Foreplay (Get into Bed with Jay-Jay & Mel)

Foreplay (Get into Bed with Jay-Jay & Mel)

Welcome to How To Have Sex ... the podcast giving everyday New Zealanders the practical tools to have better, more confident, more satisfying sex lives.

Before we get into the good stuff, we're starting where all great sex starts: foreplay. This episode is your introduction to hosts Jay-Jay Feeney - veteran NZ broadcaster, podcaster, and self-confessed awkward sex-talker, and Melissa Vranjes, certified holistic sex and relationship coach, somatic therapist, and founder of Sex School.

We get into bed (literally), share how this podcast came to be, and start pulling back the covers on everything from the orgasm gap and sexual confidence, to why most of us learned about sex from porn, and why that's a problem.

No shame. No judgment. Just two women in bed having the conversations everyone's secretly Googling.


For adults 18+. Headphones recommended.

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This podcast was produced at PodLab Studios, Auckland https://www.podlab.co.nz/

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HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney


Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes


Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.


We launched our podcast on 25 March 2026 and had a party to celebrate.

We would like to thank our incredible Day One supporters who kindly donated toward our party, and goodie bags.


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Episoder(17)

How To Get Better at Foreplay

How To Get Better at Foreplay

Foreplay. Everyone's heard of it. Not everyone's doing it right.In this episode, Jay-Jay and Mel break down what foreplay actually is (spoiler: not just a quick neck kiss and a rub before getting to t...

30 Jun 46min

How To Spice It Up In Long-Term Relationships

How To Spice It Up In Long-Term Relationships

Ever caught yourself calling your partner "babe" right before asking them to take the bins out, and that was basically the most romantic thing that happened all week? Yeah. This one's for you.This wee...

23 Jun 51min

How To Bring Your Fantasies To Life

How To Bring Your Fantasies To Life

Turns out almost everyone has a fantasy they've never told a single soul. This week Jay-Jay and sex & relationship coach Mel Vranjes get into sexual fantasies; what's actually going on underneath them...

16 Jun 46min

How To Initiate Sex

How To Initiate Sex

Ever wanted to make the first move and just… froze? Initiating is one of the most vulnerable things we do, and almost nobody talks about how hard it is.This week Jay-Jay Feeney and somatic sex and rel...

9 Jun 37min

How to Explore Beginner-Friendly BDSM

How to Explore Beginner-Friendly BDSM

BDSM. Two seconds after hearing that word, most people picture whips, chains, leather, and some kind of expensive basement situation. (Just me? Okay, just me.)This week, certified somatic sex and rela...

2 Jun 46min

How To Keep Porn From Replacing Intimacy

How To Keep Porn From Replacing Intimacy

Porn. We're going there. Whether you watch it, your partner watches it, or you've never really thought about it, this episode is the honest, shame-free conversation you didn't know you needed.Jay-Jay ...

26 Mai 44min

How To Actually Get Your Needs Met In Bed  (Without Killing The Mood)

How To Actually Get Your Needs Met In Bed (Without Killing The Mood)

Asking for what you want in bed might be the scariest thing you never do. Scarier than being naked. Scarier than asking for a pay rise. And for a lot of us, we'd rather go along with it, fake it, or h...

19 Mai 45min

How to Self-Pleasure (and Why it Will Change Your Partnered Sex Life)

How to Self-Pleasure (and Why it Will Change Your Partnered Sex Life)

Did you know your solo sex life is literally the foundation of your partnered sex life?In this episode, Jay-Jay finally figures out why this topic makes her want to crawl under the duvet and never com...

12 Mai 52min

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