How to Enhance Your Sex Life with Erotic Activities

This might be our most hilarious episode yet.

In this episode of How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex & relationship coach Melissa Vranjes set out to talk about erotic activities, erotic energy, and how to bring more play, anticipation and aliveness into your sex life… and somewhere along the way, things descend into absolute chaos. There are tears. There is wheezing. There is a completely unhinged detour into animal play that nearly takes both hosts out.

But underneath the laughter, there’s actually a really juicy conversation here. Mel explains that the erotic isn’t just about sex toys, lingerie, or trying to become some mysterious version of yourself. It’s about vitality, curiosity, self-expression, play, and creating moments that feel alive, exciting and connected.

Together, JJ and Mel unpack how to break out of routine, why anticipation matters so much, and how to start exploring erotic activities in ways that feel fun rather than intimidating. This episode is full of ideas you can actually try, whether you’re a total beginner or ready to step a little further outside the box.

In this episode:

• what the erotic actually means
• why routine can flatten desire
• how to bring more play and curiosity into your sex life
• beginner-friendly erotic activities
• more adventurous ideas for couples who want to mix things up
• why sex does not have to be perfect or serious to be hot
• and why laughing together might be one of the sexiest things of all

You’ll hear ideas like:

• showering together with low lights
• pleasure mapping each other’s bodies
• sensory play with touch, temperature and massage oil
• reading erotica to each other
• feeding each other slowly and teasingly
• erotic massage
• undressing each other with intention
• and yes… the now-infamous animal play conversation that sends everyone off the rails.

Pleasure Practice: choose an inside-the-box or outside-the-box erotic activity and give it a go.

Next episode: How to Have Earth-Shattering Orgasms.

This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

Shop online at www.wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide…

Pleasure Delivered.

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HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

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Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes

Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

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