difficult times.

Episode Transcript

Learn more about all the ways Tarah and EJ support couples in having the best relationship possible!

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