the first pillar of self-esteem: the practice of living consciously

this week’s video is a deeper dive into the first pillar of self-esteem - the practice of living consciously!

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The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden

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01:44 - the first pillar of self-esteem

04:42 - bringing awareness to our internal world

07:32 - the practice of living consciously

08:55 - radical self-acceptance for the human condition

09:13 - you are the creator

09:38 - being responsible towards reality

10:23 - self-esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves

10:40 - your opinion of yourself is more important than other people’s opinion of you

11:45 - living consciously to overcome cringe

12:25 - dealing with shame around envy and judgement

12:43 - acting on what one sees and knows

13:14 - creating mental space for your own unhingedness

14:11 - being in the state appropriate to what you are doing

14:57 - your purposes and values dictate the standard of selection

16:00 - living responsibly towards reality

16:10 - wishes, fears and denials do not alter facts

17:57 - using your feelings to point to important facts rather than confusing feelings with facts

18:19 - changing your relationship with your emotions

19:04 - jealousy in friendships case study

20:47 - alchemising jealousy into inspiration

21:32 - what you perceive, what you interpret it to mean, how you feel about it

23:41 - fear and pain being treated as signals

23:51 - the earnest intention to be conscious

23:54 - adjusting your actions to your goals

24:18 - my first loyalty is to truth, not to making myself right

24:24 - a lifelong commitment to learning

24:38 - the willingness to create win-win relationships

25:37 - a desire to understand our full context

26:58 - internal and external awareness are two different skill sets

28:34 - when you reach an impasse and need a guide

30:12 - who is defining “being hot & having fun” in your life?

30:48 - do i know what i’m doing when i like myself vs when i don’t?

31:06 - give yourself the opportunity to notice

32:33 - i have to think that the practice is worthwhile

34:59 - which actions are producing desired results and which aren’t?

35:32 - notice what’s exciting vs what’s draining

36:23 - accept that other people’s interpretation of reality could be different to yours

37:22 - your values come from your experience, you can mistakenly draw irrational conclusions from your experience

38:54 - sidenote on addictions

40:48 - consciousness and the body

41:42 - train yourself to notice your thoughts

41:12 - freeing the body contributes to freeing the mind

44:22 - an orientation towards life that exists on a continuum

45:24 - looking to where pain and frustrations are

46:13 - garden analogy