It’s Not Conflict That Ends Relationships, It’s Lack of Repair

Conflict isn’t the problem in relationships — it’s the hurt we cause and the lack of repair that slowly breaks them. In this first episode of our 3-part Repair Mini-Series, we’re breaking down why repair is the most important skill every couple needs.

You’ll learn:

Why avoiding conflict actually makes relationships more fragile
How healthy couples actually have more conflict (and why that’s a good thing)
The natural rhythm of all relationships: harmony, disharmony, and repair
The powerful lesson from Ed Tronick’s Still Face Experiment
Four game-changing beliefs that will shift how you see conflict forever
Why repair starts with YOU (even when your partner is dysregulated)

Featuring insights from Dr. John Gottman and Ed Tronick, this episode will completely reframe the way you think about arguments in your relationship.

If you’ve ever wondered why some couples bounce back from conflict stronger while others slowly drift apart, this episode is for you.

🔥 Next week: Repair Attempts – How to do them well

🔥 Week after: Meaningful Apologies & Forgiveness

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