How to Find Love in 2026

How to Find Love in 2026

Today’s topic: love. Forget Valentine’s Day—where romance only happens once a year. Try my new book, The Meaning of Your Life, out March 31, where I describe how to make love lifelong.

Many people today feel discouraged about love. Fewer people are getting married, fewer are falling in love, and more are opting out of romance altogether. This isn’t just a personal problem—it’s a cultural one.

In this episode of Office Hours, I explore what’s happening to romantic love and why it matters so deeply to our sense of meaning in life. Drawing on neuroscience, psychology, and ancient wisdom, I examine what love actually is, what happens when we fall in love, and why heartbreak is often a necessary part of learning to love well. I also share three practical rules for finding love in a time when many people are afraid to risk it at all.

This episode isn’t about dating advice or quick fixes. It’s about understanding love as one of the most powerful paths to meaning, growth, and a life well lived, even when it doesn’t come easily.

Where to find Arthur Brooks:

• Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://arthurbrooks.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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• Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠officehours@arthurbrooks.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(03:34) Arthur and Ester’s love story

(06:44) Why entrepreneurial love stories are dwindling

(07:44) Data on the decline in love, marriage, and sex

(11:10) What happens when you’re falling in love

(23:37) Why relationships don’t work out

(26:42) The mystical side of romantic love

(30:40) What love is and why the English language falls short of explaining it

(35:10) Love lessons from the Greeks

(40:25) Rule 1: Take more risks

(48:01) Rule 2: Look for your complement

(52:02) Rule 3: Don’t fear the breakup

(55:52) Q&A: Are there different types of decision-makers

(57:10) Q&A: The effects of cold plunges

Referenced:

• The Meaning of Your Life: Finding Purpose in an Age of Emptiness: https://www.amazon.com/Meaning-Your-Life-Finding-Emptiness/dp/0593545427

• The Happiness Scale: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/the-happiness-scale

•Understanding the Science of Love: A Practical Guide: https://learn.arthurbrooks.com/love

• Don Quixote: https://www.amazon.com/Quixote-Penguin-Classics-Cervantes-Saavedra/dp/0142437239

• Oxytocin: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/22618-oxytocin

• Vasopressin: https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/neuroscience/vasopressin

• The sociopaths among us: How to spot (and avoid) a Dark Triad: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/podcast/the-sociopaths-among-us-how-to-spot-and-avoid-a-dark-triad

• Emophilia: An overlooked (but not forgotten) construct in relationships and individual differences: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886924000114

• 3 Steps to Managing Your Emotions: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/podcast/3-steps-to-managing-your-emotions

• ...References continued at: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.arthurbrooks.com/office-hours⁠

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