Ep. 80: Stop Defending Your Goals - You Owe Zero Explanations

Comin' in HOT with another episode!

This one is something we've all done, or at least felt the need to do at some point. And that's defending our goals. Justifying why we're chasing something. We choose a healthier entree at dinner.. we tell our friends we aren't going out tonight.. we focus on getting some work done instead of going to a social event.. And what happens? Push back. "Come on man. It's just one night." or "You work too much." Or "You need to loosen up and come have a good time."

Here's the thing guys - If people won't support you doing something to better yourself, then they don't really want the best for you. If you have people telling you any of these things, the real matter is that they feel guilty for not doing better for themselves. It may not necessarily be that they want you to be worse, it's more so that they just don't want to be better themselves. They can't stand the thought of getting passed up. When someone pressures you to do something unhealthy or tries to talk you out of chasing a dream, the truth of the matter is that they know they aren't going to put in the same work, so they want to bring you down with them. Crabs in a bucket. They don't want you to level up because then they would feel like they have to level up. They aren't willing to do the work you're willing to do, so instead of doing better themselves, they try to keep you down on their level.

People like this are dangerous because they come off as caring. They say things to make you second guess yourself ONLY because they don't want to feel less than. And that's what we HAVE to understand. If you're getting push back - GOOD! It means you're doing something right and people know your potential! They're ok with being mediocre. But YOU AREN'T! Stand your ground. Stop defending yourself. Why do we feel like we need to explain ourselves when we're simply just trying to be better?

You don't owe any explanations to anyone. That doesn't mean we're telling you to be an asshole. You can still respond, but there is no need to go into detail and try to defend yourself. If they don't get it, they don't get it. That's ok. Do your thing and expect support from NO ONE. The quicker you understand that, the quicker you'll be able to accomplish whatever it is you've set out to accomplish.

Hope y'all get some value out of the episode! Catch ya next time!