How to Butt Play (Without Making it Weird or Scary)

Anal play. Butt stuff. The backdoor. Whatever you call it, more people are curious than will ever admit it. So this week, Jay-Jay and Mel are going there. Literally.

Certified sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes joins a very nervous, very clenching Jay-Jay Feeney to unpack everything about anal and butt play, for all bodies and all genders. From the biology, to the beginner steps, to the stuff nobody talks about.

In this episode:

Why butt play is so taboo (and why that's changing)
The male G-spot (yes, the prostate) and why most men have no idea what they're missing
How women can experience orgasms from anal stimulation
The difference between external and penetrative play (you do NOT have to go all in to enjoy it)
Mel's three beginner techniques: The Doorbell, The Credit Card, and Circles
How to prepare properly, and why porn has got it dangerously wrong
The importance of lube, going slow, and communication
What NOT to do (don't cross-contaminate, don't use spit, and absolutely never surprise someone mid-sex)
How to bring it up with a partner without making it weird
Recovering from a bad experience
This week's Pleasure Practice (JJ's reaction is priceless)

Curious but nervous? That's exactly who this episode is for.

This episode is sponsored by Wild Secrets. NZ's premium pleasure destination. Use code HAVESEX for 20% off. Pleasure delivered. wildsecrets.co.nz

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HOSTS:

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Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

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Instagram: @melissavranjes

Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

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